Hopeless Suitor



"''There's a girl I know

He loves her so

I'm not that girl...''"

- Elphaba, Wicked

It's a simple story: Boy Meets Girl; Girl Meets Boy; Boy And Girl Like Each Other. Other Boy Meets Girl; Girl Meets the Other Boy; Other Boy Likes Girl Too, But Girl Is Paying So Much Attention To Boy She Doesn't Even Notice Other Boy's Affections.

Now take a deep breath if you read that out loud.

Overuse of capital letters aside, this is Triang Relations #4: a character who has a crush on someone who's already engaged in (at least potential) Shipping with someone else, after all, All Love Is Unrequited. Distinct from the Romantic False Lead in that the latter will actually catch the Girl's attention and make Boy jealous and uncomfortable (forming a Love Triangle).

The Hopeless Suitor thinks that his rival is a Romantic False Lead, when in reality there was no competition in the first place, the object of their affection simply doesn't notice them. The center of the love triangle will always think the Hopeless Suitor is just a friend.

In rare, very rare occasions, through sheer determination as befitting a Dogged Nice Guy, they might win over the object of their affection. It very well might take years or decades, like a Victorious Childhood Friend. The key is that there isn't any hinting towards Unresolved Sexual Tension between them, the tension is all one sided for a very long time before feelings are reciprocated.

Usually doesn't get as far as Stalker With a Crush, unless he's Wrong Genre Savvy enough to be a Prince Charming Wannabe. Compare Romantic Runner Up. Can be caused by an Incompatible Orientation.

Anime & Manga

 * In a slight twist on the harem genre, none of the girls aside from Aoi in Ai Yori Aoshi ever really had a chance. To blow up any shipping attempts, the first few episodes makes it pretty clear that Kaoru can't/won't choose anyone other than Aoi.
 * In Asu no Yoichi, Ayame is this towards Yoichi, although it's because of her sister Ibuki; the fact that she doesn't seem to spend much time with him; and when she does, she seems hostile. Then she wonders why he doesn't seem to romantically notice her.
 * Washizu is this towards Ibuki, who never really acknowledges his feelings, either because he can't say it to her directly, or when he tries, it gets misinterpreted.
 * In Clannad, pretty much any girl who's not named Nagisa in the anime. All of the main girls even show up at Tomoya's house in episode 18 with food after he got expelled taking the blame for a fight for Tomoyo. Tomoyo and Kyou even blame the awkward lunch date on him for not making it clear who he likes. But at the end of the episode, after a tennis game, Tomoya indirectly makes it clear who he wants to be with, crushing all of their hopes in one fell swoop.
 * For those of you who refuse to accept the Official Couple that the anime chose, luckily there are two episodes where Tomoyo and Kyou both get a shot with Tomoya, and how their lives would've played out had Nagisa not of been there. And there's always the Visual Novel too.
 * Mazinger Z: Boss had a painfully obvious crush on Sayaka. Of course, given that she's The Hero's Tsundere girlfriend and he's the Gonkish comic relief, he doesn't stand a chance (although some people would argue by the end of the original Manga, he actualy does have a chance, judging from how Sayaka acts in front of him, but by this time, either he realized he has no chance or he already become such a good friend with Koji, that he doesnt care about it anymore).
 * And in Great Mazinger he had a huge crush on Jun. It was played painfully straight.
 * In Please Teacher, Koishi is this in regards to Kei. Maybe if she acted in the first episode, but after that, her chances were blown.
 * The former trope namer, Daisuke/Davis Motomiya from Digimon Adventure 02 has a crush on Hikari/Kari (Girl) and sees her friendship with Takeru/T.K. (Boy) as a genuine romantic threat. He becomes very jealous, characterized in the English dub by Davis never getting T.K.'s name right (ex: T.J., T.A., T.L. instead of T.K.). The character dynamics vary between the English dub and the Japanese dub, but the lack of success of Daisuke's romantic pursuit is there for both.
 * Krillin of Dragonball Z showed every sign of crushing hard on Bulma. She, of course, was deeply in love with Yamcha (until she wasn't) and Krillin himself was too easily cowed to even hint to her at his interest.
 * In Dragon Crisis, Misaki, one of Ryuuji's classmates. She never really stood a chance, since he's snatched away by his older cousin within the first 5 minutes of episode 1, and is quickly taken away by Rose. Not that it stops her friend Mao from attempting to hook them up anyway.
 * Ai falls into this trope as well, although it's largely because she's introduced later in the series well after Ryuuji's already been with Rose for a while, and she doesn't attend the same school as they do. But despite that, she decides to show up on the fourth floor window of their school at the end of the series, which one of Ryuuji's friends wonders how she managed to get up there from the window.
 * from Black Butler falls in love at first sight with a seven-year-old Ciel Phantomhive and has surgery on his face from parts taken from actual children to make himself more beautiful, thus having a greater chance of becoming Ciel's suitor. It doesn't work out for either of them.
 * To an extent, Korea from Axis Powers Hetalia borders on this with his two older brothers, constantly groping them and downright flirting with them. This is taken to a further extent with China in the strip parodying a dating sim game, in which he's given a 'yes' or 'no' answer to Korea's seemingly innocent question of "Do you like me?" No matter which option China chooses, it ends with either sex or rape.
 * Belarus is the female version of this,due to the person she is "courting" is her own BROTHER, Russia.
 * Prussia can also be viewed as one, due to hints in canon that he's attracted to Hungary and/or Italy, both of whom are overtly paired up with other characters. He's even treated to the sight of Hungary and Austria being happy together on Christmas as he walks alone in the cold and tries to tell himself that he doesn't mind being alone at all. Ouch.
 * The Turkey/Japan/Greece triangle is marked as a Type 3 in the author's notes (Turkey and Greece both like Japan, Japan hasn't explicitly favored one of them over the other), but well... just take a look at the number of Turkey/Japan fics vs. Greece/Japan fics on Fanfiction.net. Needless to say, virtually all fans who believe that Turkey likes Japan also believe that he doesn't have a snowball's chance in hell against Greece, the one who not only actually gets enough page time with Japan to show just how well they get along but also has had Together Umbrella and Did They or Didn't They? scenes with him. Even fans who don't ship Greece/Japan and want Japan to be with someone livelier almost never consider Turkey to be a viable option. (He fares somewhat better in J-fen, though. Somewhat.)
 * FAKE has JJ, who cheerfully refuses to acknowledge that Dee 1) has a new man in his life, and 2) never even liked him in the first place. Also Berkely, who thinks of himself as a Romantic False Lead but really, really isn't. However,
 * Gantz's main character Kei Kuruno kind of suffers from this, since his love interest Kichimoto has fallen for his best friend Kato. Reika also suffers from this, since her love interest Kei Kuruno has fallen for Tae.
 * Niki from Urotsukidouji, whose unrequited love for Akemi drives him to
 * Akitoki Hojo in Inuyasha, and his modern-day descendant.
 * In Love Hina, while Mutsumi seemed likely to snag Keitaro, the other girls never really had much of a chance, particularly Shinobu and later Motoko. Su hints at liking Keitaro, but never really pursues it.
 * Boss in Mazinger Z has a painfully obvious crush on Sayaka. Of course, given that she's The Hero's Tsundere girlfriend and he's the Gonkish comic relief, he doesn't stand a chance.
 * In Nogizaka Haruka no Himitsu, although she tries, Shiina never really had a chance to get with Yuuto, since the first episode makes it pretty clear he ends with Haruka.
 * Ryoga in Ranma One Half is chasing after Akane who doesn't even realize he's courting her.
 * Also, all of Ranma's suitors. One of them (Kodachi) even admits to Ranma that she knows he doesn't love her back, but that this will in no way stop her from continuing to pursue him anyway.
 * Almost all. Akane counts as the one exception, but even that's a little iffy at times, due to Ranma's Celibate Hero status.
 * Ren in To Love Ru. The poor guy never had a shot. So much that his male half was essentially Put On a Bus and he remained as the very female Run for pretty much the rest of the series, who was naturally a haremette in the Unwanted Harem of his romantic rival. Ouch.
 * Harima from School Rumble is this with regard to Tenma and Karasuma, and Nara with regard to Tenma and Karasuma, Tenma with regard to Karasuma and some delicious curry...
 * In Pokémon, Grovyle to a Meganium who's apparently already with a Tropius. The revelation causes him a Heroic BSOD.
 * Candy Boy has a lesbian variety in the shape of Sakuya, who keeps running after Kanade, even though she has lost by default to Kanade's fraternal twin sister Yukino.
 * Ichinensei ni Nacchattara: Touta (~7 years old boy) jumps on Iori (7 years old girl) and tries to kiss her every chance he gets. Being as how Iori is secretly a genderbent highschooler, this attention is very much unwanted.
 * Beauty Pop: Ochiai for Kiri, although he doesn't give up; possibly Billy for Kiri as well, but it's hard to say.
 * Juvia, in Fairy Tail, whose crush on Gray is so huge that it can get her to forfeit major battles and lose focus of absolutely anything she was doing before seeing him. Her rival in love isn't actually interested in Gray, though. There was just a misunderstanding. She does get to spend time with him, but until she joins Fairy Tail she's just a Stalker With a Crush.
 * Kyouko from Aoi Hana keeps pining for Yasuko, even though Yasuko won't even give her the time of day. Kyouko's plight gets worse when she finds out Yasuko is actually dating another girl, which means Yasuko is not rejecting her because of her gender, but for other reasons. The scene in which Kyouko begs Yasuko to give her a chance after all has to be one of the saddest in the series.
 * In Pumpkin Scissors we are given Schultz and Alice. Schultz likes Alice even enough to shamelessly pursue her even though she's engaged to Leonir Taylor. This is not out of selfishness really; Alice was, after all, put into an arranged marriage with Taylor. However, chances are even if she wasn't engaged, she would probably not consider Schultz because of her dedication to her job.
 * Randoll from Future GPX Cyber Formula is this for Asuka. He has a crush on her despite the fact that she's in love with Hayato. In fact, he and Hayato once competed for her love. He keeps on presenting Asuka with little gifts, even after Asuka's engagement to Hayato.
 * In a completely odd turn around, Hayate the Combat Butler has something of this between Hinagiku, Ayumu and Hayate. Hayate does notice Ayumu's affection for him (helped by the fact that she's the first of the Unwanted Harem to have confessed), even stating that they could have been dating, but realizing that Hinagiku is the one he's infatuated with, Nishizawa has taken to this trope herself, and is trying to get Hinagiku to admit her feelings to him. It doesn't help at all that Hinagiku is trying to play matchmaker between Ayumu and Hayate because I Want My Beloved to Be Happy.
 * Also, Miki for Hinagiku, Miki realizes the Incompatible Orientationness of her situation, to her regret. But that doesn't stop her teasing of Hinagiku one bit.
 * Poor Yugi Mutou; he's in love with Anzu, but Anzu's in love with his split personality. Yes, it makes things weird.
 * The alter ego leaves in a heart wrenching scene in the last episode. The shipping issues are never resolved.
 * In Junai no Seinen, Ian comes to Japan hoping to get together again with his ex-sex friend Kaoru. Kaoru's lover think that Ian is the Romantic False Lead, as does Ian himself, but he's actually the Hopeless Suitor and never stood a chance.
 * The Ouran High School Host Club manga gives us both Hikaru AND Kaoru as Hopeless Suitors for Haruhi's affections. It's mostly Hikaru since Kaoru  It was already a losing battle for Hikaru, but he gave it a try anyway.
 * Wandering Son plays several characters affections as this, both minor and major. The most apparent is Mako and every boy he's ever liked, and Saori with Nitori.
 * In Hajime no Ippo, being a Hopeless Suitor is a national sport. The main character falls in Love At First Sight with Kumi, the sister of Mashiba and Kumi ends up falling for him too. Although Neither Of Them Can Spit It Out, they basically act as a couple. Then Itagaki Manabu, Ippo's kouhai appears and falls for Kumi, while his younger sister Nanako and the Hot Scoop Iimura Mari both fall for Ippo. Knowing Ippo and Kumi are made for each other (which Nanako can't seem to admit), Manabu later asks Mari out on the pretext that they are both "runner-ups"! Add to all this that Manabu's rival Imai Kyousuke is also a Hopeless Suitor for Nanako and you have a fine little mess. Oh, and in the early volumes Kimura falls for a nurse and, when he thinks this is serious, discovers she has a man. Seconds before entering the ring for a match. Ouch.
 * In the Shuffle anime, although the series teases us as to who Rin ends up with, the biggest loser is probably  It gets worse when Rin does choose a girl to spend time with, and causes   to go a little Yandere. Averted in the Visual Novel however, since you get to choose who Rin ends up with.
 * Scryed has Scheris Adjani for Ryuho, who only sees her as a comrade and has feelings for Mimori. Scheris ends up letting go and giving her life to save Ryuho's. But in a twist of cruel irony, she gets the last laugh from beyond the grave when her sacrifice is the reason Ryuho cites for NOT getting in a relationship with Mimori in the end.
 * Tiger and Bunny's Word of God confirms that Karina is unlikely to have any luck when it comes to her crush on Kotetsu -- for reasons ranging from a rather big age difference to Kotetsu being married (though widowed, he is still devoted to his wife) with a kid. Not to mention his complete and utter obliviousness to her advances.
 * Played for Laughs in One Piece with Boa Hancock's unrequited love for Luffy.

Comic Books

 * In Quantum and Woody, Eric Henderson (Quantum) has this with his longtime crush Amy Fishbein.

Film

 * Bernie Kuntz, a hopeless-dorky overweight appliance salesman with a bad combover toward Stephanie Plum, the spunky, ridiculously-attractive heroine of One for The Money.

Literature

 * Laurie in Little Women, forcing him to Settle for Sibling. Tom's pursuit of Nan in the final sequel Jo's Boys.
 * Henry Crawford in Mansfield Park, unsympathetically as he's a Stalker With a Crush (making the narrator's interpretation very Fair for Its Day) and a shameless womanizer.
 * Word of God has it that Leopardstar of Warrior Cats loved Tigerstar. However, Tigerstar does not return her affections as he loves Sasha.
 * Housemaid Rosanna Spearman is hopelessly in love with protagonist Franklin Blake in The Moonstone. Hopelessly because not only is he a 'gentleman' and so out of her class but he's in love with Rachel Verinder.
 * Lettice Protheroe for Lawrence Redding in Murder At the Vicarage. He is in love with her stepmother, however.
 * Michael for Rosamund in the Knight and Rogue Series. He actually helps to reunite her with her love, figuring that if she tries a few days of Ruby's less glamourous life stlye she'll be disenchanted. He's wrong.

Live Action TV

 * In Grounded for Life, the geek who pined after the daughter assumed that her emotions were divided between himself (whom she barely noticed and openly discouraged any kind of advance) and her boyfriend (who she was all too ready to get hot and heavy with). Eventually he decided to "back down" and openly referenced the concept that they were in a "love triangle" to the boyfriend, whose only concern was "The two end points don't touch, do they?" Though it might have been subverted later on
 * Steve Urkel in Family Matters is a special case in that he knows he's the Hopeless Suitor -- he's just not willing to let that stop him, hence the Catch Phrase "I'm wearing you down, baby!" His only shot at Laura was the transformation chamber that turned him into Stephan Urquelle, the epitome of smooth and cool. Steve Urkel himself managed to win Laura over in the shows last season, after some 8 years of Laura insisting on Just Friends.
 * I Carly: Freddie towards Carly. Although he isn't so hopeless any more since Season 3.
 * There are elements of this in Sheriff Carter's relationship with Allison Blake in Eureka, especially after she agrees to marry former husband Nathan Stark for a second time. Even to the point that
 * George played this in the first and second season of Greys Anatomy - he was in love with Meredith, who spent the time  It kinda didn't go too well.
 * Crais is interested in Aeryn in Farscape, and it takes her a long time to realise that's why Crichton's acting like a two-year-old around him. Of course, the fact that Crais continually called her "Officer Sun" is probably one of the reasons it didn't occur to her that he was interested in that way.
 * In ER, Ray was this towards Neela. In the end, . Another case would be Romano and his friend Dr Corday.
 * For at least 7 episodes during the first season of Glee, Emma plays the hopeless suitor to the  oblivious Will.
 * Friends: Gunther had an obvious longtime crush on Rachel, but she never even knew about his feelings until the last season and the entire audience knew that she was going to be with Ross in the end.
 * Martha from Doctor Who just can't compete with her crush's Lost Lenore. It doesn't help that he is the king of Oblivious to Love.
 * Gossip Girl is currently playing this straight with Dan and Blair. Blair (as always) is in love with Chuck. She treats Dan like her closest friend and confidante, and even ships him with her friend (and his ex) Serena, apparently oblivious to the fact that he's been in love with her for half a season.
 * Lennier on Babylon 5. In this case Delenn obviously has a great deal of affection for him; she is simply unconditionally in love with Sheridan, and that, as they say, is that.
 * C.C. Babcock, Maxwell Sheffield's business partner on The Nanny, wanted him to be with her rather than Fran Fine. However, she does get together with  in the end.
 * Pushing Daisies: Poor Olive never stood a chance with Ned once Chuck appeared on the scene.
 * Very briefly on The Big Bang Theory, Raj to Penny. The reasons are a little complicated, Penny was having dinner at Sheldon's apartment with Raj and, because Sheldon can be hard to be around, was drinking a little too much. . Unusual for the trope once the dust settles Penny and Raj do become closer friends.
 * Baby Gat from Noah's Arc relentlessly pursues Noah, particularly in the movie (to no avail).
 * Jonathan, Jack Donaghy's assistant on Thirty Rock, is hopelessly obsessed with Jack and devoted to him.
 * Funnily enough, the same actor who plays Jonathan, Maulik Pancholy, plays Sanjay on Weeds and is similarly obsessed with Nancy.

Theatre
"Eponine: And although I know that he is blind, still I say there's a way for us..."
 * Helen Chao in Flower Drum Song. Wang Ta does get her in the Dream Ballet, but when he's awake he gives her no reason not to reprise "Love, Look Away."
 * Eponine's feelings for Marius in Les Misérables.


 * In Pantomime, Buttons is always this to Cinderella, who considers him more the brother she never had. Fortunately for him, most productions have him fall in love with somebody else, usually the Fairy Godmother or her assistant.

Video Games

 * Akiha in the canon Tsukihime ending. Shiki will generally notice that all the girls around him are attractive, except for Akiha, as she's his adoptive sister. Akiha tends to respond very poorly to all his love interests except Hisui, not just Arcueid.
 * Although she doesn't seem to mind Sion in the sequel game Melty Blood, possibly because, of all the girls that fall for Shiki, he shows less romantic interest in her than any other heroine (except Satchin).
 * Mega Man X8 introduces a new member of the Maverick Hunters' Mission Control, a very Stripperiffic (which is saying something, since she's a Reploid) Layer. She obviously has feelings for Zero. However, the latter is not only a Celibate Hero, he's also very clueless to these advances.
 * This is seems like a case of Zero being handed The Idiot Ball or Chaste Ball in this case. Fans can only speculate that Iris had a lot more pull on him than originally indicated. Could be a failed Author's Saving Throw, or even just Plot Induced Stupidity, on the script writer's part as a whole.
 * A Running Gag in Shin Megami Tensei Strange Journey is that Anthony, one of the crewmen on the Red Sprite, keeps falling in love with demons. Your job is to convey his feelings to the demons... who always turn him down.

Web Comics

 * In Nip and Tuck, Gilly has to have his role explained to him.
 * In Homestuck, Eridan continues trying to go after Feferi even after she rejects him and starts a relationship with Sollux. To complicate matters, Eridan also begins to desire a blackrom relationship with Sollux because of it. Both are unrequited. It doesn't end well.
 * Also, Nepeta's crush on Karkat, who is in love with Terezi and later Jade.
 * There's also Roxy's crushes on both Dirk and Jake:
 * Also, there's Kanaya's crush on Vriska, who is exclusively into Tavros (and later John) and who never sees Kanaya as any more than a faithful Morality Pet. In case it's not obvious, Homestuck is very dedicated to the All Love Is Unrequited trope.

Web Original

 * In an odd example, Nocturne fails to romance Scribble Quill... and then discovers that ladies of other species take an intense liking to him.

Western Animation

 * The Ulrich/Yumi pairing from Code Lyoko actually has two of these (William is a Romantic False Lead):
 * Sissi, who is crushing on Ulrich. However, even after losing his memory in one episode, Ulrich can't stand Sissi and would much rather be with Yumi.
 * Johnny, who has an all-too-blatant crush on Yumi. However, she'd rather be with Ulrich (and besides, Johnny is a little young for her). Hiroki (Yumi's little brother) even tells his friend how little chance he has with Ulrich around.
 * A minor version is Milly's affections towards Ulrich, only shown in a few episodes. Considering she is two or three years younger, that is why she was never considered a serious threat. The show really did dance around the Love Dodecahedron.
 * Total Drama Island had Cody trying desperately to get in with one of the Official Couples. He usually came to great personal injury due to it.
 * Rogue had this going on with Cyclops in X-Men Evolution; it's not entirely clear whether he ever actually realized she had a hopeless crush on him, but in any case his feelings for Jean (even before they officially got together) made it a moot point.
 * Liz Allen in The Spectacular Spider-Man managed to hook up with Peter, but it was clear from the start that Peter's always had feelings for Gwen.
 * A minor case in an episode of Danny Phantom has Valerie being pursued by a geek named Nathan, a situation she is not in favor of. Of course, she ends up dating Danny briefly instead.
 * In Avatar: The Last Airbender:
 * Meng, a young girl with a crush on Aang. Aang doesn't notice this and spends much of said episode trying to woo Katara. He knows eventually, but he gives her the Just Friends speech, one she accepted...in public.
 * Toph has a crush on Sokka and he loves Suki.
 * In Sequel Series the The Legend of Korra Big Fun Bolin gets Love At First Sight for The Hero Korra but she only has eyes for his Tall, Dark and Snarky brother Mako.
 * Korra is also this towards Mako. She decides to confess to him when he already has a devoted girlfriend. But in this case, to make things more complicated he also has conflicting feelings for Korra.
 * Gaston of Beauty and The Beast is determined to make Belle his wife and becomes increasingly aggressive in his pursuit of her, not seeming to realize that Belle not only wants nothing to do with him but is destined to be with the Beast (it's in the friggin' title, for crying out loud!).
 * Peep in Jimmy Two-Shoes loves Heloise. Unfortunately, she has Single Target Sexuality for Jimmy, so he has no chance.
 * In ThunderCats (2011), Lion-O is this for Cheetara until she makes it perfectly clear that she loves Tygra. Lion-O eventually gets over it.
 * Family Guy does this repeatedly with Brian towards Lois, which is ultimately reconciled after a fairly big fight. Stewie also tends to do this with Brian.