I Have to Wash My Hair

A woman (and it is almost always a woman), subjected to the advances of an Abhorrent Admirer, indicates that she doesn't want to date him but is trying to let him down easy. Unfortunately she can't think of a plausible excuse, so comes up with something ludicrous off the top of her head. Either it couldn't possibly take up much time, is hopelessly vague or surreally implausible, or is something no-one in their right mind would prioritize over a promising date - which may of course be a deliberate hint.

Named for the Stock Phrase that has become such a clichéd excuse that it doesn't let the target down easily at all, but instead says "I wouldn't go out with you if every other man on the planet was radioactive!"

Compare and contrast I Have to Go Iron My Dog. Doesn't work on the Literal-Minded, the Cloudcuckoolander, or anyone particularly determined (or just plain lecherous): "That's a lot of hair. Need any help?"

Advertising

 * There was a 1980s anti-smoking advert on British TV where a group of girls are discussing how to chat up boys by blowing smoke suggestively. One tries it on a skinhead who coughs before answering with this line.
 * There was a UK ad for quick-cook pasta where a woman hears her annoying upstairs neighbour leaving his apartment. She rushes to put the pasta on and it's ready within a couple of minutes, so by the time he comes to the door and asks her on a date, she apologises and explains that she's just sat down to dinner.

Film
"Arcade Voice: [playing "The Big Score" game] Hey, big boy. Think you're man enough to score with me? Jim Green: I am, if Bubba is. Arcade Voice: Oops, sorry, tonight I gotta wash my hair."
 * Private School

"Allan: How about Friday?"
 * Back to The Future Part II: Lorraine uses the line on Biff. Ironically she wasn't trying to let him down easy, considering she had just told him to "take a long walk off a short pier". At least Biff deserved it.
 * When Otter says that a girl broke a date with him in Animal House, Boon asks if she used this excuse. Subverted with Otter's reply - "Dead mother".
 * Woody Allen films love this Trope.
 * Play It Again, Sam: A girl in an art museum blows off Allan when he asks her for a date on Saturday by telling him that she's committing suicide that night. Allan is undaunted.

"Fielding: You busy tonight? Norma: Some old friends are coming over. We're gonna show some pornographic movies. Fielding: You need an usher? Norma: Aw, that's sweet. I'm busy."
 * Bananas. Fielding Mellish tries to ask out a Sexy Secretary.

Literature

 * Magrat does this in Wyrd Sisters. "I shall be washing my hair!" "When?" "Whenever!"
 * Its use gets lampshaded when after being repeatedly rebuffed by Magrat, The Fool convinces her to watch the play with him and that there's even a pump available "in case you want to wash your hair".
 * A further lampshade later: To indicate that the Fool hasn't been asking Magrat out lately, Nanny Ogg says to her: "Your hair looks a bit grubby. It looks as though you haven't washed it for a month."
 * When Richard shows up without his date in Dirk Gently's Holistic Detective Agency, Reg muses about why she hadn't come, and asks if this was the excuse she gave. He adds that it's only for lack of hair that he has to participate in the school as much as he does. (It turns out that Richard completely forgot that he had invited her.)

Live-Action TV

 * In Help! I'm a Teenage Outlaw, Lady Devereux tells one of the servants in one episode (who is asking her out) that she will not be coming out with him because she is "washing her hair."
 * Played with on Dawson's Creek when Joey tells Dawson that if he can't find a date for a double date, he should call Jen and tell her he can't go out because he needs to "wash his hair"
 * In Kenan and Kel, after being rejected in the phone with this answer, Kenan suddenly remembers that the girl he was asking is bald.
 * M*A*S*H: Colonel Blake once put the moves on a nurse. He complimented her on her scent, to which she replied, "I just washed my hair." When the colonel goes a little further, she brushes him off with, "I have to wash my hair."
 * Saved by the Bell: In the episode where Kelly Kapowski didn't want to go to the prom with Zack because she couldn't afford a dress, she used this one so often Zack told her she'd caused a drought in California.
 * The Big Bang Theory "The Cushion Saturation", Penny tries to excuse herself saying she needed to wash her hair to save herself from Sheldon's wrath when he was about to discover his couch cushion had been disturbed.
 * An episode of Diff'rent Strokes had Willis' girlfriend blow off a date with him by saying she had to wash her hair. He goes to the movies anyway and sees her there with another guy.
 * In the extended Glee pilot, Emma pulls out several of these excuses (i.e. "I'm alergic to nighttime") to discourage Ken from asking her out.
 * How I Met Your Mother has a cast-wide version. One character wants to get out of something unpleasant and she says she's washing her hair. Another in the group says "running the water," the third says "holding the towel" and the fourth simply says that he'll be at home, trying to cope with not being invited to the hair-washing party.
 * Arrested Development had a straight example and a subversion in "Ready, Aim, Marry Me!":
 * Lucille Ostero tells Gob "I have to go to spin class." Lucille has vertigo.
 * When Michael drops by Sally Sitwell's work to ask her out, he sees her facing away from the front desk in the next room. When he asks the receptionist to get her attention, she makes a phone call, then tells Michael she's not there. After Michael leaves dejected, it's revealed that the figure in the next room was simply trying on a wig that looked identical to Sally's hair.

Music
"''He said, "Let's make love on a mountain-top, ''Under the stars, on a big hard rock" I said "In these shoes? I don't think so""
 * Relient K's song "Mood Rings" - "She likes you Wednesday, but now it's Friday and she has to wash her hair."
 * A different excuse in Kirsty McColl's "In These Shoes";


 * ...Also a direct subversion, since the next line is "Let's do it here".
 * Lily Allen's "Knock 'Em Out" is essentially a string of these, ranging from the girl saying she's getting married next week to claiming she has to go because her house is on fire.

Newspaper Comics

 * Used in a Dilbert comic strip in which the titular character asks a girl out. She gives him this line and offers coffee at the workplace instead. Dilbert declines, preferring someone with "clean hair."
 * Another woman blows Dilbert off with the excuse, "I have to wash my goldfish."
 * Clue for the Clueless gives two versions of this excuse: The first is vague but plausible, such as "I have 'plans' this evening", the second is specific and implausible, for example "I have to wax my cat", and is generally reserved for losers.
 * A Garfield book listed this line as a way for a girl to refuse a date offer from Jon Arbuckle, adding onto it "each one individually".
 * The others in that book would mention listing here if they didn't venture dangerously close to I Have to Go Iron My Dog lines, especially if one considered the many, many, many rejection lines Jon's received through the years...

Theater
""I thought you had to wash your tennis shoes?""
 * Not played quite straight in South Pacific: Emile isn't around when Nellie sings "I'm Gonna Wash That Man Right Outta my Hair" and washes her hair on stage.
 * In Charly: A Love Song, the two leads are set up on an unwanted date by their parents. After leaving the planned (and boring) date at the country club, Charly (the girl) reveals that underneath The Ojou exterior is a Genki Girl who only need a Ferris wheel ride to bring her out. When she tries to drag Straight Man Sam (the guy) along, he replies:

Video Games

 * Elaine in The Curse of Monkey Island and Escape from Monkey Island, to LeChuck.
 * In The Sims, if you invite someone over and the Relationship Values are too low, sometimes you'll get this as a response.

Web Comics

 * One Concerned strip has Gordon trying to ask out one of his female co-workers at the Combine Citadel out on a date, and she gives him this excuse. The catch here is that the coworker, who was a normal human in the previous comic, is now a transhuman Combine soldier instead.
 * Subverted in this Questionable Content strip.
 * In The Inexplicable Adventures of Bob, this is Molly's excuse for standing Rocko up for a date bearing in mind that Molly is completely covered with pink hair. "I had to wash my hair. All of it."
 * The ladyfolk of Loserz would rather, amongst other things, paint the Cistine Chapel, Lick their own asshole or eat babies than date Erik or Ben. Disco Jesus, however... doesn't date boys.
 * Poor David of Ow, My Sanity gets his share of lame excuses. Including this one, from a shaved girl.
 * Darths and Droids parodies it.

Web Original

 * The Spill Co Host 3000 uses the excuse of needing to wash his hair in order to avoid seeing "Gamer".
 * The Spoony One once reviewed a Klingon language instruction CD where I Have to Wash My Hair is said to be a perfectly valid way of dealing with an unwanted Klingon suitor. A disbelieving Spoony responds "Oh come on, if that's a pussy line on Earth, it's gotta be a pussy line on Qo'noS!"
 * The Nostalgia Chick is on the receiving end of this line when she tries to hit on Todd in the Shadows, who runs off claiming that "I gotta go wash my feet or my car or something."

Western Animation
"Rarity: See? Dirty."
 * Used and promptly lampshaded in The Grim Adventures of Billy & Mandy. Grim tries this excuse, but Billy points out that he tried the same excuse yesterday. (And Billy misses the obvious: Grim has no hair.)
 * In a Flash Back episode of the animated Spin-Off Beetlejuice, young Beetlejuice receives this blowoff from a girl he has invited to the prom. The girl is a skeleton with no hair.
 * Used against Dexter on Freakazoid!!.
 * The Batman did it with the appropriately titled "Superman Story". Clark attempts to ask Lois to see a boring documentary film. She brushes him aside, claiming she needs to wash her hair.
 * Megas XLR "Dude, Where's My Head" When Jamie decides to break his Non-Action Guy role and do a flying leap off a parking garage roof his date protests. Saying "It's been great hanging out with you and all, but I've got to go home and wash my hair."
 * In Futurama, we discover that, sometime in the past, Leela told Fry she couldn't go out with him because she had to meet a ghost. She wasn't expecting him to believe it (he did), so she flipped a coin to decide if she should use the excuse or not. In an Alternate Universe, where coin-flips have the opposite result, their counterparts went out and are now married.
 * Happens a lot in Action League NOW, mainly with Thundergirl.
 * In The Simpsons, Barney announces to the bar that he has a date "with the crazy lady who's always yelling stuff in front of the drug store," and a dejected Moe sighs and says "she told me she was washing her hair tonight."
 * Parodied in Doug, where one of Doug's Imagine Spots shows Patty Mayonnaise presented with a Dating Sim-like choice between Roger, Doug, or washing her hair.
 * In SpongeBob SquarePants when Sandy says she'll tear a new one to the person who caused Clamu pain, to prevent her from revealing he threw a peanut at Clamu he says "I have to get my hair cut!" and Sandy lampshades this by saying "Wait a minute Spongebob doesn't have hair!...or does he?"
 * Venture Bros. has an episode where Dr. Venture is pursuing another date with Charlene, or Dr. Girlfriend, calling The Monarch's cocoon. When Dr. Venture calls yet again for Dr. Girlfriend, the Monarch yells flustered, "Tell him you're washing your hair, or something, I don't care."
 * Isabella states this almost word for word to Phineas and Ferb in "Robot Rodeo", but it's subverted since the phrase isn't used for the situation above; it's merely used to segue into one of the weirdest songs on the show.
 * In the My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic episode "Party of One", Rarity uses this excuse to turn down an invitation to one of Pinkie Pie's parties. When Pinkie points out Rarity's hair looks clean to her, Rarity goes so far as to stick her head in a garbage can full of rubbish to get away with the excuse.

"Odette: I haven't packed or washed my hair, and Father, I get seasick!"
 * In The Swan Princess, Odette tries to use the excuse not on the prince himself, but on her father to delay leaving for the prince's kingdom.

Other
"Narrator: "Larry said: Come play with us. We're digging a trench." Bill Corbett: "Susan suddenly remembered that she needed to wash her hair.""
 * A variant shows up in a Jack Chick tract: The daughter of a man whose soul the angels and demons were fighting over gets sent to go wash her hair by a guardian angel so that her Christian friend would try to convert the dad while she waited for the girl to finish washing her hair (because apparently Jack Chick thinks that it takes hours).
 * Riff Trax "Skipper Learns A Lesson"


 * In the furry comic I.s.o. by Vince Suzukawa, when the main character Cody Frost is trying to work up the nerve to ask his crush, Gentle Giant Doug, out on a date, his Imagine Spot comes up with various reasons why Doug might turn him down. This excuse is one of them.

Real Life

 * This post on Gaijin Smash discusses the cultural gap on date excuses.