Not a Date

"Leo: Do you feel like a third wheel?

Luna: This isn't a date, Leo."

- Yu-Gi-Oh 5 Ds dub, as Leo and Luna watch Yusei teach Akiza to rollerblade

Two characters who go out together but, by insistence, aren't "going out". Comes in a few flavors:


 * 1) Both characters unconvincingly insist to everyone, including each other, it's not really a date.
 * 2) One or both characters don't realize it feels like a date until well into it.
 * 3) It really isn't a date, but several other people are convinced enough to meddle.

Regardless of whether or not it actually is a date, this is always a form of Ship Tease. Compare Will They or Won't They, She Is Not My Girlfriend, Like Brother and Sister.

Anime and Manga

 * Negi's outing with Nodoka in Mahou Sensei Negima. Beforehand, he tries claiming it's not a date. Everyone just ignores him. Afterwards Negi again tries to claim it was just a student/teacher outing, but Yue stops him cold with "No. It was a date."
 * Similarly, Setsuna's worried denial that her outing with Konoka is Not a Date, despite everyone treating it like one.
 * Then there's Negi and Asuna going on a date (Type 2 subversion) to help Asuna with her shyness issues.
 * Then there was chapters 251-252, again with Konoka and Setsuna, which sort of inverts this. Setsuna treats it as a a Not a Date, then by the end
 * Very early in the series, Negi and Konoka have a Type 3, complete with Date Peepers. They were shopping for birthday gifts for Asuna.
 * Frequently employed as a plot device in Ranma 1/2.
 * Sailor Moon: Rei (Sailor Mars) going out to meet another girl at a restaurant, a situation enough like a date that the other Senshi sneak after to spy on her.
 * Naruto: Naruto believes Shikamaru and Temari are going out on a date when he sees them walking together. Shikamaru claims he is just escorting Temari. ("Squee!" go the shippers.) (Why Temari would need escorting is not explained.) Something similar happens earlier in the series when Kakashi accuses Asuma and Kurenai of being on a date.
 * There is also a point when someone asks Naruto if he's on a date with Sakura. Despite the fact that she admitted it was, he said it wasn't. Possibly to keep her from humiliation.
 * If that's the part where she tells him about Sasuke's curse mark in Episode 109, the "date" was mainly a pretext to speak with Naruto in the anime, and in the manga, the two are just sitting on a bench and talking.
 * Love Hina; several times when Naru and Keitaro are involved, including when both independently went to Kyoto, it was assumed or theorized, by their roommates that it was romantic in nature. Later, when they went out to dinner together, they spent significant time arguing about whether or not it was a date; probably because calling it such results in both of them acting awkwardly.
 * Soukou no Strain had Sara and Carris going out to find Emily and getting distracted by typical date scenarios.
 * In Magical Girl Lyrical Nanoha Strikers, Elio is helpfully and secretly given what is obviously a date-oriented itinerary after mentioning he'd like to show Caro around. While everyone assumes they had a fun date, they discover Elio (being a wholesome kid with possibly no frame of reference) showed it to Caro and both followed it innocently like any other mission statement without ever realizing it was supposed to be for a date.
 * Also, Subaru's and Teana's "vacation" at the same time.
 * When Sunako and Kyohei go out in one volume of The Wallflower, Kyohei actually knows that it's supposed to be a date, having been forced into enacting the guys' latest plan to make Sunako into a lady, but Sunako doesn't and freaks out at any mention of them being on a date. She later talks to Kyohei about the 'date' issue, and the two reach an agreement that it really doesn't matter if they call it a date or not; what matters is that they had fun together.
 * Invoked but averted in an episode of Digimon Adventure 02 when Yolei/Miyako teasingly suggests to Davis/Daisuke that Kari/Hikari and TK/Takeru are out on a date when both were not present in a group meeting. It turns out that both weren't even at the same place, with the former hanging out with her Digimon and the latter napping.
 * As in everything else, also used in the Suzumiya Haruhi franchise:
 * In the novels, Mikuru invites Kyon to a date, only so he can find out that it was just because of the orders of her superiors, for reasons she (at that point) didn't know. But hey, doesn't mean they haven't had fun!
 * When Haruhi divides the team up to search the city, Kyon gets paired first with Mikuru and later with Yuki. Haruhi declares, "Kyon, this is not a date!"
 * Inverted in the 8th novel, when Kyon writes a romantic story about a cute girl he totally dated with, for real.
 * In Kaze no Stigma Kazuma and Ayano aren't going on dates. They're missions. Cause, uh, he's her bodyguard. Ayano's grandfather is trying to set them up by paying Kazuma to spend time with her, so it feels all awkward and embarassing and datelike to Ayano. Kazuma is exploiting the situation like a mad bastard though, and therefore it really isn't a date.
 * Hayate the Combat Butler's Hayate has gone on several not a dates with several of the characters. Most of the time both characters realize they've been set up on a date by the end of it.
 * Nagi has gone on a date with one of her admirers, all the time denying it was a date.
 * Wataru also sparked conflicted feelings in his older maid Saki when he took her out to a diner. Turns out he just wanted to talk since, due to a series of misunderstandings, he assumed that she was having an affair with a married man.
 * Kämpfer has Natsuru going out with Shizuku. He thought that it was a ploy to draw out the White Kampfers despite her insistence throughout that it really was just a date. Up until the end of it where Mikoto goes apeshit when she finds them, he's still in denial.
 * During the "Hammer Man" sequence in Detective Conan, it looks like Takagi and Satou are on a date, and Satou even asks Takagi to kiss her. Of course, Conan sees that they're actually on stakeout, and, with typically lousy timing, interrupts before the kiss can go through. Takagi and Satou were adopting the guise of a young couple to avoid drawing the Hammer Man's suspicions, and Satou even realizes that this interruption will lessen the culprit's apprehension of them even further; would police bother chattering with schoolchildren? Interestingly, taking the disguise of a couple is a common stratagem of Satou's when she's partnered with a male, but she never takes it beyond hand-holding. The kiss offer was her idea of mixing business with pleasure, since she was actually partnered with Takagi this time. So, of course, Takagi is very eager to take the next stake-out with Satou.
 * In Yu-Gi-Oh, Anzu and the Pharaoh go on one of these. Yugi, who set them up on it, sees it as a date, but the Pharaoh doesn't. Anzu might, but she denies it being a date to Mai, when she teases them about it.
 * As the page quote shows, discussed by Rua and Ruka (Leo and Luna in the dub) as Yusei teaches Aki to rollerblade in Yu-Gi-Oh 5 Ds.
 * Satou Kashi no Dangan wa Uchinukenai: When Nagisa's friend Kanajima gets the nerve to ask Umino if she would like to go to the movies with them, she accepts... but only because she thinks of it as another opportunity to spend time with Nagisa.
 * The World God Only Knows provides us with several type 2s. One of them is especially notable because it involves 3 (or 4) people.
 * Chapter 80 of Seitokai Yakuindomo has Shino and Takatoshi buying supplies, while Aria and Hagimura are "conveniently" busy with something else. It later becomes an excuse for them to go out and eat, and it ends with Shino looping her arm around Takatoshi's while the latter doesn't at all seem to mind.
 * THE iDOLM@STER - The Producer trying to defuse the bomb Makoto throws in the office as soon as they get back from the amusement park.
 * In Ratman Shuto and Mirea go see a movie together, and when they meet up with friends afterwards, Shuto tells them it's not a date. It's not so much denial as obliviousness in this case, as Shuto thinks he and Mirea are just friends.

Comic
"Magneto: As I predicted Rogue, it was a great pleasure to fight beside you again.
 * In Young Avengers, Eli and Kate go on a not-date in the park, where they are assaulted by a mugger (kind of). Kate continues to deny that they are on an actual date, much to Eli's annoyance.
 * In Teen Titans, Beast Boy took Raven out; but when she asked if it was a date, he denied it. If that was the case, why was the issue advertised as "date night", BB? And yes, they're madly in love with each other, but going through too much Angst to admit it.
 * Back when Robin (Tim Drake) was still dating Arianna, he would occasionally team-up with would-be girlfriend Stephanie Brown to fight criminals on the street. He keeps on insisting that 'it's not a date', but that does not stop Stephanie from shamelessly flirting with him. It also doesn't help that he was giving out mixed messages anyways.
 * In X-Men Legacy #233, after a grueling battle against Proteus, the first time the two had been fighting on the same team in a long, long time:

Rogue: It's not like it was a date, Magnus.

Magneto: No? As close as our kind come, perhaps."

Fan Fic

 * In Undocumented Features, Corwin Ravenhair and Utena Tenjou spend several years Not Dating, to the point that when they are told to go have a date, they can't figure out how to start.
 * In Kyon Big Damn Hero Mikuru tried to deny to Haruhi that going to see a movie with Kyon and Yuki was a date, despite asking Haruhi for permission about this appointment as a date. Implicitly subverted, as.
 * In The Arrangements, Harry and Severus are pretending to be a couple and spend an entire date doing things that they would do "if this was a real date", like sharing a soda at the movie theater and kissing at the top of a Ferris wheel. At the end of the date, they decide that to throw off suspicion, they should continue to see each other on a long term basis, though it's obvious at that point that both of them are only pretending to be pretending.
 * NanohaAsDivergence, long short story, Vita drags Yuuno out of scene but Hayate said that it was a Date. Talking about Irony, that riddance really turn into a full blown date (Making it Type 2 for both of them), with Vita going straight to Type-A Tsundere mode.
 * Fluttershy and Twilight in the My Little Pony Friendship Is Magic fic "Once Bitten, Twice Shy", acting on mutual awkwardness, both insist that their first "date" should actually be a "not-date" so they can scope out whether the other party is interested. Things go hilariously awry when their support teams don't speak to each other.
 * Assumptions: Sure Rainbow. Spending some time with Caramel in Canterlot, having him show you around, admiring views, and introducing yourself to his family with "He's not my boyfriend!", are totally unromantic happenings.

Film

 * In Pulp Fiction, John Travolta's character is insistent that taking the mob boss's wife out while he's away isn't one of these. Nobody believes him.

Literature

 * Harry Potter includes a type 3: Harry needs to bring someone to Slughorn's party, if only to stop his fangirls trying to slip him love potions. He hasn't worked up the nerve to ask Ginny, mainly because she's his best friend's sister, so he asks Luna to go with him but makes it clear that it's just as friends. Luna doesn't mind at all, but the second Peeves gets wind of it he zooms off cackling about it. "Nice to keep these things private."

Live Action TV
"Clark: So, this would be like a date?
 * In the pilot of Lois and Clark, Lois needs an escort to avoid going to Luthor's party alone. After trying every other man she knows, she picks Clark.

Lois: A date? Oh, you mean like in Smallville, where you meet my parents and try to give me a hickey in the back of your dad's pickup. No, this is not a date."

"Vala: Well I don’t mind telling you, I’ve been looking forward to this little date all week.
 * Daniel and Vala have one of these the Stargate SG-1 season 10 episode "Memento Mori".
 * Quote is too funny to leave out:

Daniel: Uhh, I wouldn’t exactly call it a date. It’s…

Vala: Oh, I’ve watched enough of your television to know what a date is. It’s a romantic event, typified by dinner, movie and/or karaoke, and usually culminating in a night of…

Daniel: Uhh, okay, this is definitely not a date."

""Is he paying? Did you shave your legs? Then it's a date.""
 * The Big Bang Theory had one in the first season. Leonard asked out Leslie to get over Penny, but she turned him down. So he asked Penny out, but she misinterpreted it as a going for drinks with the guys. At the end of the night she asked if it was a date, and he tells her "No! When I go out with a girl she knows she's been dated."
 * In Gossip Girl, Dan is accused of having a sexual relationship with his new teacher Rachel Carr. For some reason, they decide the only solution to this problem is to go on Not a Date at a quiet romantic restaurant. Even though it isn't a date, Dan's girlfriend accidentally sees them and gets the wrong idea, and when she decides to take a picture and send it to everybody, hilarity/drama ensues.
 * Done in Sonny With a Chance where Sonny and Chad go out on a not-date, so she can make a friend of his who dumped her jealous, he's going on it because he doesn't want her dating his friend, and Nico and Grady who missed the entire subplot think that they've actually admitted the UST and are on an actual date.
 * And the later, in season two, when they actually are on a date, they insist that they aren't. For some reason, her friends (apparently) believe them.
 * In an episode of Cafe Americain, Holly keeps insisting that her night out with Marcel is not a date until her friend says:

"Cameron: Like a date?
 * In a first-season episode of House, the titular doctor gets a pair of tickets to go see a Monster Truck rally. Naturally, his first choice is Wilson, who declines for various reasons. His next choice is Cameron.

House: Sure. Except for the date part."

"Spike: A d--? Please! A date? You are completely off your bird! I mean... do you want it to be?"
 * Type 3 pops up in Sherlock, when the owner of a restaurant is intent on setting a nice, romantic mood at John and Sherlock's table, despite John's protests. It doesn't help that Sherlock doesn't exactly deny it. (Naturally, fanfiction constantly manipulates the scene into a type 2 situation.)
 * A variation occurs in the second episode when Sherlock thinks that he's proposing that he and John go on a date, owing to the fact that he has no concept of what the term actually means. Although admittedly John's description of a date as "where two people who like each other go out and have fun" wasn't all that clear.
 * Buffy the Vampire Slayer, ("Crush"). Buffy and Spike are on a stakeout in a secluded location with Spike bringing Buffy various treats. Earlier, Dawn had told Buffy Spike was in love with her, and so she suddenly asked Spike "Is this a date?"

"Quark: You're a man. She's a woman. It's a date."
 * In Season 7 "First Date", Buffy is asked out to dinner by Principal Wood, who may or may not be evil. If he is evil then this is an information gathering mission -- not a date. But Wood is also hot, so if he's normal then this is a date. Unless Buffy is attracted to him because he's evil?
 * Garak of Star Trek Deep Space Nine insists that his appointment to visit a Cardassian sauna with Ziyal in the holosuite isn't a date. Quark isn't buying it.


 * Invoked in the Doctor Who episode Boom Town where Blon tells the Doctor that they are on a date and he hasn't even asked her name. The Doctor points out it's not a date. It's supposed to be her last meal.
 * Kurt and Blaine from Glee have several on- and off- screen not-dates - going for coffee together, dinners at Breadstix, trips to the theatre to see Rent, singing flirty duets together late at night at school - between their meeting in Episode 2x06 and Blaine's Love Epiphany and their subsequent Relationship Upgrade in 2x16. After that point, the not-dates become actual dates, to everyone's great satisfaction. The trope is subverted somewhat, however, in that although Kurt's best friend assumes his outings with Blaine are dates, and Kurt would like them to be, they're genuinely not.
 * In the very first episode of Friends, Monica insists that her going out with the "wine guy" is not a date, just two people having dinner and not having sex, to which Chandler responds: "Sounds like a date to me."
 * In the Lost Girl episode Food For Thought, Bo insists that she and Lauren are meeting so that Lauren can help her control her powers, and that it's not a date. Despite their clear mutual attraction, Bo fretting about what to wear for it, and that they are meeting in a bar. Kenzi doesn't buy it.
 * To be fair, it really is so Lauren can help Bo learn control and a bar is good place for it. They do almost kiss (which technically still falls under teaching Bo control), but Bo pulls away worried she'll hurt her.

Theater
"Tell the night to save its moonlight
 * In the musical version of The Wedding Singer, the two not-in-lovebirds get an entire song, titled "Not That Kind of Thing."

Tell the birds not to sing

Tell the stars in the heavens they've been misaligned

'Cause it's not that kind of thing!"

Web Comics
"Bun-bun: I just want to clarify. You were there the whole time with Zoë, you weren't drunk or overly medicated or anything, but have no idea whether or not you were on a date?
 * In a Canon side-story of El Goonish Shive, actually called "Not A Date At The Mall," a man, in return for a favor, buys dinner for his closeted lesbian best friend, with the bisexual female duplicate (don't ask) of her favorite ex-boyfriend mooching. Once the money's changed hands, guess who decides to make himself scarce...
 * In Sluggy Freelance Torg has one of these with Zoe. After a night out at a club, he walks her back to her place, she gives him a goodbye kiss on the cheek ... and only then does he exclaim, "Holy Cannoli, I think I just went on a date with Zoë!"

Torg: Yes!

Bun-bun: Now do you understand, Kiki?

Kiki: Yes, Bun-bun, I now understand why he's a nerdboy."


 * Of course, there's a reason why he's not sure: they didn't mean to do it, they just happened to find a night club in an extremely unlikely place and end up there together. (But that they happened to like it was no coincidence.)
 * In Misfile, Ash (the gender-bent main character) has just recently agreed to go to the movies with Arthur, one of the other Old Road racers helping her make repairs to the Road. She's insisting that "it's not a date", and is doing it to try to prove that guys and girls can be "just friends". Of course, everyone around her is thinking, "It's a date!", likely including Arthur...still playing out as of 9/16/10.
 * It's over. He thought it was a date, and it didn't end well.
 * Sherry and John "didn't date" for awhile in Out There, awakening Miriam's curiosity and penchant for shipping.
 * Questionable Content:
 * Hannelore goes out with Sven just to see what dates are like. Nothing romantic or sexual is expexcted to happen, and it doesn't.
 * Marigold doesn't realise Tai's flirting with her and asks her back to her place for a (relatively) completely innocent reason which Tai takes as a euphemism.
 * In Homestuck, Vriska and John have one of these in.

Western Animation

 * Doug had an episode with the titular character fiercely denying that going to the movies alone with Patty Mayonnaise was a date. (It totally was.)
 * Kim Possible: Kim and Ron's lifelong friendship causes confusion in others as to the nature of their relationship. It finally starts to confuse them in season 3, and at the end they hook up for real.
 * Casey and April go on one of these in the 2003 Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles cartoon, to much teasing from the turtles. It rapidly goes in a date-like direction, but mayhem breaks out before anything really happens.
 * Shows up in an episode of the 90s version of Casper the Friendly Ghost, in which Kat goes on what "is so not" a date, and becomes paranoid that Casper is constantly telling her it is (he wasn't there).
 * Futurama sets this up with a double date, with Kif and Amy alongside Zap Brannigan and a very begrudging Leela. She refers to the encounter as a "half-date" and only agrees to the thing to shut Zap up.
 * In the Word Girl episode "Have You Seen the Remote?", Tobey and WordGirl had to work together to find Tobey's Master remote. They searched for it the most efficient way possible: by reading together in the library, going to the museum, and eating ice-cream in the park.
 * It was . He got her to admit to enjoying herself, though.
 * This was a running gag in The Emperors New School, whenever Kuzco and Malina would end up doing something together, Kuzco would call it a date, and Malina would tell him "it's not a date". In the series finale they went on a date.

Real Life
"Kevin: Well, did you then accept that it was a date?
 * Inverted in this story from Kevin Smith's Evening With 2: Evening Harder: His friend, Drawing Flies director Malcolm Ingram came out of the closet to him by telling him about how he had dinner with a guy, then found out half way through it was date. This led to the following question:

Malcolm: Well, he was paying."

"Leo: Still thinking it's not a date?

Luna: Okay, yeah, it's totally a date."