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{{quote|''"Sorry, baby! Why you make me do that?"''|description of the "Double Slap" weapon from ''[[Disgaea 2: Cursed Memories]]''}}

And that's when mother plays her trump card. Before her daughter can get over the shock, before she can get angry and start fighting back... her mother bursts into tears. Normally, the person who now sports a bright red hand print across her face will begin apologizing profusely or start crying as well, usually hugging the one that just hit her. Somehow, the ''victim'' is now convinced that ''she'' was to blame... and the slapper "wins" the argument by default.

The victim of [['''Why Did You Make Me Hit You?]]''' can be anyone, but the two most common characters who are subject to being the victim are close relative or friend, usually a child or surrogate child, or a romantic partner/spouse. Thanks to the [[Double Standard]], if a ''man'' should employ this trope, it's a given that not only is domestic violence on the horizon, it's mixed in with [[Manipulative Bastard]] traits too. For example, the violent husband who knows how to play on his wife's soft-heartedness. These characters are almost invariably written as [[Kick the Dog|pure evil]]. In the case of a woman slapping her boyfriend, the chances are that the trope will be recognized as an emotionally manipulative ploy, but it's much less likely to be a sign of a [[Domestic Abuse]] plot; if it's a daughter or friend being slapped, the attacker will probably get away with it, they will reconcile and everything will have been forgotten two scenes later; however, as the signs and symptoms of emotional abuse are becoming more publicized (and stories of emotionally abusive women are featured more often in [[Real Life]] news stories) this portrayal is beginning to change.

* ''[[ZeroThe noFamiliar Tsukaimaof Zero]]'': In regards to Louise's and Saito's relationship Louise tends to do this to Saito a lot.

{{quote| "This is all your fault, Train! It's your fault for making me mad! Time and time again, I come to get your cooperation so it wouldn't come to this. But despite that... all those attempts were futile. All of them!"}}

* ''[[Fruits Basket]]'' has a particularly vicious example in the form of Akito, who attacks Hatori with what looks like a vase, [[Eye Scream|blinding him in one eye]], and immediately starts asking the maimed doctor "Hatori, what's wrong?" before accusing Kana, Hatori's innocent would-be fiancee, of being responsible for Hatori's pain. [[It's All My Fault|Kana ends up agreeing]], and the whole situation goes ''[[It Got Worse|downhill from there.]]'' This is only the most dramatic example -- thereexample—there are other instances where various Zodiac members are hurt by Akito and reprimanded for "forcing" it to happen. {{spoiler|She has an [[Freudian Excuse|excuse]] for her behavior, but it's pretty vile all the same.}}

* In ''[[The End of Evangelion]]'' the violence between Shinji and Asuka reaches a crescendo as Shinji eventually strangles her. This happens shortly after Asuka kicks him, gives him a nasty [["The Reason You Suck" Speech]] which includes her rejecting him after he confesses his feelings to her, and shoves him to the ground causing a pot of painfully hot coffee to spill on him.

{{quote| Harry: "I didn't mean to do that, Melfina! I'm sorry, I promise I'm not going to hurt you!" *''backhands her to the floor about a few minutes later*''}}

{{quote| {{spoiler|Osanai}}: "Didn't I tell you, not to say anything that would make me get rough with you?"}}

* In ''[[Ranma ½|Ranma 1/2]]'' , during the first [[The Rival|Ryoga Hibiki]] story, Ranma has to save Akane from running blindly into danger, as Ryoga blithely hurls razor projectile bandannas at both girls indiscriminately (this is before [[Character Development]] turned him into [[Asshole Victim|the closest thing ''[[Asshole Victim|Ranma 1/2]]½'' has]] to a [[Dogged Nice Guy]]). This causes Akane to start arguing vehemently with Ranma over having to be saved, even as Ryoga continues to attack them both and Ranma is forced to keep protecting Akane even as she berates the [[Gender Bender]]. The whole thing culminates in her slapping Ranma across the face when Ranma gets particularly exasperated and snarks back at her (due to Akane trying to fight the pigtailed girl off in the middle of freefall), and storming off, forcing Ranma to try and apologize for what happened. [[Close-Call Haircut|And then Akane got her hair accidentally chopped off by Ryoga's razor bandanna]].

{{quote| '''Bulgaria''': I... I just got the sudden urge to hit him when I looked at his face.}}

== [[Fan FictionWorks]] ==

* Nathan Wallace in [[Repo! The Genetic Opera]] does this to Shilo after she sings about how he can't control her -- afterher—after he slaps her, she sits there stunned for a second, rubbing her face. Horrified, he says he's sorry and the camera blacks out.

* In ''[[A.I.: Artificial Intelligence]]'', the husband/boyfriend of a client that Gigolo Joe has been sleeping with murders his lover when he finds out, and sets Joe up for the crime. His reasoning is that "she killed me first".

* In the film version of Dolores Claiborne (not sure about the novel by Stephen King), the protagonist's husband hits her across the kidneys with a piece of firewood, then says "Why did you make me do it?" It doesn't end well.

* Occurs in the movie/book ''[[Harry Potter and Thethe Order of Thethe Phoenix (novel)|Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix]]'', where Harry is in detention with Umbridge and she makes him write "I must not tell lies" over and over again with an enchanted quill which carves the phrase into the back of Harry's hand as he writes, simultaneously using his own blood as ink. Harry stares at this in disbelief and is about to yell at Umbridge for it when she asks him with a warning tone, "Yes?". He backs down and says, "Nothing." to which she replies, "That's right, because you know that deep down, you deserve to be punished, don't you, Mr. Potter?" Jeez, not one for subtlety, is she?

** Oddly, she's sort of correct--hecorrect—he knows damn well ''she'' doesn't have any right to punish him, especially not for the reasons she cites, and doesn't particularly think this is correct or that just plain suffering is a ''good'' idea, but between his abusive childhood and his experiences being expected to be [[The Hero]], he only seems to have positive self-esteem when he's going through something hellish for day-saving reasons. Which is probably why he doesn't try harder to get some other authority figure to intervene--thatintervene—that and his justified conviction that no one ever comes to save him from abuse.

* In the [[Stephen King]] book ''[[Misery]]'', Annie Wilkes pulls this on protagonist Paul Sheldon. Just replace "hit" with [[Axe Crazy|"chop off foot with axe and cauterize the wound with a blowtorch"]].

** And let's not go into all the emotional abuse between Edward and Bella. "Do you want to start a war" indeed.

* Happens numerous times in the TV movie ''No One Would Tell''. In one scene, Bobby throws his girlfriend Stacy against a wall when she says something that annoys him and stares at her indifferently saying, "Great. You happy now?"

** A bit of context for both incidents: the first was a case of [[Percussive Prevention]], since Keller was about to confess to arranging the murder of the son of [[Complete Monster]] Vern Schillinger, when said murder was actually arranged by ''Beecher''. (Since Schillinger previously had his son kidnap both of Beecher's kids and kill one of them, it's difficult to blame him.) Beecher wanted to take responsibility for what he'd done rather than having Keller turn himself into a target to save him, and Keller decided to knock him out before he could confess to the crime himself. Then Keller ran off and took the rap for it. The second case mentioned here happened earlier in the series, before Keller's [[Heel Face Turn]]. (Or perhaps, considering all that Keller would go on to do later, while he was still on the [[Heel]] side of the [[Heel Face Revolving Door]].) At ''that'' time, Keller was working for Schillinger and was under orders to gain Beecher's trust, get Beecher to fall in love with him, and then torment him emotionally as part of Schillinger's revenge scheme. Suddenly switching gears--goinggears—going from acting like he loved Beecher more than anything to acting like he hated Beecher more than anything--wasanything—was part of the plan.

* Parodied in ''[[Friends]]'', where a scene from a Soap Opera has a character slap her daughter and tearfully hug her immediately after, giving the daughter no time to react.

{{quote| '''Lucifer:''' Brother, don't make me do this...<br />

'''Gabriel:''' No one makes ''us'' do anything.<br />

{{quote| ''And in a ''few'' unsubstantiated clinical trials, this condition''<br />

''Has led to simulated feelings of resentment and worthlessness''<br />

''Manifested in the highly unlikely, but still possible, act''<br />

** Prior to this, Arael had been looking the other way as Pre-Zombie Scout was playing the [[Dirty Cop]] role to the hilt; there's no doubt the Zombie Scout had it coming, but either way Arael had to [[Shoot the Dog]].

* The discontinued ''[[Loserz]]'' featured it in [https://web.archive.org/web/20101213192844/http://bukucomics.com/loserz/go/156 one strip] - but with a wholly different result than [https://web.archive.org/web/20101213193112/http://bukucomics.com/loserz/go/157 blind acceptance]. (Note that no parent is involved here.)

{{quote| '''Gannji:''' You! We wouldn't be here if you hadn't-<br />

'''Roy:''' -asked you an entirely reasonable question, to which you responded with violence?<br />

{{quote| '''Frollo:''' Now all of Paris is burning because of ''you!''}}

{{quote| '''Nelson:''' Hey, butler. Stop butling yourself. ''(hits the butler with the butler's own fist)''<br />

{{quote| '''Stewie:''' Now why did you make me do that? Do you think I ''like'' hitting you? ...Well, as a matter of fact I do. In fact, I like it ''so'' much that I'm going to do it again!}}