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Boy Meets Girl. Boy and girl spark off each other. After ninety minutes or so, they decide that they're in love and belong together; unfortunately, fates have usually conspired to keep them apart. Will they find each other again and live Happily Ever After? Have a guess.

The romantic comedy genre is one of the most popular film genres out there; count how many films are released in a year, and see how many of them follow the rough template established above. Audiences love to watch two people fall in love and find their happily ever after, usually with each other.

However, Sturgeon's Law applies, and a lot of those comedies are terrible. Do not despair if you're thinking of writing one, however; the good people at TV Tropes Wiki have sat through many of these and identified what works and what doesn't, and how this might hopefully help your effort be the best it can be. Of course, be sure to check out So You Want To Write A Story for basic advice that holds across all genres.

Necessary Tropes

Well, first you'll need a Protagonist and a Love Interest (although if you wish to try for a Romantic Comedy about onanism, by all means). You can decide which will be the man and which will be the woman (or vice versa, or both). You will also need a Beta Couple to underscore the romantic tribulations of the main two characters; generally these characters are the Protagonist and Love Interest's Best Friends / Direct Siblings / Both and act as advisors and comic relief to the main couple and the audience. They may or may not get together at the end; alternately, they may be used to provide a counterpoint to the main couple (i.e. if the Protagonist is lonely and love-lorn, his / her counterpart in the Beta Couple may be happily married with kids).

Check out any of the tropes in the Romance Arc; most, if not all, will be essential in a romantic comedy. In particular, 'comedy' these days generally implies 'Happily Ever After', and audiences will probably feel cheated if the characters don't end up happy, or at least content, at the end. Check out the Love Tropes as well.

Generally speaking, most Romantic Comedies tend to involve Opposites Attract - watching two people who apparently have nothing in common is often more interesting so see if they'll overcome their differences to get together (and more satisfying when they do). There's a lot more tension involved as well; audiences for these movies like to see a bit of Slap Slap Kiss before they get together (not literally, of course; aside from the unfortunate connotations, the actual Slap! Slap! Kiss! scene is a bit of a Dead Horse Trope these days).

Whether the Protagonist and the Love Interest are friends or enemies initially, there will also be some Unresolved Sexual Tension between the two; it's the chemistry that draws people in to watch and see whether they get together. If they don't possess this throughout but get together anyway, the audience will most likely find it a bit unsatisfying.

At the end, there will usually be some kind of Race For Your Love situation, where the Protagonist desperately has to chase after the person they love before they walk out of his / her life forever. There may also be a Concert Climax situation where a very public declaration of love is made, followed (hopefully) by a Concert Kiss.

Choices, Choices

Firstly, who are your two love birds? What backgrounds do they come from? How are they different? How are they similar? Are they Peas In A Pod or will Opposites Attract?

How does their relationship progress? Is it Love At First Sight or do they hate each other with a passion? Are they two strangers who find themselves bumping into each other in a Meet Cute situation or are they two old friends / or enemies -- who find their Like Brother and Sister or tense relationship becoming something very different?

Why haven't they found love already? Is this somebody's first love (or infatuation), has somebody been burned in a previous relationship, has a past love died, does somebody have unrealistic expectations about what love is,[1] or is there some other reason the characters can't find love? The reason you choose here — or the reasons, you can give each character a different reason — will add to the characters' backstory.

Pitfalls

When it comes to pitfalls, this genre is a minefield. Fortunately, so many others have been through it before you (and blown themselves up) that there's plenty of signs to show you where you might be misstepping.

As the Romantic Comedy is a very common, very popular genre, it's easy to get lazy with it. Unfortunately, the audience will be able to tell if you're just going through the motions. It's also very formulaic in many ways, and can be quite predictable for much the same reasons; try and think of different spins you can place on the situation, or subversions of obvious tropes that you can make (some suggested below).

Specifically, it's also very easy for reasons to keep the lovers apart until the very end to come across as being contrived or unconvincing; if the plot is demanding that the lovers be kept apart, then the reasons for this should be natural and logical, and should stem from the characters themselves rather than outside contrivances.

It's also common to set up a Love Triangle situation with the Protagonist, the Love Interest and Romantic False Lead, someone whom the Protagonist must compete with in order to win the Love Interest. Be careful with this character; because they often operate more as a plot device (they're essentially a tool to keep the characters apart) than a character in their own right, Romantic False Lead can be difficult to pull off. To much of a Jerkass or a bland, boring non-entity, and the audience wonders what the character with Romantic False Lead sees in them -- and, consequently, whether the character is worth persuing, since s/he obviously has poor taste in romantic partners. Too much a nice guy, and the other partner begins to look like a selfish Jerkass themselves for trying to destroy a healthy relationship for their own selfish ends. Have Romantic False Lead seem like a nice guy but suddenly reveal themselves to be a jackass can look inconsistent. There is a middle ground, wherein the Paolo is a convincing romantic rival but with enough flaws to justify being rejected, but it's tricky to find.

Be wary also of setting up a Runaway Bride situation as well, where the Love Interest dumps Romantic False Lead at the altar to be with their true love; unless you really play it well, this might seem less an affirmation of The Power of Love, and more an illustration of the Love Interest as Heartless Bitch (or, less frequently, Heartless Bastard) - s/he couldn't have let their future spouse down in a less publicly humiliating and destructive fashion?

Try not to make it look as if you are merely Cleaning Up Romantic Loose Ends when protagonist and Love Interest eventually get together. They should come together naturally, not forced together simply because the writer insists.

Avoid, avoid, avoid the Three Is Company trope wherever possible; the old 'the characters are kept apart by a half-cocked reaction to a misunderstanding that would be easily resolved if they just actually slowed down and spoke to each other about it for a minute' device is not only painfully contrived, it's also cliched and hackneyed, and tends to rely heavily on the Idiot Ball to prevent the characters from actually talking through the misunderstanding. Same with the Poor Communication Kills tropes in general, really. No Sympathy can also be grating and annoying for the audience; if the character has obviously gone through hell and back for the sake of their loved one, then if the loved one merely spits in their face despite all evidence to the contrary, it tends not to reflect well on them. Both can be used, however; but after being used poorly for so long, it's really very difficult to pull them off well.

Romantic comedies are, in general, a very upbeat, optimistic genre; this can, however, tip over into Tastes Like Diabetes if you're not careful, which is guaranteed to lead to both copious amounts of vomit and your work showing up on the Narm index very swiftly. Avoid Sickeningly Sweethearts (being in love is wonderful, but doesn't mean you have to get ridiculous about showing it), and be wary of the Romantic Plot Tumor. Rousseau may have been right, but that doesn't mean you have to get crazy with it.

Related to that, avoid the temptation to write the two leads as agreeing with each other in everything from the very beginning. If you want the audience's attention, you want to write an Official Couple who has some issues to work out, not a Beta Couple who have a completely harmonious relationship. Working out the differences can be (and in many works has been) the driving force of the entire plot.

Potential Subversions

There's tremendous symbolism in the fictional union of Man and Woman, or so claims Christopher Booker. By putting the focus on the love itself on a backdrop of any other plot, the Romance genre distills the symbolism to its essence, showing us two characters who overcome both internal and external obstacles to ultimately come together in the bonds of True Love. Some might even say that it's the job of the Romance genre to be at least that predictable.

So messing with the basics can make for a less satisfying work... maybe even a flawed work (go read Booker's The Seven Basic Plots for more info on this). Still, there are possible ways to subvert the traditional elements of the Romance:

  • Pretty much all Romantic Comedies are Boy Meets Girl or Girl Meets Boy; how about Girl Meets Girl? Or Boy Meets Boy? Or Girl Meets Boy and Girl? (To be interpreted any way you wish.) And so on.
  • Pretty much all Romantic Comedies also end up with the Protagonist and the Love Interest finding love together; what if both decide that they really would be simply Better as Friends? Or what if the Protagonist decides that (s)he's better off without the Love Interest and meets someone else? Or decides that (s)he is happiest single?
  • There's also usually a Wedding involved somewhere; what about the Protagonist and the Love Interest actively deciding not to get married?
  • Romantic comedies also tend to start on the assumption that Everybody Is Single - try playing with this. Perhaps the characters are already married?

Oh, and speaking of the aforementioned rival - why can't he/she get any love? Maybe some friend of the protagonist's or love interest's catches their eye, or a new character enters 'round about act two and falls for them. (Incidentally, this way it's fine to have the rival be as good a person as the hero; they simply have another commitment now.)

Aside from subverting the normal expectations, try setting the Romance in any number of secondary genres or settings that aren't what you'd think of when you hear "Romantic Comedy". For example, Romantic Comedy In Space. Or Romantic Comedy set in Feudal Japan or in the midst of the Holocaust. Or a Romantic Comedy between a caveman and a cavewoman, or between bacteria (in the style of Osmosis Jones). Or a superhero romantic comedy. Seeing the lovers develop in a new setting is interesting; there's been a zombie romantic comedy, why not try something else?

Romantic Comedies do suffer from something like the Animation Age Ghetto, as people tend to think they're Chick Flicks - hence, some men avoid them. You can bypass that impression, if you wish, by putting in plenty of stuff to appeal to both genders (without destroying the basic elements that make it appealing to the Romance crowd in the first place).

Also, consider very well the impression you want the heroine to leave; while the Persephone "waif"-style heroine is a valid choice whose character strengths get woefully undervalued, there's much to be said for a powerful girl who's more than a match for the guy, as Girl Genius is currently showing us. A lot of Romance starts with a strong girl and breaks her; consider one who grows in ways other than merely turning gentle.

And there's nothing saying that you have to write a standard Hollywood heterosexual couple. Hollywood tends to play same-sex relationships for laughs; why not remove the imbalance and use the same romance-vs-comedy balance that a romantic comedy with a heterosexual lead couple gets?[2]

Writers' Lounge

Suggested Themes and Aesops

Love Wins, basically; regardless of the odds and difficulties it brings to the characters, Romantic Comedies nearly all assert that Love is ultimately worth it; it enriches our lives, connects us with other people, and brings us happiness and fulfillment. Even if you choose to have a subversion and not have your characters get together, at the end of the day you'll still want to keep this in mind and suggest that Love is still worth it, that they aren't broken and will try again; Romantic Comedies that end on a note of bitterness and misery rarely succeed or are well received. Love might hurt, but whilst you may wish to indicate this you shouldn't overly-dwell on it.

Also, in some ways Rousseau Was Right; most people, regardless of their character flaws, are inherently decent, caring, capable of giving love and worthy of receiving it in return. Love Redeems us all in the end.

Potential Motifs

Christopher Booker invests a lot of symbolism in his idea of The Comedy, which to him means a pair of lovers kept apart by either (1) the Antagonist or (2) the Hero, while the rest of the cast suffer from general confusion and misunderstanding that keeps them from getting into the proper and fulfilling relationships they're destined to enjoy. Once the Hero or Antagonist comes around (Booker claims it's usually a Heel Face Turn that ends a comedy, though occasionally the Antagonist is driven off rather than redeemed), everything is brought to light, everybody finds their proper mate, and there's just a general rejoicing, as though a blight has been driven off the land.

So if you want to invest your story with symbolic roles and relationships, and especially if you want to rise to the level of Shakespeare with three or more couples who through misunderstanding and confusion can't get together until the end, then set yourself down for a long read with Booker's The Seven Basic Plots. (Long, long, long read. But it's good stuff.)

Suggested Plots

The Romance Arc, essentially.

Departments

Set Designer / Location Scout

There's a great deal of possible variety here - the great thing about love stories is that they can happen to anyone anywhere anywhen, so there's great potential. For reasons of cost and ease, however, many of them are set in the present in a major city (New York and London are popular candidates).

Props Department

Not a great deal needed here - all you really need for this genre is a camera and two people, minimum - but you can always work something in. The big climactic get-together scene is usually good for this sort of thing.

Costume Designer

As above, the variety of settings influences the variety of possible costuming available; you may wish to use costuming to give the audience a sense of character.

Casting Director

Your Protagonist and Love Interest should be charismatic, engaging, and charming. We should like these people and want them to ultimately succeed and find happiness with each other. This doesn't mean that they have to be (or even should be) perfect exemplars of human perfection, however; they should also possess character flaws and issues which affect how they engage with each other and how their relationship develops with each other. It'll be much more interesting for audiences to watch / read two flawed but ultimately decent people overcome their faults in pursuit of love than to watch two paragons fall for each other and become the Perfect Couple; that way, you'll also avoid Sickeningly Sweethearts.

Your Alpha Couple also needs that oft-mentioned, ill-defined quality of 'chemistry' with each other; they need to spark with each other. This creates Unresolved Sexual Tension with each other that keeps the audience watching and guessing, and also makes the relationship credible. This is difficult enough on paper, but is super-hard if you're casting with actors, because chemistry in live action isn't just something that happens in the dialogue; it comes from the actors and how they play off each other. If the main couple really dislike each other off-screen and are incapable of hiding it, it'll show in the final product; obviously you can't make people like each other, but you'll want to make sure they can at least hide their dislike as much as possible.

Stunt Department

Very few opportunities, it must be said, unless you're combining your Rom Com with another genre. The Race For Your Love sequence may offer a few possibilities, however.

Extra Credit

The Greats

  • Not very many romantic comedies are worth note, however, you might want to check out:
    • There's Something About Mary (which is very funny) and
    • My Big Fat Greek Wedding (which is both romantic and funny).
    • Before Sunrise / Before Sunset (which are more Romantic Dramadies, but very very touching)
    • Ah! My Goddess It is a long-running manga series with an excellent anime adaptation. The relationship moves slowly in the manga and the anime, but it is genuinely touching and sweet. If you like something that moves quickly, then look somewhere else, but if you've got time, then give it a go.
  • Many of the British ones holds a much higher quality:
  • And of course, the classics:
    • There's a reason the works of Jane Austen are still read today, over two hundred years after they were first published; they're witty, insightful and, of course, romantic. Pride and Prejudice seems to be the most popular one (both in novel form and in adaptations) but her other works, such as Sense and Sensibility and Emma also have much to recommend them.

Let's not forget to study the romances that aren't comedies! Dramedies and dramas can both be useful - and you might even decide to recast a dramatic tale into a comedy.

  • Don't neglect the stories that have Romance as a secondary factor instead of the primary one. For example, the web comic Girl Genius, which takes a mousy, incompetent lab assistant and gradually builds her into the most powerful force in all of Steampunk Europa, while also working with a romantic lead who's got a lot of growing to do himself. They're both powerful, both stubborn but capable of accepting when they're wrong (and changing), and ultimately well matched, though it was hardly apparent from the start.
    • This equation is made even more gripping by the addition of a rival love interest who, in strong contrast to Romantic False Lead, is a well-developed character in his own right, and one the audience can enjoy and root for instead of booing offstage. (It helps that he used to be the Hero's best friend, and consequently they're capable of working together toward a common interest.) The Hero and the Rival are contrasted on many levels, equal on others; in fact, the contrast between them was showcased in a vignette that wasn't directly connected to the story, so we could see what they were like when the issues between them were dropped for a while and it was just the two characters vying for the lady's hand.
  • Similarly, Elf Quest has a strong with a well-developed rival during the first graphic novel, and continues to build on the relationship long after the pair is "married" (it's complicated). During the far-reaching story, there are moments of culture clash, of separation; the rival throws some new obstacles their way, and we even get to see the main pair as they raise twins. But just the first graphic novel alone would be a good study.
  • Eureka Seven is one of those rare shows which combine dramatic romance with action and do it well. If you're looking to cross rom com with sci fi or action, give that a look.

The Epic Fails

40 Days and 40 Nights had the worst example of Three Is Company and No Sympathy ever seen on screen. Seriously Dude, Not Funny!

  1. The "how to write" podcast Let’s Make a Rom-Com explores this in their pitch for a romantic comedy titled "His Ex-Girlfriend is Salma Hayek" — how can the female lead possibly manage to live up to that expectation?
  2. Besides the fact that Hollywood would never fund it, of course; Hide Your Lesbians and Think of the Advertisers! are still powerful in US media as of the mid-2020s.