Long-Distance Relationship

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Perhaps Alice and Bob started out dating while they lived close together and one had to move away (far enough away that they can't see each other on a regular basis); perhaps they began the relationship through the mail (or, in more modern stories, over the Internet) and never met in real life at all (but may be planning to at some point).

At any rate, a story that has a Long-Distance Relationship often deals with its pitfalls, the #1 being that Absence Makes the Heart Go Yonder. If they've promised to reunite but one party takes his / her (generally his) time, it may result in I Will Wait for You; if outside pressures force the waiting party to be with someone else, this then becomes You Have Waited Long Enough. If the relationship breaks down while they're still apart, expect a heartbreaking "Dear John" Letter.

Contrast Girlfriend in Canada, which is where someone pretends to have a Long-Distance Relationship.

Examples of Long-Distance Relationship include:

Anime and Manga

  • Voices of a Distant Star and 5 Centimeters Per Second. Makoto Shinkai loves this trope.
  • Koyuki and Maho in Beck, but only in the manga.
  • In Gunbuster, Kazuki's relationship with Coach Ohta is not only long distance, it very quickly becomes a Mayfly-December Romance because relativistic effects means that Kazuki will outlive Ohta (and most of human civilization, as a matter of fact) by a long shot.
  • During the Sailor Stars arc of Sailor Moon, Mamoru went to America to study, leaving Usagi behind for a large part of the series. (And then it turns out that Mamoru actually had his heart crystal stolen at the airport, and Usagi witnessed it, but she was so traumatized that she repressed this memory. In the anime it's slightly changed; Mamoru gets killed off a little after his plane took off, and since Usagi didn't see it she truly believed Mamoru wasn't able to contact her..)
    • A lesser example is Motoki and Reika. Reika agonizes over accepting a two-year trip to Africa because it will take her away from Motoki. He promises to wait and, after the usual monster attack, she goes. In a later season she returns, only to turn right around and go back to Africa again—this time for ten years.
  • The anime version of Marmalade Boy had this for a while. It didn't work very well though.
  • In Kodomo no Omocha, Sana goes on an extended film project out in the woods and is plagued by rumors and angry fangirls of her colleague who hate her for apparently dating him; later, the prospect of her love interest Hayama going overseas to recuperate from serious injury is enough to send her into a Heroic BSOD, though eventually she comes to terms with it and they are reunited in the Distant Finale.
  • Subaru and Teana fell into this after Magical Girl Lyrical Nanoha StrikerS when their personal goals stationed them in different posts. But as Teana told Subaru in an annoyed tone when they reunited in StrikerS Sound Stage X, the latter kept on bombarding her with so much e-mail that she didn't even notice the distance.
  • Variant in Case Closed: Ran thinks that Shinichi has run off to investigate some kind of case, but in truth he's Conan, aged down thanks to plot.
    • Also, Sonoko and her boyfriend Makoto, who's a world-ranked karate practitioner and is always travelling.
  • Implied at the end of Psycho Staff.
  • The Conditions for Paradise is a Girls Love manga that centers around the challenges of maintaining a long-distance romance.

Film

  • The film The Lake House has an interesting variant: the distance isn't in space so much as in time.
  • The movie Going the Distance is set around a couple trying to have a long distance relationship.
  • Jason and Kelly by the end of Mystery Team.

Literature

  • In L.M. Montgomery's Anne of Green Gables series, Anne and Gilbert carry on one for roughly three years, while he attends medical school and she teaches high school. Anne of Windy Poplars is composed entirely of Anne's letters to Gilbert while they are separated.
    • In Rilla of Ingleside, many of Anne and Gilbert's children carry on long distance relationships during World War I. The one emphasized, obviously, is Rilla's sort-of, unofficial (she's confused) long distance relationship with her childhood friend/crush Ken Ford.
  • In The 39 Clues, Amy Cahill and Evan Tolliver's long-distance relationship (carried on mostly via phone) starts after Amy takes off on a series of missions around the world.

Live-Action TV

  • Done to all the married couples on Defying Gravity, what with half of each pairing being in space for six years.
  • Ziva had one of these on NCIS - cue "sympathy" from jealous Tony, as well as comments from an ex-hooker suggesting that Ziva look closer to home. Now, who could she mean?
  • Kathleen and Jeff on the The Secret Life of the American Teenager whenever Jeff goes on one of his frequent and extended medical missions to Kenya.
  • This trope is petty much the entire point of the show Ny-Lon, which is about a relationship between a girl in New York and a guy in London... which, naturally, leads to a break-up or major fight about how hard long distance relationships are just about every other episode so that one character can dramatically fly across the ocean to re-proclaim there love. Of course, in the end they break up anyway.
  • Stargate Universe takes this to another level, with multiple characters having left significant others on the other side of the universe. The communication stones make things easier. Camille Wray looks likely to stick with her partner, Sharon. Colonel Young's marriage, on the other hand, is less solid.
  • The X-Files: Mulder and Scully carry on a rather clumsily-written version of this trope in the show's final season.
  • Zoey 101: Chase and Zoey attempt this via webcam after she overhears Chase tell his roommates he's in love with her and they switch places in an attempt to be together, but after their video date fails, the come to the conclusion that it wont' work and resolve to try it for real when they're together again.
  • CSI, post season 9. Grissom and Sara are married, but Sara is working at the lab in Vegas, while Grissom travels and researches and lectures.
  • Ted in How I Met Your Mother with Victoria, his first serious girlfriend in the series when she moves to Germany for a baking scholorship. Future!Ted tells us right from the start that long distance relationships never work. Including theirs.

Music

  • On the Bruce Hornsby and the Range album The Way It Is, the narrator in "Every Little Kiss" is in one.

Oral Tradition

  • Name a fairy tale where the Official Couple get together in the first few scenes, and one or the other will have to leave their lover behind for whatever reason. Cue Laser-Guided Amnesia.

Video Games

  • The Tokimeki Memorial series has a couple of examples of this, most notably with Kaedeko Sakura in Tokimeki Memorial 2 and Chiharu Aoki in Tokimeki Memorial Girl's Side 1. Due to the series' alignment to the far end of the idealism's side of the Sliding Scale and its extremely strong Power of Love theme, they always work out in the end.

Web Comics

  • In Bittersweet Candy Bowl, the main character Mike is dating a girl named Sandy, who moved away when they were younger.