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{{quote|''"But wasn't it her fault as well as the man's?"''
''"Nothing is ever a lady's fault, you'll learn that," Lord Trimingham told me.''
''This remark, confirming something I already felt, made an immense impression on me.''
|'''L.P. Hartley''', ''The Go-Between''}}
A special kind of [[Double Standard]] that completely screws around with a show's internal logic. A male character is portrayed performing an act that seems evil and unfair in a relationship, like say, looking at another woman. Meanwhile, a female character can perform the exact same actions but not receive any sort of penalty or negative dividends for it. As such, the end result of this is usually both that male sexuality (and the expressions thereof) are presented as inherently 'wrong', 'dirty' and 'ugly', and that any problems that arise in a heterosexual relationship are automatically the man's fault.
This trope most commonly appears in long-running series—shorter works rarely deal with the characters long enough for the disconnect to be very obvious. This trope is also highly abstract in execution—expect the target of the discontent to either be a [[Girl of the Week|Guy Or Girl of The Week]].
For a look at affairs in general, see [[Good Adultery, Bad Adultery]]. Interestingly, the more involved [[Nominal Importance|named characters]] a work has in any given adultery plot, the closer the [[Sympathetic Adulterer]] ratio between men and women reaches 1:1. [[I'm a Man, I Can't Help It]] overrides this trope, but only with sympathetic male characters. The [[Inverted Trope]] of [[My Girl Is Not a Slut]], for the post-Women's Lib era.
'''Note:
Overlaps with [[Females Are More Innocent]], [[Women Are Wiser]], [[The Mistress]], and [[Never My Fault]].
Yes this happens for real, like ''
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== [[Anime]] and [[Manga]] ==
* In ''[[Ranma ½]]'', [[Arranged Marriage|Akane]], [[Accidental Marriage|Shampoo]], [[Childhood Marriage Promise|Ukyo]] and even [[Stalker with a Crush|Kodachi]] are ''incredibly quick'' to administer violent "justice" upon Ranma whenever ''they'' think he's interested in another girl. But past the manga's turning point, when Ranma sincerely believed that Akane loved the newcomer Shinnosuke, he took his grievances with ''the new guy'' and was incredibly polite and submissive towards Akane, only screaming his frustration when he was alone in the forest. And even when Ranma outright asked her "Why?" [[Cannot Spit It Out|Akane never bothered explaining]] [[I Owe You My Life|that she was]] [[Chronic Hero Syndrome|helping]] [[Incurable Cough of Death|Shinnosuke]]; meanwhile, no one ever lets ''Ranma'' [[I Can Explain|explain]] [[Not What It Looks Like|his unfortunate]] [[Accidental Pervert|accidents]], let alone ''ask'' him.
** There's even a [[Lampshading]] of this very early in the series: Akane walks in on Ranma while he's getting out of the bath, and both are naked, although Akane at least has a towel. Akane gets pissed at him, and when he points out the blatant unfairness of this, she responds with "It's different for girls!" Also note in both similar scenes, He looks her in the eyes, she looks him up and down.
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** Another example is when Naru frequently beats Keitaro up when he enters her room as she is changing her clothes. Once, however,''she'' had dropped in while ''he'' was changing clothes. Still, she beat him up. This was rather badly [[Hand Wave|hand waved]] by saying that at this point, it's a reflex.
** Perhaps the most unfair example would have to be that whenever Keitaro walks into the girls baths (always accidentally) he is [[Megaton Punch|punched right into the sky]] no questions asked, but when Naru suddenly walked in on Keitaro bathing and '''jumped into his bathtub''', Keitaro could do nothing. Afterwards her clothes became see-through and she decided that it was somehow his fault and punched him for her stupidity.
* Similar to the above example, in ''[[
** In addition, Ken spends half an episode with his eyes covered by a mask that ''tazes him if he tries to remove it''... so he can't see the girls in their swimsuits (In fear of what? At worst he would say pervy comments, but nothing beyond the usual. It's not like they can't kick his ass, they do it on a daily basis anyway), and once the mask breaks by sheer luck, they lock him on a closet ''and leave him there overnight''. Basically, they treat him like if he was a super-pervert of sorts who would, well, do ''really bad things'' to them if let unguarded even one second, even though he's more of [[All Men Are Perverts|a generic pervert]] at worst and he genuinely cares for them. However, and now comes the "unfair" part: [[Tall, Dark and Bishoujo|Chizuru]] [[Lolicon|acts MUCH worse towards]] [[Token
* In general, this happens way too often on most [[Harem Series]], where the guy will get treated as a pervert even when he's completely innocent (Or simply get mistreated for anything period), but girls doing the same thing or worse results in... nothing at best, the guy being punished anyway at worst.
** Notable exception is the [[Tenchi Muyo!]] multiverse, where the guy is usually a genuine [[Nice Guy]] and the girls are less temperamental towards him (though the same can't be said towards each other at times).
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* Comically slightly subverted in ''[[Futari Ecchi]]'' with the relationship between Rika and Yamada. ''Both'' of them cheat on each other (having, as the Japanese say it, "sex friends" on the side), ''both'' of them are angry when finding out that the ''other'' one cheated, ''both'' of them (especially Rika) are viewed as hypocritical because of this and ''both'' of them are quarrelsome but occasionally have a [[Aw, Look -- They Really Do Love Each Other]] scene, although Rika is presented as [[Closer to Earth]], and thus slightly more positive.
* Averted in ''[[GE - Good Ending]]'', where you get called out if you really screw up, regardless of your gender, and you're expected to work to deal with the consequences of your actions.
* A rather low-key example of this is during the ''[[Cowboy Bebop]]'' episode
== [[Comic Books]] ==
* Writer [[Geoff Johns]] reinvented the [[Green Lantern Corps]] so that now there are seven Corps, each representing a different emotion. The Violet Corps represents love.
* The [[X-Men]]'s Cyclops cheats on his wife Jean Grey with [[Femme Fatale|Emma Frost]] ''in his mind'' (though that was actually Emma telepathically messing with his mind) and he's seen as a cruel cheat. But nobody mentions that earlier, Grey had lusted for and even made out with [[Wolverine]].
** And Gambit, and Fantomex. Lets not leave her lusting after them out of the way.
** However, inverted in ''[[X-Men: Evolution]]'', where for some reason, Jean is apparently a dirt whore for dating Duncan and being attracted to then-Best friend Scott, but when Pietro Maximoff dated four girls at the same time, no one had any complaint.
*** Well, Pietro IS one of the bad guys, one figures calling out bad guys for being bad is a waste of time.
* Karen Page became a drug-addicted porn actress, sold [[Daredevil
* One of the early issues of ''[[Ninja High School]]'' features Sammi, a Chinese food delivery female forced to dress like a male due to the stupidity of her father making a bet with his friends to have a son (its a long story). In the story she runs afoul of the local cheerleaders who are very feminist and one of the girls takes a liking to Sammi (again due to looking like a boy). Sammi tries to let the girl down gently that she isn't interested. But this only offends her friends since they think Sammi figures she not good enough, to the point they nearly kill Sammi over it. Said girl isn't a saint either, practically trying to ''force'' Sammi to be her boyfriend. At the end, when Sammi finally reveals her secret to the girl, said girl gets angry (for her VERY psychotic mistake) and hits Sammi with a mallet for the embarrassment. Granted its played for laughs but really some people can't take a hint.
== [[Film]] ==
* Happens in ''dozens'' of [[Lifetime Movie of the Week|Lifetime Movies]]. The man cheats? His fault! The woman cheats? His fault ''too''!
* ''Before the Rains'' has the man taking advantage of the woman, who is trapped by her society.
* In the Meryl Streep movie ''[[It's Complicated]]'', the main character divorced her sleazy husband when he cheated on her. But when the main character has an affair with her (now married) ex-husband, it's treated like one wild fun sign of her living life. Her friends cheer and laugh when they find out. She does spend a good portion of the movie agonizing over the fact that she can't seem to stop, its when both her friends and her
* Somewhat subverted in ''[[American Beauty]]'', as although the protagonist, the dad, does get 'punished' in the end, it's {{spoiler|not at all related to his breaking away from his materialistic diseased harpy and hateful daughter and subsequent adultery, but a bizarre misunderstanding.}} Although we're lead to think that at first. It then goes even further, as {{spoiler|he didn't actually end up committing adultery, but his wife did,}} yet her... shall we say ambitions, seem to be presented as justified. In fact, while everyone else is busy manipulating their loved ones, the worst thing {{spoiler|Lester does is blackmail his hated boss.}}
* In the
* Averted in ''It Could Happen to You'', the husband has an affair after his already materialistic wife grows distant from him after they both win the lottery, and he is considered to be sympathetic, since their relationship had already been on the rocks.
* Averted in ''[[Along Came Polly]]'' where the wife is considered shallow for doing the hunky nudist scuba instructor on their honeymoon, and the husband is portrayed sympathetically and {{spoiler|refuses to take her back.}}
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* A bit downplayed in ''[[American Dreamer]]''. Cathy, while under [[Easy Amnesia]], does sleep with another guy, but her husband isn't a cad, just a controlling jerk.
== [[Literature]] ==
* Intentionally [[Invoked Trope|invoked]] in ''[[The Belgariad]]'', as the main characters engage in a [[Running Gag|long running exchange]] of witty banter over the "fairness" of which gender gets to do which things, complete with an informal scoring system for particularly telling jibes.
* In one of the ''Warhammer'' books about Malus Darkblade (Bloodstorm, to be precise), Malus mentioned in passing that a druchii woman could have as many lovers as she wished, while a male druchii was expected to be faithful. This example is especially notable due to the context - Malus's half-sister had discovered that her lover, Bruglir, was cheating on her. She got so angry that she literally became a living saint of the god of murder himself - and the first two times she appears, she was in the middle of her harem and having an orgy, respectively. Psychologically justified in that the overlord of the Druchii is the Witch King Malekith, who has a major Oedipus complex with his mother Morathi, who used to head up the largest Slaaneshi cult in the elf world. Malekith was born, and reached prominence, by his mother screwing the king of the elves. In short the entire kingdom of Nagaroth is built on the back of matriarchy, or rather the matriarch's penchant for being on her back. Other instances include only females are aloud to use magic, baby boys are rounded up for mass sacrifice one night a year, with the few survivors becoming assassins who are by game mechanic unable to lead their female counterparts. Strange how the evil elf races are always this trope in spades.
* Subverted in ''Last Night at Chateau Marmont'' by [[The Devil Wears Prada|Lauren Weisberger]]: throughout the novel, as Brooke and Julian's marriage falls apart, Brooke seems to constantly put the blame on how much Julian's career takes him away from home and otherwise causes him to neglect her. All while she insists on putting her career first by continuing to work sixty hours a week at two jobs, income from which they don't need anymore now that Julian's first album has gone platinum within its first week out. The subversion comes from the fact that she admits as much at the end {{spoiler|when they reconcile}}, acknowledging that she's guilty of the same thing.
* In one of ''[[The Princess Diaries]]'' books, Mia's friend Tina is dumped by text message by her boyfriend after she fails to return his calls, leading to her friends calling him a sexist pig. Granted, he broke up with her in an obnoxious way, but nobody calls her out for being rude enough to ignore his phone calls.
** She is indirectly called out to this, as Mia's mother says during a conversation that it is just plain rude to not return somebody's calls.
* The [[Anita Blake]] series practically runs on this trope after Narcissus in Chains. The main character has about 8 official lovers and sleeps with many other man during the course of each book, yet, except, Richard who's treated as the resident Jerkass, none of her main lovers are allowed to even look at another person, and she has dumped some lovers for being unfaithful. The author tries to justify with Magical Addiction to sex.
* Some people say that ''[[Their Eyes Were Watching God]]'' has this trope written all over it. [[Your Mileage May Vary|Your Mileage May REALLY Vary]], however, because while Janie ''did'' leave her first husband with another man and then condemned her second husband while he was on his deathbed, the narrative makes it clear that she was an extremely naive, too-romantic-for-her-own-good girl whose hasty decision to run off with Joe Starks was probably '''not''' the best of decisions considering that Joe Starks turns out to be an [[Crazy Jealous Guy|insanely possessive]] [[Jerkass]] who tried to [[Stay in the Kitchen|emotionally control her as a submissive housewife]], which also most likely indicates that her [["The Reason You Suck" Speech]] to him wasn't ''entirely'' unjustified. Plus, she never acted "bitchy" toward Tea Cake who mostly treated her like an equal (not even when she thought that he had left her or when he slapped her after she was set up on a date with another man), and the very fact that Tea Cake was shown to be a fairly decent and sweet husband ''should'' be a good indication that this book wasn't aimed at painting the entire male gender as abusive jerks. Any [[Unfortunate Implications]] here probably fall under [[Men Are the Expendable Gender]] or [[Her Heart Will Go On]] better than this one.
* In the ''[[House of Night]]'' series, Zoey initially was slightly hesitant about having a relationship with Erik because he had previously dated Aphrodite. This is after (A) she walked in on Aphrodite all but ''raping'' Erik (trying to force a blowjob on him while he repeatedly asked her to stop) and (B) it was made pretty obvious that Aphrodite and her friends made use of Erik and other boys in such a way. Zoey does hook up with Erik...and dives into a relationship with a teacher at the school, while rekindling a relationship with her human boyfriend. {{spoiler|At the end of the third book, we're apparently supposed to think Erik's such a mean guy for not being so kind and understanding that Zoey had sex with said teacher and just had "We share a bond" as an excuse.}}
* Averted in ''[[Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince (novel)|Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince]]''. After Ron found out that Hermione might have kissed a guy who asked her out two years prior while she was single ''and'' getting told that [[My Sister Is Off-Limits|his overbearing watchdog tendencies about his sister]] where due to his own inexperience with girls, he gets into an extremely shallow relationship with basically the first girl to give him the time of day, largely out of spite. He is portrayed as insensitive and, giving how publicly he flaunts the relationship, pretty hypocritical, and quickly gets his own comeuppance by means of [[Clingy Jealous Girl|his “girlfriend” being utterly insufferable]]. Hermione [[Operation: Jealousy|attempts to retaliate]] by asking out the [[Jerk Jock]] who had been eyeing for most of the book… only for the plan to implode immediately since she genuinely can’t stand the guy. Harry, and by extension the narrator, are quick to point out that they’re both idiots, though he’s slightly more overtly critical of Hermione, possibly owing to the fact that Ron was being an impulsive idiot who didn’t think things through, whereas Hermione was being consciously and deliberately petty.
{{quote|'''Narrator''': "Harry was left to ponder in silence the depths to which girls would sink to get revenge."}}
** And note that this was written by a woman.
** Ironically, despite the book's point, a good deal of the fanbase blamed the whole shebang entirely on either Ron or Hermione. Usually Ron.
* Played with all the time in most [[Danielle Steel]]'s novels. It is played straight whenever there is a [[May–December Romance]]. A villain (usually male, of course), is said to look ridiculous dating/marrying a younger woman, and the woman in question is always made out to be a gold-digging, airheaded tramp. Meanwhile, her heroines, can easily date or marry someone up to ''40'' years older with no one batting an eye. (In all fairness, her male protagonists are often granted this privilege too). But this trope is usually averted in the case of adultery. Usually no matter what, a protagonist and his/her True Love's adulterous relationships will be portrayed as good, while their cuckolded spouses will be portrayed as horrible excuses for human beings.
* ''[[Robert A. Heinlein|The Notebooks of Lazarus Long]]:'' From his "ingredients for a happy marriage":
{{quote|In a family argument, if it turns out you are right--apologize at once! }}
* Justified in ''Guilty Wives''. The four eponymous wives do all cheat on their husbands, but it's hard to really hold it against them. Abbie, the protagonist, did cheat on her husband Jeffrey, but he had been cheating on her for quite some time before the action of the novel began, and she knew it. Bryah's husband Colton had been abusing her. Serena and Winnie, it's true, did not have such good excuses. Even so, the revenge that their husbands take is so out of proportion that you can't really hate the four women.
=== Magazines ===
* ''Cosmopolitan'' magazine and others like it ''run'' on this trope. Some examples:
** [http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/relationship-advice/how-to-tell-if-a-guy-is-cheating This] article offers some signs that the reader should note to tell whether their partner is cheating. They range from more-or-less reasonable to being rather paranoid, but all could have potentially innocuous explanations outside of infidelity. Take note, however, that number five on this particular list is "[[Hypocritical Humor|he becomes suspicious of you]]". While it is [[Truth in Television]] that one of the signs of being in an abusive or unhealthy relationship is irrational jealousy, the author apparently doesn't notice the [[Double Standard]] of suggesting that a man being suspicious of his partner's fidelity is itself suspicious in a list which is practically encouraging women to suspiciously micro-observe their male partner's behaviour.
*** Number 4. Wow, just wow. He is now happy because he is getting sex and attention. If you are ignoring your partner to the point where (s)he is depressed then I think you may be a touch to blame.
** [http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/relationship-advice/get-revenge-on-cheaters This article] offers some suggestions for punishing a man whom the reader suspects has been unfaithful (and note that the article is called "10 Things to Do if You ''Think'' Your Man Is Cheating", and ''none'' of the suggestions is "make absolutely sure first"). They include stealing his property, painful 'practical jokes' (including poisoning him with laxatives), public humiliation and, in the case of number ten, a good old fashioned [[Groin Attack]]. The lesson being, adultery bad (when the man does it), but assault, abuse and theft a-ok (when the woman does it). The article also begins with a leader about a prominent male celebrity who has recently been in the news for adultery, which says something along the lines of "we don't know the full story, but one thing's for sure; his wife's a frigging angel". However, the identity of the celebrity changes depending on which matter of celebrity adultery is most timely; at one point it was Tiger Woods, another Arnold Schwarzenegger, and so forth. Not only is the automatic assumption that, the man's adultery aside, the woman is an innocent at no fault in the relationship, but in only changing the the celebrity and wife in question the further assumption is made that ''every'' relationship is the same and the man is ''always'' at fault.
** A really interesting element of it is the contradictions involved. One article said that ''both'' being more affectionate ''and'' less affectionate (more because he's guilty, less because he's "busy") are signs he's cheating (both of which had the aforementioned abuse and assault as his "punishment.") I would be willing to guess that if all of those "Signs he's cheating" lists were combined, there would literally be nothing a man can do that isn't a sign of infidelity.
** And, of course, [http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/relationship-advice/revenge-ideas-ex-boyfriend-1108 it's fine] for a women to sleep with her ex-boyfriend's best friend, just to screw with said ex.<ref>This carries an [[All Men Are Lustful]] subtext; apparently all you need to do is show up wearing nothing but a trenchcoat.</ref> Along with hacking into his Facebook profile, defacing his car with a sticker, ruining his next date, stealing his remotes, make him think he got you pregnant, and burning your names (inside a big heart) onto his lawn.
{{quote|'''Commenter:''' Or you could just grow up and not handle things like a child. Jesus, Cosmo, what's wrong with you?}}
** ''Cracked.com'' has an article mocking this tendency in ''Cosmo''; see [[#Web Original|Web Original below]].
== [[Live
* Common in [[Sitcom
* On ''[[Maury]]'', women bring on multiple different men, often over more than one episode, to find out if a man is the father of the woman's baby through a DNA test. The audience is always, ''always'' against the man in this conflict (though he often doesn't help his case, as many of these men accused of being the father make total asses of themselves). Even if the amount of men this woman has slept with is in the double digits, which is not uncommon, and even if the woman is the one who cheated on the man, the audience universally chides the man and praises the woman, even though [[Fridge Logic]] would point to the woman being at the greatest fault here.
* Arguably worse on Steve Wilkos. At one point, a woman tackles her husband on stage while he, in turn, grabs at her ankles to pull her down with him. Steve threatens to arrest the man, treating him as the aggressor, while giving the woman a slap on the wrist. In another instance, a woman is beating up on a man after finding out he cheated on her and Steve asked the man why he should be surprised, even though Steve would have had her escorted out in handcuffs if the genders were reversed.
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* Used regularly on ''[[Friends]]''. From Ross and Rachel's breakup in season 3 to the beginning of season 5, when Ross was in a relationship, Rachel would become jealous, distressed, and often seek to make everyone around her miserable until he was inevitably single again; while this behaviour wasn't necessarily condoned, she was often given a great deal of sympathy from her other friends over it. Meanwhile, if Ross ever displayed the slightest bit of jealousy over any of Rachel's relationships, it was met with utter exasperation and being told the relationship was over and he needed to move on. However, from season 5, they became more comfortable with the others dating.
** Though one episode finally seemed to put this in some perspective with Rachel latching on to a complete stranger on a plane and telling him her entire sob story, only for him to eventually get fed up and [[What the Hell, Hero?|tell her how immature, selfish, cruel and petty she was being]] (especially in going to ruin Ross and Emily's wedding - calling her a horrible, ''horrible'', person), and "By the way, it seems perfectly clear to me that you ''were'' on a break!" What made that moment even more glorious was the fact that the stranger was played by none other than [[House (TV series)|House]] himself, Hugh Laurie. [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sXNd99IhdmA Here it is, by the way!]
** This is kind of [[Lampshade Hanging|lampshaded]] in an episode where Rachel borrows Monica's expensive car. We say borrow, but we really mean steal. Ross does his best to keep her from taking it, but ends up going along with it to make sure she brings the car back in one piece. Long story short, Rachel speeds, and gets pulled over by a cop. She shows him her license, which expired ''ten years earlier''. Rachel flirts with the cop more than a little, and the cop let's her go without even a slap on the wrist, advising Ross to drive, since she doesn't have her license. Later in the same episode, Ross is pulled
** [[Crowning Moment of Awesome|Notably]] averted in ''The One that Could Have Been'' when Rachel is making excuses for why it would be okay for her to cheat on her husband with soap-star Joey, only for Monica to cut in, saying "Nothing you say could make me think it's okay for you to cheat on your husband!"
** Later on however, after ''just barely'' resists temptation, she returns home to find her husband in bed with another woman (which arguably also justifies her infamous entry into the show as a [[Runaway Bride]], suggesting her fiance was a [[Jerkass]] that would have been unfaithful to her anyway). Granted however as she attempts to play the injured party and complain about what pigs men are to Ross, [[Hypocritical Humor|he points out her plans beforehand]].
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* In the first season of ''[[Jersey Shore]]'', Ronnie and Sammi were being followed home and harassed by a man who was determined to get Ronnie to fight him. Sammi was antagonizing the man and his girlfriend and wouldn’t stop when Ronnie insisted that she stop. When Sammi wouldn’t stop, Ronnie shoved her away from him in frustration, then ended up fighting the man. Everything that happened that night is blamed on Ronnie, and the part of the situation that Sammi and the rest of the cast focused on was that Ronnie shoved her. It's particularly obnoxious when Ronnie ends up with bruises and a black eye, and Sammi, without a mark on her, is yelling "You've TRAUMATIZED me."
** Sammi’s role in her abusive relationship with Ronnie is generally downplayed. He’s cheated, screamed at her, and smashed her things in anger. Sammi is vindictive, emotionally abusive, and a spoiled brat, but that's rarely pointed out.
*** Months after finding out that Ronnie cheated, Sammi would follow Ronnie around the house demanding to know if he was with any girls and would not get out of his face; it appeared that she wouldn’t leave Ronnie alone until he admitted that he was cheating (at the time, he wasn’t). She won’t allow him to be friends with Jenni, and when she finds out that he is, [[Double Standard Abuse (Female on Male)|she punches him in the face]]. When Ronnie refuses to get out of Sammi’s face after she’s suspected of cheating (she actually did) [https://web.archive.org/web/20150123041529/http://community.mtv.com/Discussion-Thread/Sammy-is-being-abused/0D3FCFFFF0228928E000901379E58 it’s abusive.]
*** To get back at Ronnie after breaking up with him, Sammi goes to the same club he is at and makes a scene dancing with guys to make him jealous. Ronnie goes home and smashes all of Sammi’s things. What Ronnie did was way worse, but no one calls out Sam for getting revenge.
* In the sitcom ''[[My Wife and Kids]]'', the infamous Sweethearts Day episode. To summarize, the women (egged on by wife Jay) invent a holiday for the express purpose of forcing their men to buy them diamond jewelry. Michael buys Jay pearls instead when she displays a bad attitude, and she reacts like he did something terrible and responds by doing such things as refusing to make him breakfast (and putting raw bacon on his head). Jay is presented unflinchingly as the right one in the conflict, and at the end of the episode Michael is the one apologizing.
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* On ''[[Everybody Hates Chris]]'', Julius is forced to go on strike and stay at home (not his fault nor his choice), forcing Rochelle to have to get a job again. Instead of just sitting around all day doing nothing, Julius cleans the whole house AND makes dinner with dessert. You would think Rochelle would be appreciative or at least show a sign of gratitude like the kids do, but no... she gets all bitchy at him and complains about every little thing (and by every little thing, I mean she likely makes stuff up to irritate him). Then when he justifiably snaps and says he does a better job and doesn't find it difficult, she yells at him saying he's only been doing it one day and has no idea how difficult it is for her. However it makes absolutely no sense for her to say something like this, as narrator Chris explains just seconds prior that Julius was the oldest of eleven children and had to do the cooking and cleaning for them, something you would think his wife would know. Then to add to the stupidity of it, he has TWO jobs at once, so of course he wouldn't find it difficult if he's already a hard worker. He then is guilted into 'fixing' the horrible crime of being a good, hardworking husband at the end. They try to play the whole "she just feels underappreciated" card, but that kind of fails since she starts getting irritated before the kids even say much, and there still isn't any logical reason to feel jealous, seeing as how the strike just started a day prior and showed no signs of lasting a long time. You know it's bad when the narrator says that the man is in the right, yet is STILL wrong.
** Not exactly the same (although it is in universe) since the Chris Rock and the show agrees with this page, but it's a story, it pretty much says: They're women and we love them so much we would take the blame and all that, even when it's obvious they're wrong.
* Occurs in ''[[Home Improvement (TV series)|Home Improvement]]'', but perhaps most notably in an episode where Tim & Jill argue about whether or not Jill told Tim three times they were going to the opera that night, as she claims. As the episode progresses, Tim realizes that Jill ''did'' let him know, but [[Hint Dropping|the hints were so subtle that Tim missed them completely]] until that point. Jill, meanwhile, realizes that she "did everything except sit Tim down and tell him we're going to the opera-oh my God I didn't do that." At the episode's end, Tim apologizes to Jill for having missed her notes and Jill... lets him. She does nothing to apologize for what ''she'' did wrong.
** Egregiously, ''[[Home Improvement (TV series)|Home Improvement]]'' used [[Recycled Script
** In "Let's Did Lunch," Tim helps his friend Dave conceal from Karen the fact that he is cheating on her. It is later revealed that Jill was concealing the fact Karen was planning to end the relationship anyway. Tim fails to understand why this isn't hypocritical of Jill.
* This played out over a two part episode of ''[[The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air]]''. It starts when Phil decides to go into politics instead of retiring as was his original plan and Vivian gets upset at him, fair enough. But then her motive quickly shifts into "You know how I feel about politics" with no further elaboration on it. It came out of nowhere too and we never find out what her big problem is. This culminates in her [[Disproportionate Retribution|threatening to divorce her husband]] for pursuing something that clearly makes him happy, no compromise, it's either stop pursuing politics and stay at home or divorce her. The show completely plays this on her side and in the end, Phil gives up his dreams for... the wife who threatened to leave him for no real good reason.
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* Averted on a M*A*S*H episode in which Margaret thinks she might be pregnant. In one scene, Margaret says that it's all her husband's fault. Hawkeye replies that he wouldn't blame it ''all'' on her husband, since Margaret was "probably there when it happened."
== [[Music]] ==
* Even men buy into this. At the end of R. Kelly's video for "When a Woman's Fed Up," a caption reads, "There is no such thing as a no-good woman, only women made that way by a no-good man."
* [[
* Alexandra Burke's "Broken Heels" basically expounds that women can do 'everything' better than men, even wearing the eponymous broken heels. Throughout the video the women even go on to taunt the boys who just have to sit there and take it.
* "Macarena" is about a woman cheating on her boyfriend with his two friends. We don't even get any indication that the boyfriend did anything wrong.
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* [[Shakira]]'s "Don't Bother" is a woman talking to her boyfriend, presumably in his absence, about the affair she knows he's having, and how she would do anything to keep him, and passive-aggressively saying that [[Blatant Lies|she'll be fine]]. "She Wolf" is Shakira bragging about how her beau is not keeping her satisfied, and how she goes out (or plans to go out) and sleeps with hot dudes, possibly to spite him. And she's going to tell him about it.
* Back in 2001, Blu Cantrell released "Hit 'Em Up Style." When she finds her boyfriend cheating, she maxes all his credit cards, ''sold everything he owned'', and brags that she completely ruined his life. A man doing this to a woman would be the plot to a [[Lifetime Movie of the Week]]. Although, even she admits she doesn't like the song.
* There have been two very similar country music videos released in recent years, Toby Keith's "A Little Too Late" and Sugarland's "Stuck Like Glue." Both have roughly the same premise, the singer comes a little unhinged, kidnaps their ex and keeps them tied to a chair while they sing the song kind of like a [["The Reason You Suck" Speech]]. One big difference, when Toby Keith ties up Krista Allen, it's treated like a [http://image.bayimg.com/happfaabh.jpg horror movie,] when Jennifer Nettles does it (to [[Chuck|Captain Awesome]]) it's [http://www.countrymusictattletale.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/07/sugarland-stuck-like-glue3_510.jpg a comedy.]{{Dead link}}
** In the former video, that's kind of the ''point.'' He's trying to do a ''[[Edgar Allen Poe|Cask of Amontillado]]'' on her the whole time. {{spoiler|It becomes a comedy at the end when it turns out he bricked ''himself'' in}}
* Refreshingly averted by [[Taylor Swift]], who seems to blame the boy (e.g. "Picture to Burn"), the other girl (e.g. "Better than Revenge"), or herself (e.g. "Back to December") according to the situation.
* Shania Twain's "Any Man Of Mine" can basically be summed up like this: "I can and will cut your balls off if I want to, but you better treat me like a queen."
* This trope is averted with "Close My Eyes Forever", a duet by [[Ozzy Osbourne]] and [[Lita Ford]]. The lyrics concern a woman who has been unfaithful to her man, and she begs him to forgive her for her infidelity. The man, however, feels that he cannot trust her anymore and tells her to "close your eyes for me" (i.e. forget about him).
== [[Newspaper Comics]] ==
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* Subverted in ''[[Doonesbury]]'', when [[Cloudcuckoolander|JJ]] left [[The Everyman|Mike]] for scruffy bad boy Zeke, she was portrayed the entire time as a fool for doing so, for both her reasoning (She felt she had to "seize the moment" to acheive happiness) and for her taste (Zeke has never been portrayed as other than a [[The Slacker|dumb slacker]]).
== [[Theatre]] ==
* In ''[[Dreamgirls]]'', Lorrell has an affair with Jimmy Early, who's married. Throughout the entire play/movie, he is made out to be a total sleaze for treating her badly and sleeping with two (possibly more) women at the same time. However, Lorrell is shown in a strictly sympathetic light, despite the fact that she's knowingly and willfully engaging in a long-term affair with a married man.
== [[Video Games]] ==
* In ''[[Persona 3]]'', the protagonist's available Personas and their power levels are determined by Social Links with other people. For the male protagonist, reaching rank 5 with any female classmate will make the relationship "serious," and the game itself will warn you that merely ''seeing'' any other girl (regardless of that girl's current rank) will make her jealous, potentially stalling or completely breaking the link. In the PSP version's female protagonist route, this is not an issue; of the seven guys who can end up in love with her, only two (Akihiko and Ken) seem remotely aware of one another as rivals for her affection, and the only result is an [[Cock Fight|argument]] between them which is played for laughs.
** Note that that might have less to do with the double standard, and more because of gameplay changes. In ''[[Persona 4]]'', even though the same warning message appears, there are ''no'' negative consequences if you pursue more than one girl romantically at the same time. ''Persona 3 Portable'', which inherited many of [[Persona 4]]'s gameplay tweaks, likely inherited this feature.
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'''Man:''' At least a dog can be trained. }}
== [[Web Comics]] ==
* In ''[[Questionable Content]]'', this is one of the main problems with Dora and Marten's relationship. She repeatedly accuses him of attempting infidelity, at one point giving him the third degree because he intentionally didn't mention that a girl had asked him out - despite that he immediately turned the girl down, and despite that Dora's workplace routinely has to deal with customers asking the staff out and she doesn't think that is mention-worthy. She also blows up on him for getting a haircut without consulting her on it, but when she gets one and he says he preferred her old look, she dismisses him. She also goes digging through his porn folder just to sate her curiosity when he explicitly asks her not to, yet expects him to respect her own boundaries. However, she ''has'' been called out on this behavior, repeatedly {{spoiler|and the last example is the catalyst for their relationship to breakdown; Marten, not unreasonably, flips his shit when he discovers her violating his privacy, and when they break up Dora is informed in no uncertain terms that she ruined a good thing for stupid reasons and needs help}}.
* [[Something*Positive]] features this fairly often, but it's spelled out best [https://web.archive.org/web/20140109065453/http://somethingpositive.net/sp11052004.shtml here].
{{quote|'''Aubrey:''' Like it or not, it's your fault she put you in a situation where you could only hurt her feelings or suffer through sex with her. It's how women are, and even when we're wrong, you're the one who's wrong.}}
* One occurrence pops up during the wedding arc of ''[[Better Days]]''. Both the bachelor party and the bachelorette party hire strippers. When the girls find out, they are outraged and treat it essentially as the groom "cheating" on the bride. They don't see anything wrong or hypocritical about their own party choices, since they're convinced that ''all male strippers are gay''. (Exactly how does that justify lusting after them?) Eventually one of the male strippers call ''everyone'' out on their stupidity, explain the facts and force them to make peace.
== [[Web Original]] ==
* ''[[Cracked.com]]'''s [http://www.cracked.com/article_19066_7-psychotic-pieces-relationship-advice-from-cosmo.html 7 Psychotic Pieces of Relationship Advice from ''Cosmo''] demonstrates how magazines like ''Cosmopolitan'' can take this trope to extremes. However innocuous his actions or behavior may be, the reader is encouraged to treat their partner with utmost suspicion and respond with over-the-top, vicious, humiliating and even ''abusive'' reactions. It also deconstructs them, by presenting them from the point of view of a man who's girlfriend subscribes to these attitudes—she comes across as a temperamental, unstable and paranoid psychotic.
* Inverted on [[Literotica]], where stories about cheating usually get the heaviest criticism from readers of the same gender as the person being cheated upon. Most of the site's users are male, so stories where women cheat on men often score two points lower than similar stories where men cheat on women. (And it goes even lower if [[Where Da White Women At?|they cheat on a white man with a black man]].)
* ''[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pRU8kj_yWUo Gears of War Versus Marriage]'' is a video depicting a man playing ''[[Gears of War]]''{{'}}s [[Hold the Line|Horde Mode]] online. His wife asks him to find some information about their friends' wedding so they can use their airline miles to buy tickets before they expire. He responds in a distracted manner, and she leaves, only to return and confront him under the reasonable assumption he was ignoring her. He then cuts her off by providing the information she asked for, in detail, since he's playing the match with the groom in question. The wife goes the equivalent of "[[Touché]]."
** This trope kicks in not with the video, but with the response to it around the Internet; the husband is apparently still in the wrong for "being rude" and "ignoring" his wife (when he didn't) and not telling her that he was talking to "Mike" right then. He ignores her, he's wrong. If he accidentally makes her think he ignored her, he's wrong. Any response short of "Yes, honey, I'll get it done right away" or "I'm playing with Mike right now, I'll ask him" is unacceptable. What's more, the alleged rudeness is apparently ''[[Moving the Goalposts|more important than whether he actually ignored his wife]]''.
* ''[http://everything2.com/user/iceowl/writeups/Things+I+need+to+tell+my+teenaged+daughters+about+boys Things I need to tell my teenaged daughters about boys]''. The entire piece is misandrist, but one bit in particular stands out. The list says that men are boring and their heads are "full of landmines and useless whining," and that the teenaged girl in question shouldn't bother trying to get into a man's head for ''at least'' ten years, and says that men don't have genuine interest in girls for another ten on top of that. Then it denigrates men for not allegedly being interested in what women are thinking and being self-centered. Also, young men are "frequently ill equipped to handle the emotions that arise from having sex." Nothing about young women, who can often be just as irrational.
== [[Western Animation]] ==
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{{quote|'''Peter:''' You...you hit me...
'''Lois:''' *smugly* That's right.
[[Would Hit a Girl|*Peter punches her back*]]
'''Lois:''' You can't hit me, I'm a girl!
'''Peter:''' Sometimes I wonder. }}
** This treatment seems to run in the family. Her father Carter once cheated on his wife, Barbara, the episode was devoted to showing how tight and loving (in a twisted sense) their relationship was, and how unforgivable Carter's actions were, despite the fact Barbara had once left Carter for Ted Turner the moment he lost his fortune and also was perfectly willing to have sex with Peter due to being unsatisfied sexually by Carter.
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* [[Played With]] on ''[[King of the Hill]]'': Bobby and Luanne (who are cousins) end up believing they're caught in an [[Accidental Marriage]]. After they both freak out for a couple of seconds, the first thing Luanne does is lay down some rules:
{{quote|"I get to date whoever I want, whenever I want. You can see [[Girl Next Door|Connie]] if you want, but not in public. No, wait. On second thought, you ''can't'' see Connie. ''Ever''."}}
* Averted in ''[[Futurama]]''. In the first episode, Fry's girlfriend Michelle cheats on him and throws him out. In a later episode, Michelle ends up in the 31st Century the same way that Fry did, and insists that she and Fry get frozen and thawed out in a future time she is more comfortable with. Even then, she still
* Averted in ''[[The Simpsons]]'' episode "Dangerous Curves". When Homer and Marge learn that they both nearly had affairs on the same night five years ago, Marge gets mad at Homer for nearly cheating on her. He proceeds to call her out on her hypocrisy, pointing out that she is just as guilty as he is.
** Sort of [[Inverted]] [[Played for Laughs|For Laughs]],
* ''[[Daria]]'' [[Averted Trope|averts]] or even [[Inverted Trope|inverts]] this--[[Cool Loser|Jane]] is ticked at both her boyfriend [[Tall, Dark and Snarky|Tom]] and her best friend [[The Snark Knight|Daria]] when they kiss, but forgives Tom fairly quickly, accepting his apology and the fact that their relationship was on the rocks anyway. She is considerably more hurt by Daria's betrayal, though, which takes most of a TV movie to repair.
* [[Averted]] on ''[[Total Drama World Tour]]''--[[Well, Excuse Me, Princess!|Courtney]]'s boyfriend [[Troubled but Cute|Duncan]] and her friend [[Perky Goth|Gwen]] kiss, but Courtney's wrath seems much greater for the latter than the former. Most of the D/C fanbase [[Die for Our Ship|followed suit]], but a notable minority wonders why Duncan should get a pass, especially since, unlike Gwen, he never seemed particularly sorry. He also went on to treat Courtney like dirt for the rest of the season, as if ''she'' was the one who had caused their breakup.
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