Gayngst



""I didn't want you to know. I knew you would reject such inappropriate love. I knew it too...""

- Shizuru to Natsuki, Mai Hime

Despite the traditional meaning of the word "gay," homosexual characters tend to be a miserable lot, and not by simple coincidence - their misery can be attributed largely to their sexuality or, more accurately, other people's attitudes towards it. In short, they don't just have angst, they have gayngst.

Characters suffering from Gayngst are prone to alcoholism and other forms of substance abuse, self-loathing, rampant homophobia towards themselves and others, falling in tragic unrequited love with heterosexuals, contemplating (and often committing) suicide, and wishing that they were straight.

Gayngst is a Pet Peeve Trope of many due to the fact that while it usually portrays gay people sympathetically and addresses an issue many gay people in Real Life go through, it can be interpreted as saying that it's impossible to be gay without being miserable, or that gay people don't deserve Happy Endings, or at its very worst and most ineptly-handled, homosexual relationships are innately disastrous. However, Gayngst is still unfortunately common in real life. After all, True Art Is Angsty transcends sexual orientation.

If the story wants an uplifting tone, the character will eventually come to terms with their sexuality, have the obligatory Coming Out Story, and either live Happily Ever After with their love interest, or morph into some other gay archetype (usually Straight Gay or Lipstick Lesbian; either this is their natural personality or they still have some lingering insecurity).

Gayngst is often found in the Boys Love and Girls Love works for obvious reasons.

Not to be confused with the Gayngster, although some Gayngsters probably have their share of Gayngst. Clumsy examples of Gayngst often dive headfirst into Wangst territory. Sister Trope of Bury Your Gays, which it frequently overlaps with. Depending on how it's played, it can be a Sub Trope of Boomerang Bigot and/or Super Trope of Incompatible Orientation. Note that this doesn't come up quite as often in works with a Cast Full of Gay. Opposite of Queer People Are Funny

Anime and Manga

 * Girl Friends in particular loves this trope.
 * Kashimashi Girl Meets Girl leans toward this in the beginning, but soon changes gears into a rather straightforward Love Triangle, despite all participants being girls. Also notable is the signs of transgender angst with Hazumu in episode/volume one before the Gender Bender as well as in flashbacks.
 * The First Love Sisters manga averts this and has all girls accept their feelings for another girl as something fairly normal, with the focus on the romantic entanglements themselves.
 * In Sasameki Koto this is largely averted at first, since most girls seem to have no problems with their feelings for someone their own gender. Sure, Sumika is angsting heavily over her crush on her best friend Ushio, but that is because Ushio prefers cuter girls--and Sumika does not consider herself to be cute in the least.
 * Later on the largest amount of Gayngst surprisingly comes from.
 * In the No Bra manga, Masato is constantly torturing himself over his awakening feelings for his childhood friend, Yuki. The fact that Yuki looks and acts like a cute girl and is obviously in love with Masato makes matters even more complicated..
 * Seems like characters named Shiori usually bring the gayngst along with them:
 * Sei and Shiori's relationship in Maria-sama ga Miteru has some elements of this. Of course, falling in love with someone who wants to become a nun is always asking for trouble.
 * In the manga Hanjuku Joshi, closeted lesbian Ran harbours a deep unrequited love for her best friend Shiori, who is happily oblivious to the other woman's pining and desire for her.
 * Shiori in Revolutionary Girl Utena is the best fremeny of Juri, who is a closeted lesbian and has been in love with her since they were young. Whether or not Shiori is aware of this just adds to Juri's misery. (Of course, it gets worse in the movie ... )
 * There's a Shiori in Octave as well who goes through two rounds of gayngst: the first with  and the second with , to whom she offers a muddled confession mixed with love and lust, and is met with rejection.
 * In the manga this seems to be mostly averted at first, until the chapter in which Yukino visits her parents and decides to bring her girlfriend Setsuko along.
 * Aoi Hana: Poor Fumi, . She begs Akira not think of her as disgusting after she first comes out (confessing that she's dating another girl), and brings this up again after at the end of volume 4. Ramped up considerably starting about the end of volume 3.
 * Most of the time Shuichi from Gravitation is comfortable with being in love with another guy. Occasionally though, he really gets hit hard with Gayngst and worries quite a bit that his relationship with Yuki is doomed because they're both male.
 * In Mahou Sensei Negima, Setsuna's angst is less about the fact that she is quite thoroughly gay for Konoka, than that she thinks herself of the wrong social class for Ojou-sama, and that she feels unworthy of her.  might help her feel better about her Bodyguard Crush.
 * In Mai-HiME, this is played for brutal effect with, whose facade slowly starts to crack late in the series, starting with abandoning her duties to protect Natsuki (whose powers are temporarily unusable) from Nao, then a stolen kiss in her love's sleep, and culminating with going full-blown Psycho Lesbian when her feelings are rejected. Natsuki's final declaration that even if she doesn't feel the way Shizuru hoped she would, she is happy that Shizuru loved her and also loves her in her own way, helps restore her sanity, though.
 * In Finder Series, Akihito angsts for a while after being raped by Asami and (maybe) enjoying it.
 * Wandering Son has a fair share of trangst. The gay Makoto hasn't gotten any angst, though the two transgendered protagonists have gotten plenty. Nitori gets the most, as a feminine boy is not nearly as accepted as a tomboyish girl.
 * When the boys in Let Dai stop trying to kill each other and start dating, the whole world seems to be against them. This trope follows.
 * The protagonist of Houou Gakuen Misoragumi has some of this at the beginning, mostly related to the fact girls date her because she looks like a boy.. But they aren't lesbian, and are Squicked out when she does anything remotely sexual.
 * Prism has Hikaru depreciating herself over her crush on Megu in chapter 2.
 * In Boys Love Genre FAKE, much of the Unresolved Sexual Tension and Will They or Won't They? derives from Ryo having trouble accepting his attraction to his very forward partner Dee.
 * Misaki and Kawabata in Hana no Mizo Shiru. Misaki wonders why he can't be attracted to women instead of men at the end of Chapter 8, and why, if he's going to fall for men, he was born a man himself. Losing Kawabata and, in his mind, Arikawa to women really hurt him (what he doesn't realize is that Arikawa already broke up his girlfriend in Chapter 5). Then there's Kawabata, who left Misaki and got a girlfriend because he knew a relationship with an underaged boy was not socially acceptable.

Comics

 * Karolina Dean of Marvel's Runaways has a crush on her straight best friend Nico, made out with a guy she'd just met because she wanted to feel "normal", and tried to commit suicide by proxy. However, the fact that she's an alien and that her parents are supervillains probably adds to her angst.
 * This is a frequent and longstanding part of Renee Montoya's character, starting from when she was first outed in Gotham Central. A police officer, Renee already had extensive personal issues due to being an honest hispanic woman in a primarily male, primarily white, completely corrupt police department. When Two-Face outed her to friends and family her captain, Maggie Sawyer (an open lesbian), attempted to help her deal with the issues that arise in this situation. Unfortunately, as Renee rather vehemently points out, their situations are nothing alike, as Maggie did not already have racial and gender baggage to deal with, and she was from Metropolis, not Gotham, and the differences between the two societies run deeper than just the different operating hours of their heroes. Combined with other factors, (including the normal drama and angst that comes with being a police officer) Renee eventually descends into alcoholism and serious contemplations of suicide while she bounces from one-night-stand to one-night-stand. She gets better, eventually, but some comics have her relationships plagued with conflict and drama.
 * Renee's ex-girlfriend Katherine "Kate" Kane (a.k.a. Batwoman) had her own issues. The daughter of two career soldiers, when her mother and twin-sister were killed during her childhood kidnapping Kate's sole dream was to follow in her parents' foot-steps in the army and somehow make a difference. Accepted to the Military Academy at West Point, Kate actually became Cadet Captain and, in the estimation of her instructors, would go on to become a high-ranking, well-respected officer once she graduated...until rumors regarding her sexuality began to circulate around the campus. Army regulations require the discharge of any solider confirmed to be homosexual, and Kate's refusal to lie about herself resulted in her being "separated" from the army, ending the only dream she has had since she was ten years old. It is only once she sees Batman after a hapless individual attempts to steal her wallet that she sets a new goal for herself, and even then she still needs to deal with the criticism and rejection of her "family" and "friends" (pretty much everyone but her dad) from high-society.
 * Watchmen has several minor gay characters, none of whom get happy endings.
 * A minor subplot near the end of the newsstand owner's side story involves a lesbian couple at odds with one another, and is a huge example of gayngst AND spousal abuse. Fun. It ends with several prevalent minor characters trying to intervene in said abuse, including a police officer trying to catch Nite Owl and Rorschach's now former prison psychiatrist..
 * And then there's the Silhouette, who was kicked out of the Minutemen upon being outed, and Hooded Justice and Captain Metropolis, who are strongly implied to have been secretly lovers. All three are dead or missing before the story begins.
 * Ozymandias is speculated to be gay by a few characters, and there are hints backing this up in the film version. While he doesn't seem particularly angst-filled, we learn later on that he's at least unhappy enough to be
 * Jack Chick's discontinued tract Wounded Children, fit this to a T (although it is also full of Narm), because of his views of homosexuality Chick's tracts on the subject had the message "There is nothing gay about being gay" before shifting to "Those who support or tolerate homosexuality are evil".
 * An issue of Zot deals with Jenny's best friend Terry and her gradual realization that she's homosexual, engaging with this trope in the process -- in particular, Terry at one point tearfully pleads with Zot to know whether, in his Utopian superheroic 'world of the future!', she would be considered 'normal'.
 * Billy Kaplan, aka Wiccan of the Young Avengers, used to get bullied at school for being gay. Other than that, he and his boyfriend, Hulkling, avert this trope. None of their teammates seem to be fazed by their relationship, and Billy's parents are positively thrilled with it.
 * Teddy had his own issues, with his own shapeshifting powers tying into a need to be like "the other guys" and a crush on a jock who mainly used him for his own needs.

Fan Fiction

 * A Butterfly Effect features quite a bit of this, though it is repeatedly hinted that it will end well.
 * Slash Fic loves this trope, even if it's for a fandom taking place in a world where sexuality isn't even an issue.
 * If not canon, Sasuke is often portrayed as having this, especially while being bashed. Sas"uke" and Sasugay being two of the names often used to bash him.
 * Actually inverted in the My Little Pony Friendship Is Magic fanfic "The Combinatorics Project", which was built around the idea of writing chapters in which each mane character is shipped exactly once with each other mane character. In chapter 3, Rainbow Dash angsts quite a bit about being straight. (This is the only universe presented in the fic in which this is the case, .) "The Combinatorics Project" notwithstanding, it's played straight more often than not in pony shipfic, usually in the form of Dash being unwilling to go with the presented 'ship at first due to traumatic experiences involving flight school bullies.

Film

 * Paul Korner (played by Conrad Veidt) from Different From The Others is likely the cinematic Ur Example.
 * Brokeback Mountain is by far the most famous example of this trope from recent years.
 * from American Beauty is particularly disturbing example of a self-loathing closet case.
 * The 1961 Dirk Bogarde film Victim is positively overflowing with Gayngst.
 * Gayngst would account for much of Kirill's issues in Eastern Promises, along with being the son of a crime boss. He's a vicious, pitiful, self-loathing drunk, and very attached to Nikolai.
 * The 90s gave us two British films about teenage boys coming to terms with their homosexuality: Get Real and Beautiful Thing.
 * Also Wild Tigers I Have Known, which is notable for making its Gayngst completely surreal.
 * Before Get Real and Beautiful Thing there was Two of Us.
 * In Across the Universe, Prudence experiences this throughout the movie (the cover of "I Want To Hold Your Hand" practically screams this trope). In fact, she goes as far as to cover it up by getting herself a boyfriend who beats her, which then intertwines her into the lives of the other main characters.
 * Arthur Stuart (Christian Bale's character) in Velvet Goldmine goes through a lot of this.
 * Lampshaded in As Good As It Gets, when straight Melvin (Jack Nicholson) asks gay Simon (Greg Kinnear) after all the horrible things that have happened to him if he thinks his life would have been easier if he were straight, which causes Simon to ask back: "Do you consider your life easy?"
 * Father Greg (Linus Roache) in the controversial Priest has this in spades.
 * Bent was about a gay man posing as a Jewish man learning to come out of the closet while in a concentration camp.
 * In Les roseaux sauvages (Wild Reeds), set in 1962, a 17-year-old boy realizing he's gay says "It's like a curse. I don't know why I'm landed with it." His female best friend tells him that a shoe salesman they know is living happily with his boyfriend.
 * In Ma Vie En Rose, a 7-year-old gender variant boy with a crush on another boy is misunderstood at every turn, tries to butch it up, fails, feels miserable and attempts suicide.
 * In Trevor, a 13-year-old boy realizes he's gay, loses the friend he's in love with, is given The Talk by a priest at the request of his parents, is shunned by his schoolmates and tries to kill himself.

Literature
"But don't worry. This isn't one of those angst-filled books where I'm struggling to come to terms with what it all means. I've long since accepted it. I'm gay. I'm over it. There will be no endless, teary-eyed, internal dialogues. No tormented, sleepless nights. I am 100 percent at ease with who I am."
 * Stephen Gordon, the heroine of Radclyffe Hall's The Well Of Loneliness.
 * Andrew Holleran's novel Dancer From The Dance.
 * Robin from the Troubleshooters series goes through some of this as he realizes he's a Straight Gay, particularly the substance abuse. He gets better.
 * In Sarah Waters's novel Tipping the Velvet, Kitty Butler suffers from this. Notably averted with most of Waters's other heroines, who deal with their lesbianism surprisingly well, given that most of them are Victorian women.
 * It is heavily implied that this is the reason why Brideshead Revisited's Catholic, aristocratic, and eventually alcoholic Sebastian Flyte is made so miserable by his family, particularly his manipulative and extremely devout mother.
 * Aw come on, lotsa straight adult men carry a teddy bear--named Aloysius!--around with them, everywhere.
 * The recent film adaption said "Screw Ambiguity!"
 * Damien from The House of Night series has a bit of this. His father didn't react at all well to him being gay. What's strange is that at first he seems to be the only gay vampyre, aside from a couple of lesbians.
 * Averting this is half the point of Annie On My Mind, which ends well.
 * Boy Meets Boy by David Levithan is set in a Quirky Town with a prominent LGBT community and a remarkably open-minded straight community. Most of the characters avert this trope completely. However, the main character's best friend and ex-boyfriend provide straightforward examples. The former is justified in that his extremely religious parents don't accept his sexuality.
 * In Hero by Perry Moore, the protagonist has two big secrets: he's gay and he has super powers. Guess which one he angsts about more?
 * Averted, subverted, and played straight by various characters throughout the DRAMA! series by Paul Ruditis. The main character, Bryan, insists that his sexual orientation is no big deal. He even hangs a lampshade on this:


 * It's debatable whether Bryan is really as well-adjusted as he pretends to be. Meanwhile, his extremely flamboyant acquaintance, Marq, is out and proud despite having once been the victim of a gay bashing.
 * Exploring Gayngst in-depth and eventually overcoming it is arguably the whole point of E.M. Forster's Maurice.
 * Word of God says this may be the cause behind the entire plot of Fight Club.
 * James Baldwin's Giovanni's Room.
 * Funny Boy has some of this, naturally given that it stars a gay adolescent.
 * The Last Herald-Mage trilogy by Mercedes Lackey. Full stop.
 * According to Word of God, Dumbledore from Harry Potter is gay and his rather bad experience with his friend Gellert Grindelwald was actually something of a romance, on Dumbledore's part anyway (it's never been said whether Grindelwald was gay or not) that ended up with his sister getting killed and a lifelong rift between Dumbledore and his brother.
 * Francesca Lia Block often addresses this in her novels, notably with Dirk and Duck in Weetzie Bat, Griffin in I Was A Teenage Fairy, and most recently Pace in The Frenzy.
 * In Terry Goodkinds Sword Of Truth series the Mord'sith Berdine and Raina were always belittled by Darken Rahl for their relationship.
 * Basil Hallward in The Picture of Dorian Gray.

Live Action TV
"Old Woman: Hi, what are you doing here?
 * While the characters in The L Word are largely devoid of Gayngst, this trope was summed up nicely in one episode where the characters attend a Gay Pride parade:

Jenny: I'm celebrating Gay Pride, I guess. I don't know.

Old Woman: You mean "gay shame." That's what it really is.

Jenny: Why?

Old Woman: 'Cause most of us have more shame than pride."

"Calvin: How do you feel about a three-hour long coming out story about a gay boy who is beaten by his preacher father and eventually commits suicide in the closet?
 * Riley from Degrassi the Next Generation hit on his best friend, then threatened to beat him up if he ever told anybody. Then he started popping steroids, believing it would turn him straight. He eventually came oot almost by mistake by signing himself and Zane up for prom couple which was posted online.
 * Marco also has this in spades. At first it's just usual Degrassi drama as he struggles with his sexuality, but it eventually encompasses his character almost entirely as his character arcs go from "How will he get through this problem?" to "How will he be discriminated against next?"
 * Aaron Livesy from Emmerdale is the epitome of this trope.
 * Nathan in the British (original) Queer As Folk was having a bit of a teenage Gayngst moment, when his best friend neatly deflated him: "I'm black! And I'm a girl. Try that for a week."
 * Russell T Davies, himself gay, has gone on record about not being the biggest fan of this trope, arguing that it in some ways perpetuates gay shame both as something experienced by homosexuals and how it is viewed by non-homosexuals, and also because it can be a bit boring, cliched and stereotypical to watch. As such, while most of his works deal with homosexuality and are not entirely free of angst, the characters usually angst about things other than being homosexual.
 * However, this trope plays a plot point in another RTD project. Although Captain Jack Harkness is absolutely devoid of any shame about his sexuality, his boyfriend Angelo in Torchwood Miracle Day suffers from deep seated religious gayngst due to being raised Catholic in a small Italian town. With terrible consequences for poor Jack...
 * Noah's Arc: In the movie, Brandon goes through this briefly.
 * When we first meet Jodie in Soap, he is preparing for a sex change, then attempts to kill himself when his boyfriend dumps him. The show being what it is, his status as "suicidal homosexual" is played for laughs for the remainder of the season.
 * David from Six Feet Under has a really hard time with the fact that he is gay for almost the entire first season. It's mostly religious Gayngst, due to the fact that David is a devout Catholic who believes ( at least during most of the first series) that homosexuality end up condemned to hell for all eternity. The problem comes to a head about three quarters through the first series, when David has to prepare the body of a young gay man who was beaten to death by a group of homophobes. During this particular episode, David does not have gayngst so much as a total emotional breakdown. After he breaks up with Keith for the first time, David's main story arc involves him slowly reconciling his homosexuality with his religious faith.
 * He slowly gets better throughout the series. Once he's reconciled his homosexuality and religious beliefs, he still angsts a little about coming out, but most of his anxiety comes from other sources ( the business and his various fights and break-ups with Keith ( which is more about personality differences and communication problems between the two men rather than the fact they are both gay).
 * Averted with Keith, who has virtually no gayngst, although he usually doesn't argue when his father refuses to acknowledge David as his life partner. This is probably more to do with a history of abuse than gayngst . Also, Keith states that one reason he was attracted to David was because Dave didn't typecast him as ( to borrow Claire's words) the " black sex cop" but instead treated him as an individual. Given Keith's appearance, mannerisms and job description, he'd likely have similar problems if his dating pool consisted primarily of white women. Given that, in tv land, All Men Are Perverts and All Gays Are Promiscuous , this might be a bigger problem because Keith happens to be gay, but it isn't necessarily so.
 * Averted in United States of Tara. Marshall angsts a little about his crush--like any 14-year-old might--and a lot about his mother's Dissociative Identity Disorder.
 * Shown on Cold Case with the characters of Rose and Jimmy, who have spent more than seventy and forty years respectively in the closet mourning their dead gay lovers.
 * Straight Gay Calvin of Greek references this to his friend, explaining why he doesn't want to go to a movie with his crush:

Ashley: ...sounds depressing.

Calvin: Exactly."


 * In the episode "In Heat" of Criminal Minds the killer is a guy whose father repeatedly tried to beat the gay out of him (he worked as a prison guard, so its implied he was really, really brutal) and essentially drove him insane with self-hatred. He began killing gay tourists and stealing their identities, so he could live their seemingly carefree lives.
 * Daffyd of Little Britain is a parody of this type, as he desperately wants to be perceived as gayngsty, constantly pointing out how horrible and lonely it is to be "the only gay in the village", but not only is it all a facade, his entire community is not only very accepting, but is full to the brim of gay people, including his own brother and his best friend. Daffyd ignores this in hopes of looking more miserable and alone.
 * In fact, there are some hints that Daffyd is straight and only pretending to be gay.
 * in The Sopranos spends a significant amount of time in Season Six experiencing Gayngst when he is inadvertently outed to both his and 's (somewhat homophobic) crews, flees to a small town in New Hampshire, and struggles with his duties to his wife and kids, his crew, and the web of lies he has to tell his newfound lover in New Hampshire to protect himself.
 * Happens quite a bit to Kurt Hummel on Glee. He is constantly bullied for his sexuality, his crush is straight, and at one point someone left a threatening phone call at his dad's business. Subtly, the father is initially uncomfortable, and in "Preggers", you can tell that the father tries punishment by removal on his son to cease his flamboyant dressing. However, this trope is also subverted when Kurt comes out to his macho, sports-loving, mechanic father, and he reveals that he's known since Kurt was three years old ("all [he] wanted for [his] birthday was a pair of sensible heels") and doesn't love him any less for it. And throughout these Gayngst plots, Chris Colfer's performance really makes it realistic and heartbreaking. Until the "Never Been Kissed" episode, Kurt has been bearing the bullying.
 * Things are looking up for Kurt Hummel. Though early Season Three has an episode about him realizing his Camp Gay tendencies make him hard to believe as a leading man in a romance, he is now in a stable, healthy, loving relationship with Blaine (who, himself, is cheerful, out and proud, and an overall aversion of this trope). Even Karofsky, the bully who picked on Kurt  On the other hand, poor Santana.
 * In the episode "On My Own", gets hit with Gayngst Laser-Guided Karma full-on. He is outed, gets bullied in his new school and.
 * Mad TV did a skit with Will Sasso as a gay plumber who constantly angsts about how gay he is and accuses his customers of prejudice even though they don't care.
 * Happens to a few gay characters on Coronation Street, the notable ones being Todd Grimshaw who found out while his fiancée was pregnant. The stress from the whole situation caused her to have a miscarriage and Todd had to endure snide comments in the pub and shops, as well as David Platt (his fiancées brother) spray painting "Queer" on his front door.
 * Sophie Webster and Sian Power are a pair of recently outed lesbians. Claire Peacock outed them in front of the entire street and they ended up running away to get away from gossip. However Sophie's family were actually quite supportive of them once they adjusted so they don't have too much besides the typical teenage angst.
 * Sean Tully is a notable aversion, probably because the writers have realised that viewers won't actually feel sorry for him if anything bad happens to him.
 * Willow Rosenberg from Buffy the Vampire Slayer is something of a subversion since there is never really a big coming out episode, and they probably skated around having the obligatory drama by having people know about it at the end of the season so most of it presumably takes place offscreen during the gap between seasons. Although Willow does feel the need to declare her sexuality every few episodes.

Music

 * One of Morrissey's specialties. Best summed up by Bret Easton Ellis, who referred to The Smiths as "gay angst music" in The Rules Of Attraction.
 * "Sing If You're Glad To Be Gay" by the Tom Robinson Band.
 * John Lennon admitted that The Beatles' "You've Got To Hide Your Love Away", which he wrote, is something of a Gayngst ode to their manager, Brian Epstein, who was gay and not unfamiliar with the real life issues inherent in this trope.
 * "Viðrar vel til loftárása" by Sigur Ros. Although the lyrics are pretty indechiperable both the music video and the melody made it pretty clear that the song is this trope
 * "Smalltown Boy" by Bronski Beat.

Theater
"Anna: You've got a dozen invitations to parties; hop in a cab, have some fun. They'll go on all night.
 * Michael from The Boys in The Band is practically the poster boy for this trope. Most of the other characters have varying degrees of Gayngst as well, due to the cast essentially being a Pre-Stonewall gay Breakfast Club.
 * This was at a time when it was believed homosexuality could be cured through psychological analysis.
 * David Posner of The History Boys has plenty of teenage Gayngst and eventually grows up to be an Gayngsty adult, although the movie gives him a somewhat happier ending than the stage version.
 * It gets pretty bad, actually. None of the homosexual characters in the story ever get to actually have sex, and it's implied they'll all live lonely, celibate, miserable lives. Somewhat justified by the time period the play and film are set in, but still pretty damned depressing.
 * From Lanford Wilson's Burn This:

Larry: Have you ever been to a gay New Year's Eve Party? The suicide rate is higher than all of Scandinavia combined."


 * Parodied in Brave Smiles: Another Lesbian Tragedy by The Five Lesbian Brothers.
 * Rod in Avenue Q has quite a bit of trouble coming to terms with being a straight-laced Republican who also happens to be a homosexual.
 * bare: a pop opera is all about gayngsty Catholic schoolboys.
 * Martha of The Childrens Hour goes into a terrible crisis and kills herself upon realising she is in love with her friend Karen.

Visual Novels

 * In Shojokyuu Kurige No Shiofuki Shoujotachi, Schoolgirl Lesbian Haruna severely worries that her attraction to other girls as well as her amorous conduct with them could lead to her getting in deep trouble and jeopardizing her graduation because of the conservative catholic environment she's in at the time.
 * In Katawa Shoujo, it is revealed that is gay, and made a Love Confession to her object of affection,  who rejected the confession (most likely due to Incompatible Orientation) but offered continued friendship, causing her a great deal of pain, especially when Hisao begins a relationship with .  also implies that she was bullied for being gay in the past.

Webcomics

 * Khaos Komix, as a teen drama with a Cast Full of Gay, pretty much runs on this trope: Steve has internalized Jamie's homophobia enough that he wrestles with the idea of being gay; Mark knows his parents have already disowned his brother for, among many other things, his homosexuality; Amber is frightened of the controversy, and her mother, although accepting of Steve and Mark, is less so with Amber, ; Nay casually accepts her own bisexuality, but she's seeing Amber; Murfs had a basically pansexual upbringing, but as a child, ran headlong into Jamie's Freudian Excuse, which left him reflexively homophobic until he met Tom; Tom, a transman (by definition, a source of angst in its own right), is afraid of letting Murfs know, much less sleeping with him, for fear of being seen as a woman; and Charlie, a transwoman, has started an outright dangerous relationship with the homophobic Jamie. Still, it looks like the token straight Jamie's story might be the angstiest of all. Of course, there have also been hints that Jamie isn't as straight as he claims to be.
 * Justin from El Goonish Shive has reason enough to gayngst with the bullying at school and his ex-best friend turning into an aggravating Stalker With a Crush. However he can also be a little too eager to have this, as shown by his accusing the others of leaving him out of the rescue team because he's gay during the Painted Black arc (shortly before realizing the team consisted of a homosexual, a bisexual, and a Teddsexual) and his muttering that the universe was plotting against him when he was informed of Elliot's having to turn into a girl due to Power Incontinence.
 * also has to go through this and come to terms with  sexuality.   goes through it too. Hell, even  !
 * Vinci from Vinci and Arty exhibits this trope often, especially when the couple's more conservative neighbours show off their discontent for the homosexual duo.

Web Original

 * Completely averted in Ilivais X. Iriana IS incredibly miserable and has tons of angst going on, but that's for entirely different reasons. If anything, her orientation is one of the few things she's absolutely confident about, especially once her relationship with Mille gets going. Yes, their relationship is strained as all hell, and she's very insecure about liking Mille, but it's more along the lines of how she feels she doesn't deserve her, and will only end up hurting anyone close to her.
 * A major part of the prolecto series. In fact, this trope is why one character goes from "Good" to "Neutral. The story starts here: http://www.furaffinity.net/view/6721353/
 * Eventually
 * Also given an interesting examination, where the character comes to the conclusion "Okay, which would people hate me for more. Being gay, or being a demon. Being gay...crud." Face Heel Turn ensues.

Western Animation

 * Pleakley from Lilo and Stitch The Series is a kind of subtextual example. Apparently his girliness and refusal to get married are some of the main reasons he's the black sheep of his family. It's not stated outright that he's gay, but it's either that or he thinks Girls Have Cooties, and the marriage thing is eventually resolved when he marries Jumba, his male friend, who was Disguised in Drag for the occasion, and they both seem very content with getting married.
 * Or maybe he didn't the arranged marriage his family put him through.

Real Life

 * Truth in Television. Almost inevitable when puberty meets unexpected sexual revelation in an intolerant culture.
 * Hopefully, as time goes on, this trope will be averted altogether.