Erotic Asphyxiation



"Sex Addiction Therapist: Most likely, you'll end up going the way of David Carradine and Michael Hutchence: Autoerotic Asphyxiation. Kenny: Autoerotic asphyxiation? What's that? Therapist: I don't want to go into too much detail but -- you choke yourself with a belt around your neck while masturbating dressed up like Batman or something then you pass out from lack of air and apparently it makes your orgasm super awesome. Butters: Oh no! I don't wanna have to buy a Batman costume!"

- South Park

"Intentionally cutting off oxygen to the brain for sexual arousal", to quote The Other Wiki. A general term for sex acts that involves either restricting one's own breathing for intensified sensations during masturbation or one party restraining the breathing of another. Needless to say, this particular paraphilia includes all the risks associated with asphyxiation, including fatalities. Thus it's generally considered to fail the "safe" part of Safe, Sane, and Consensual. Sometimes it will be a plot point that what at first appears to be a masturbation session gone wrong is actually a disguised murder.

Not to be confused with Marshmallow Hell. Related to Out with a Bang, if you do it wrong. Possibly related to Too Dumb to Live, in any case. Sometimes used to promote the idea that Bondage Is Bad.

Anime And Manga

 * In the Full Metal Panic! novels, Gauron once had a thing with a female scientist and strangled her. They both seemed to get off on it, as Gauron even lampshades it by mocking her, asking her if she actually likes making him angry, and actually wants him to hurt her. He says this with a perfect mixture of "coldness and joy," and she responds by gasping with "pain and ecstasy."

Film

 * Killing Me Softly, a grade B sex-drama, featured Joseph Fiennes tying Heather Graham into a rig that used yards and yards of silk to induce erotic asphyxiation. Of course, this was him getting off on strangling her while they screwed, not her getting off on getting strangled...
 * In The World Is Not Enough, Electra mentions that a man being throttled to death will get an erection and straddles Bond's waist as she turns the screws on him.
 * Hayden Christensen does this in Life As A House.
 * In World's Greatest Dad, Lance Clayton's son dies this way. (Not much of a spoiler, since every single article about this movie talked about it).
 * Occurs in Rising Sun, where a floozy who likes to be choked during sex winds up dead on the board room table of a Japanese Mega Corp. It turns out that
 * In The Generals Daughter, got up to all kinds of kinky stuff, this included.
 * A very explicit and disturbing example in Ken Park.
 * The Ruling Class begins with a lord's family having to cover up the fact that he died in such an incident. In a tutu. Also dressed up (above the waist) like Napoleon.

Comics

 * In Strangers in Paradise, Katchoo is often seen doing this to Darcy in various flashbacks.
 * In Starman, the ghost of the Black Pirate describes the sensation of being hanged and says you start to feel sleepy, but everything's awake below the waist. Jack admits that he's actually experienced this with an ex-girlfriend. The ghost then asks if Jack's experienced what happens next, when everything goes to sleep, and Jack obviously hasn't.

Fanworks

 * A Pokemon fanfic (one of a series that begins with Sword and Shield and features Mewtwo as the partner to a human homicide detective named Brenda Johnson) has Mewtwo and Brenda investigate one of these gone wrong. Mewtwo is disturbed, while the rather jaded Brenda finds it darkly amusing.

Literature

 * Naked Lunch: William Burroughs has a habit of writing scenes where teenage boys very sensually get their necks broken via noose.
 * In Filth by Irvine Welsh, the protagonist Bruce Robertson does this several times with one of his many girlfriends. He first tries it after having failed to save a man from (non-erotic) suffocation. Even though Bruce does not die from erotic asphyxiation.
 * In Hannibal, Mason Verger was into this, but it backfired when Hannibal tricked Verger into cutting his face off and feeding it to his dogs while high out of his mind, and then used the setup to hang him. Verger survived, but horribly maimed and paralyzed.

Live Action TV
"Bruckman: You know, there are worse ways to go, but I can't think of a more undignified way than autoerotic asphyxiation. Mulder: Why are you telling me that? Bruckman: [shrugs] Look, forget I mentioned it. It's none of my business."
 * Six Feet Under had an opener death like this.
 * On The X-Files, Clyde Bruckman (who can see how anyone will die) implies that Mulder will die this way.

"If he hangs himself over this, I can stick an orange in his mouth and call it a fatal wanking accident."
 * Law and Order:
 * There's an episode of Law and Order Special Victims Unit in which a woman is killed and it is made to look like it was an autoerotic asphyxiation accident.
 * A similar scene occurs in Law and Order: Criminal Intent, but with a male victim. He'd also been bludgeoned.
 * This sort of happens on True Blood, but with a twist. Jason is screwing some girl and she's tied up and he chokes her a little, and she "dies". He freaks out and leaves, and then she wakes up—she was just pretending. But then the real serial killer walks in and kills her. Of course, Jason is accused of her murder and even believes himself that he killed her.
 * The Whitest Kids U' Know: This was the subject matter of a sketch. The guy dies, and his ghost is forced to watch as people keep walking in on him in increasingly compromising situations.
 * CSI:
 * The victim in one case apparently died in this fashion. Of course, this being a crime drama, it's never what it first looks like.
 * There was also an episode that did the reverse. It was set up to look like a murder but turned out to be erotic asphyxiation gone wrong.
 * On Better Off Ted Veronica's boyfriend, Mordor, is apparently into this as she mentions hanging him both as part of their magic act and foreplay.
 * The League of Gentlemen: Went Horribly Wrong at a fetish party, when the emcee suffered a fatal heart attack and was unable to release everyone. And none of them lived.
 * Peep Show: Referenced a few times:
 * The first is when the teenage Goth Valerie starts to strangle Mark during sex. He's terrified and thinks she's trying to kill him, until afterwards when she explains that her ex-boyfriend used to love it (Mark still finds it a bit disturbing though).
 * On another occasion, Jeremy gets so dangerously bored sitting around the house doing nothing that he threatens to try "that thing Michael Hutchence did".
 * At one point much later in the series, we get this quote from Mark:


 * A reference to Stephen Milligan MP; see the Real Life section below.
 * Queer as Folk (the US version) has Brian trying this in the first season finale, but he's pulled down by Michael before anything horrible can happen.
 * The 1970 Hawaii Five-O episode "Bored She Hung Herself" was about a deadly yoga technique that had more than a passing resemblance to Erotic Asphyxiation. Allegedly, a viewer tried to imitate the technique and died, which is why "Bored She Hung Herself" has been a Missing Episode ever since.
 * One episode of House features a man who likes to be choked.
 * Farscape: The only on-screen Scorpius/Sikozu sexual scene has him choking her with a chain. With Braca overlooking from a window. Still, that's Scorpy for you. Also, in Season 2, Scorpius has his hands wrapped tightly around Natira's neck when they're having sex.

Music
"Was it a tragic accident or was it suicide, Would they still be here today, if they hadn't gotten bored and tried, Auto-erotic asphyxiation. Did they want to die, there's no way of knowing, They couldn't tell if they were coming or going."
 * Played for very Black Comedy in Mitch Benn's "Auto-Erotic Asphyxiation":


 * According to Michael Gira, Swans' 1986 song "A Hanging" is about this as a form of ritual self-sacrifice.

Theatre

 * In Waiting for Godot, while debating possible ways to pass the time, one of the protagonists suggests hanging themselves to get an erection.

Video Games

 * Happens with you and Mizuki in Yume Miru Kusuri.
 * In Silent Hill: Shattered Memories, "the Choking Game" (which is, if not erotic, at least recreational) is apparently a bit of a fad at Midwich High School, and several students have died doing it.

Webcomics

 * Xkcd suspects Darth Vader of this.
 * Theater Hopper had some people wondering why Vader was strapped to a table in the first Revenge of the Sith trailer, and wondered it he liked that stuff, supporting it with him wearing leather, and that he likely choked officers for this trope.
 * Other Peoples Business: Shown as a part of Leon and Collin's violent relationship.
 * Hinted at with Homestuck's
 * The protagonist of Chopping Block once killed an entire band and made it look like they'd inadvertently strangled themselves during an autoerotic asphyxiation circlejerk. He described this as "priceless."

Western Animation
"Carter: (on video) Hello, if you're watching this, it means they didn't cut the rope when I climaxed. As a result, I'm now dead. Carter's attorney: (fast forwarding the tape) That's not it."
 * Family Guy:
 * Michael Hutchence's death is alluded to in a cutaway gag.
 * In the episode "Business Guy", when Lois' father, Carter falls into a coma, it turns out that he left video wills for several situations:

"Woodhouse: You know, I do recall a lot of loose doorknobs... Stinky: And there was his plane's name. Woodhouse: I always thought that had something to do with his engine. (raises glass) Here's to you, "Choke 'n' Stroke.""
 * This kicks off the Drama Bomb that is "Screams Of Silence: The Story Of Brenda Q.", with Quagmire nearly killing himself via doing this while watching clown porn.
 * The Venture Brothers also refer to Hutchence.
 * Archer:
 * Cheryl likes to be strangled during sex due to her fetish for murder fantasies. Although she is unusual because she doesn't seem to specifically want to be deprived of oxygen so much as she's aroused by the thought of being murdered.
 * In "Double Deuce," Woodhouse finds out the "mysterious death" of one of his old war buddies was just an attempt to cover up an autoerotic asphyxiation mishap.


 * In South Park, Kenny killed himself this way in "Sexual Healing."
 * In American Dad, there is an episode where Stan attempts to kill himself by hanging being one-upped by Steve and Roger. Steve freaks out and Roger is seriously unimpressed, even commenting, "Stan, are you killing yourself or thrilling yourself?"
 * Klaus mentions having nearly died in this act while comparing it to the satisfaction of killing Steve's MMO character.
 * In Metalocalypse, when Pickles has to go to rehab the other bandmates suggest autoerotic asphyxiation as a possible substitute. Ofdensen thinks that's a horrible idea, but the other bandmates think it's a badass way to die.