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{{quote|''"You're like a sponge! You take, take, take, and drain others of their love and emotion!"''|'''Columbia''', ''[[The Rocky Horror Picture Show]]''}}
In order for a relationship to stay together, each party must put some work into the relationship, and they must appreciate the results. Sometimes, one party has to put more effort in than the other, sometimes it's evenly spread. Of course, it can also become a very sick relationship when it's '''All Take
▲In order for a relationship to stay together, each party must put some work into the relationship, and they must appreciate the results. Sometimes, one party has to put more effort in than the other, sometimes it's evenly spread. Of course, it can also become a very sick relationship when it's All Take And No Give. This trope comes in two flavors with a middle ground.
In the first variant, the Taker knows the Giver is insecure and [[Love Hungry|wants to feel needed and wanted]], so they [[Manipulative Bastard|manipulate]] and extort the Giver into [[Living Emotional Crutch|giving them what they want]] in exchange for morsels of affection. These relationships are typically led by a domineering [[Bratty Half-Pint]], [[Fantasy-Forbidding Father]] or [[Clingy Jealous Girl]] over an [[Extreme Doormat]].
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* In ''[[Atlas Shrugged]]'', Hank Rearden's idle family live off his success and insult him for it at the same time. An even more explicit version of the second type is railroad executive James Taggart's marriage to Cherryl Brooks; his lifting her out of her life as a dime-store worker left her as a [[Fish Out of Water]] unable to cope in her husband's social circle and dependent on him for everything—and that's just what he wanted. Cherryl [[Go Mad from the Revelation|Goes Mad From The Revelation]] when she realizes this; James does the same when he can't hide from his motivation any longer.
* In one lesser-known story by German author [[Janosch]] about a donkey falling in love with an owl. (With the donkey being the giver, and the owl being the taker.) Does he want to suggest that men in love should act like that?! Now that's a [[Family-Unfriendly Aesop]].
* In ''[[Harry Potter and
** Of course, it goes the other way as well. {{spoiler|As Ginny eagerly poured out her heart and soul to Tom Riddle, he fed off of it to the point where he had sucked nearly all of the life out of her.}}
* [[C. S. Lewis|CS Lewis]] used this trope a lot.
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* In Alma Katsu's ''The Taker'', Lanny is the Giver and Jonathan is the Taker. A sort of mix between the two types: Lanny will do anything for Jonathan, no matter the cost or risk to herself - including [[Poisonous Friend|a few things he would not have wanted her to do for him, had she bothered to ask him.]]
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* In the second season of ''[[True Blood]]'', the maenad Maryann functions as the giver to the alcoholic, emotionally fragile Tara. She invites Tara to live in her mansion where she's pampered around the clock, under the guise of trying to help the girl turn her life around. {{spoiler|In reality, Maryann is trying to drive a wedge between Tara and her abusive mother so that she can control Tara's life herself, [[Emotion Eater|feeding off her anguish and rage]].}}
* In an episode of ''[[Seinfeld]]'', Jerry refers to himself as a Taker and another character as a Giver, and argues that a relationship between a Giver and Taker is the ideal.
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