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{{trope}}
[[File:Ranma-and-akane.jpg|frame|link=Ranma ½|It's supposed to be funny when she does this to him.]]
Female-on-male violence is viewed as more acceptable in
The trouble is that because of stereotypes and double standards like these, often men don't fight back for reasons including that they are either afraid of hurting the woman, or they are afraid that if they fight back, they will be considered the aggressor by the authorities despite any retaliation being in self-defense <ref>In some areas, the policies assume women are acting in "preemptive" self-defense, meaning male victims can be arrested without actually laying a finger on the woman, even if they were the ones who called the cops on her. This also includes, in some cases, "defending" a child or pet.</ref> And if the woman actually is charged, her sentence will probably be far less severe than the other way around, statistically speaking. Conversely, since stereotypically men are tough, a man may be ashamed to admit [[I Was Beaten by a Girl|he was hurt by a woman]], leading to victims not coming forward at all.
Note that this trope does ''not'' describe situations where violence is genuinely adequately [[Justified]], nor in situations where universal humorous abuse is delivered to the [[Butt Monkey]] or [[The Chew Toy]] by both men and women for equally flimsy reasons -- that is just [[Comedic Sociopathy]]. Obviously, it likewise doesn't apply in situations where female-on-male violence is treated as a serious subject.▼
▲Note that this trope does ''not'' describe situations where violence is genuinely
Related to [[All Abusers Are Male]], [[All Women are Doms, All Men are Subs]], [[Domestic Abuse]], [[Double Standard Rape (Female on Male)]], [[Men Are the Expendable Gender]], and [[Stalking Is Funny If It Is Female After Male]]. [[Belligerent Sexual Tension]] often has elements of this trope. Compare/Contrast [[Would Hit a Girl]]. A very similar anime/manga trope that does not always include abuse, but typically often will involve a woman violently beating a man and is played for comedy is [[Tsundere]]. The female half of this trope is very often a [[Jerk Sue]].
Due to the very nature of this trope '''''no [[Take That]] edits and no social [[Natter]] or personal opinions'''''.
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{{examples}}▼
Domestic abuse is a horrible experience to go through, and all too often the victims are shamed by their attackers into silence. If this is you, you need not be afraid, and [https://menscenter.org/issues-that-affect-men/domestic-violence/ here's some help] [https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/help-for-men-who-are-being-abused.htm just in case] you need it. There are people who can and will help you. Please read [[Abuse]] for help and resources. [[You Are Not Alone]].
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{{noreallife|tell the police, not us.}}
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== Advertising ==
* Apparently it's okay to teach little girls that tying up boys is okay as long as you get to take their delicious sandwiches made with Hillshire Farms ham!
* The original version of a 1990s Canadian TV car commercial had a man, walking down the street with his girlfriend or wife, steal a glance at a car another woman was driving. His partner, assuming he was staring at the woman, smacked him in the side. That ad, as reported widely in the press, received so many complaints of the "Would you have thought it funny if the genders had been reversed?" variety that the ad agency quickly withdrew it and shot a second version where she mimes shouting at him instead. Because verbal abuse is much better.
* There was a PSA about fitness. It started with a young boy running away from three girls, apparently he wasn't fit enough and he started slowing down, the girls caught up to him and started kissing him, a thing that the boy clearly didn't want.
* During the a sell of a Virgin Mobile package, the company decided to make some commercials of a woman stalking a man. [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PpV7DyM4Zk0 In the commercials, the actress acts crazy and creepy.] Rightfully, men started to complain and the commercials were removed from most stations. Of course, if the situation was reversed, the commercials would have never been given the green light in the first place.
* Eaton's department stores in the 1990s advertised their new "female focus" with a commercial in which a wife kept her husband literally ''chained to the kitchen sink''. The ad was deemed so offensively misandrist that it was pulled less than a month after its release - a real life subversion.
* "Boys are stupid, throw rocks at them" was the slogan on a tee-shirt marketed by the David and Goliath tee-shirt company. Eventually, a very public controversy resulted in the shirts being removed from many stores. To show how pervasive this Trope is, many people supported the sale of the shirts, including a professor at the University of Illinois who said she thought it served as revenge for boys' (assumed) bullying.
* There's a new, rather weird example for "Five Hour Energy." In short, a guy used to sleep later than his girlfriend (wife?), who used the time he was sleeping to work out. Then he started using Five Hour Energy and decides he'll start working out with her. For no adequately explained reason, she now hates him. He mentions that they're not on speaking terms and at the end of the commercial, she throws what looks to be a shirt in his face. Once again, it's not entirely clear why she's so angry, making it look like she's just a little unstable.
** It also causes you to wonder how this is supposed to make the product appealing to potential customers.
* An ad for Sears air conditioning services, wherein a wife yells at her husband for not being quick enough on the ball to have already called Sears air conditioning services, was criticized when it was pointed out that if the gender-roles had been reversed, and it was the man who was domineeringly commanding "YOU'LL CALL NOW!" at the women, the company would have been picketed.
* Used in [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y09z8lwOEYA this superbowl ad] for Pepsi Max, in which a wife physically abuses her husband for various transgressions including ordering french fries instead of a fruit cup and smiling at a pretty girl. Given the ending (where the husband hustles the wife away from the scene in a panic after she accidentally knocks another woman unconscious), the message of the commercial seems to be "Its okay for women to beat the crap out of men, but horribly wrong if she harms another woman". The fact that the couple is black led to charges of portraying a stereotypical Angry Black Woman as well.
== Anime and Manga ==
* ''[[Domina no Do]]'': this manga is practically made around this trope.{{context}}
* [[Rumiko Takahashi]] has been frequently accused of loving this trope a little too much. Case in point, three of her best-known series -- ''[[Urusei Yatsura]]'', ''[[Ranma ½]]'' and ''[[Inuyasha]]'' all make heavy use of this in the name of [[Comedic Sociopathy|comedy]].
** In ''[[Urusei Yatsura]]'', Ataru Moroboshi is constantly harassed by the women in his life. In particular Lum uses her electricity to shock him five times a day (due to her being insanely possessive of him) and Shinobu and Ryuunosuke beat him senseless with their super-strength and martial-arts respectively. This is a case where everyone has a decent reason for treating him this way, though: Ataru '''is''' [[The Leisure Suit Larry|an enormous pervert]] (and not at all [[Chivalrous Pervert]]) who is always pissing people off, even knowing the kinds of responses he'll get by doing so. To cap it off, Ataru has an absurdly high tolerance for punishment and shrugs off his abuse frighteningly fast.
** ''[[Ranma ½]]'' uses this so much that for early 90s anime fans it was considered the Queen of this trope. The series is notorious for how the [[Belligerent Sexual Tension|interactions]] between Ranma Saotome and Akane Tendo tend to boil down to "Ranma says something insulting, purposefully or accidentally, and Akane gives him a [[Megaton Punch]], [[A Twinkle in the Sky|boots him (through the roof need be) into LEO]], slaps him, hammers him over the head with a random object or otherwise physically abuses him in response". Partially justified by a series where everyone and their grandmother seems to practice [[Supernatural Martial Arts]], until one notices that it's only the boys who are allowed to be beaten up for comedy's sake. The only girl in the series who ever gets abused is [[Gender Bender|Ranma himself]], and it's always treated as [[Serious Business]] if another guy does it but comedy if a girl does it.
** And in ''[[Inuyasha]]'', she largely dispenses with [[Megaton Punch
** Also in ''Inuyasha'', there's the frequency with which Sango hits/slaps/bludgeons Miroku for groping her (before their engagement) and flirting with others (after it).
* In ''[[Bleach]]'', there are several cases of this. Almost everyone of either gender in Bleach is insanely violent in their free time, and it gets played for laughs. Guys are still almost always the victims.
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** Averted in the "Ogress" backstory arc, where the abuse is ''very'' much not intended to be funny.
** Also, one of the characters the Sket Dan help, [[Huge Schoolgirl|Koma-chan]], has a tendency to violently shove or throw people when she's embarrassed. Considering she's [[Charles Atlas Superpower|insanely strong]], this can have painful results, so much so that the group start referring to it as the "Koma-Cannon". Guess who's always on the receiving end? You guessed it, [[Butt Monkey|Bossun]].
* In ''[[Love Hina]]'' Keitaro gets horribly abused by pretty much every female he encounters, every second scene ends with Keitaro getting hit by one of the girls, either unfairly or for no reason, sometimes forcing him into seeing flesh just so they can abuse him. And ''he'' blames ''himself'' for it. Naturally, it's [[Played for Laughs]]. The scene when {{spoiler|Keitaro's sister Kanako punches Naru across the room to defend her brother}} was [[Take That, Scrappy!|one of the most satisfying in the series.]]
** The manga's a bit better about this, where Naru especially is actually called on her behavior at least once, Keitaro eventually learns to avoid these attacks, and the girls stop doing them eventually.
** Ken Akamatsu seems to have largely outgrown this trope during the course of his [[Long Runner]] ''[[Negima]].'' Mind you, considering Negi's only about 10 years old and the girls are fifteen, he probably thought it would look like child abuse, though in one storyarc where Negi was aged up to 15 or so, he suffered a few Keitaro-esque smacks in the face himself. Later, when Anya, Negi's best friend from home, comes to visit him, she's able to beat him up as much as she wants (with flaming punches and kicks, no less) since they're the same age.
* In ''[[Fruits Basket]]'', Machi is [[Tsundere|incredibly aggressive when she gets embarrassed]] (and [[Shrinking Violet|she's shy]] so she gets easily
** Manabe even lampshades it at one point, when he comments "I'm risking my life playing the stooge here." It was said in regards to Yuki, but he seems to have the same goal for Machi (getting them both out of their shells).
** Kagura's abuse of Kyo is played for laughs in the series, even though it's ridiculously over the top.
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* Averted hard in the 5th ''[[Kara no Kyoukai:|Kara no Kyoukai]]'' movie where Tomoe's parents are mutually abusive to one another, and Tomoe's mother hitting his father in the back of the head with a skillet {{spoiler|and killing him before killing herself and Tomoe in a murder-suicide}} is played as horrific and wrong on all sides.
* Subverted in ''[[Rune Soldier Louie]]'' with Louie and the girls, at first it looks like this trope is being played straight but later on in the series {{spoiler|after Jeanie was hitting Louie again he actually fought back. While Melissa and Merrill were worried the fact that Louie fought back is still mostly depicted as a good thing causing a bit of [[Character Development]] for both Louie and Jeanie.}}
* Louise in ''[[
* Shouko from ''[[Baka to Test to Shoukanjuu|Baka and Test: Summon the Beasts]]'' might be even worse than Louise, routinely tazing [[The Woobie|Yuuji]], [[Eye Poke|sticking her fingers in his eyes]] so he doesn't even look at other girls, and doing things like breaking his arm and calling it "holding hands" or breaking into his house because she felt like it (and then burning his porn), among others. What's more, the other characters actually believe they make a good couple and [[Shipper on Deck|try to pair them together]], and at the end, even Yuuji seems rather accepting of the idea. If Yuuji even did to Shouko 10% of the things she does to him, people would deride him as a [[Complete Monster]], but Shouko can keep doing this with no backlash whatsoever. Sure, it might be a comedy, but it's taken to a level you feel more pity for the guy than anything else, not to mention that Yuuji is far from accepting the idea of being with her. That entire episode dedicated to putting them together had him trying to run away from her. Every time he tried to flee from her and avoid Shoko resulted in his friends putting them together or framing him for stuff he didn't did only to make the situation worse. When the [[Jerkass]] couple continued to make a fool of themselves, Yuuji was generally trying to get them to win the contest because his friends rigged it to the point where no matter what he did, they would get the right answer. It wasn't until the end of the episode where he changed his mind about Shoko because the [[Jerkass]] couple continued to make fun of them both. Next episode, he's trying to run away from her. Final episode, his best friend sold him out to her and she forced him to sign a marriage contract. [[Stockholm Syndrome]] anyone?
** Not that it justifies the actions she takes, but episode 11 of Season 2 shows their backstory and why she's so obsessed with him. {{spoiler|She was a [[Lonely Rich Kid]], and he was the only kid who talked to her, but he says he talked to everyone the same. He then stands up against some bullies who are jealous of his intellect, and they attempt to frame and humiliate him by writing that he cheated on his tests, but Shouko tries to stop them. They end up attacking her instead, and Yuuji, feeling a lot of guilt for this, steps in and attacks the bullies. Later, he arrives home, tries to downplay his saving Shouko, and his mom gives Shouko her full support in the girl's efforts to marry him.}}
* Winry from ''[[Fullmetal Alchemist (manga)|Fullmetal Alchemist]]'' beats Ed with a spanner (one time even a chainsaw) every time he breaks his [[Artificial Limbs|automail]] (that's often). This is a subversion however as Edward is the [[Butt Monkey]] (often for being a genuine [[Jerkass]]) and everyone abuses him for it. Most glaring is Major Armstrong who repeatedly crushes him with vicious bear hugs one time even opening a large, bleeding stomach wound and once even creepily stalked him and happily admitted it. It's perfectly okay however because he's doing out of love.
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* ''[[MM!]]'' has an out for this: the main character is ''canonically'' a masochist.
* Pretty much the entire ''point'' of ''[[Bludgeoning Angel Dokuro-chan|Bludgeoning Angel Dokurochan]]''. [[Crosses the Line Twice|Ludicrously over-the-top violence]] visited on the male lead by the female lead is a series staple. To Dokuro's credit, she at least resurrects him post-her every horrible and fatal beating and apologizes. [[Crosses the Line Twice|It's not a bad example however since it's so over the top that you can't take it seriously]], and [[Butt Monkey|Sakura takes abuse for the sake of comedy from everyone]], including his largely male classmates, his male teacher, his own father in the manga, various animals who hump him while Sabato another female angel suffers her own share of arguably worse abuse and misfortune for the sake of comedy.
* ''[[Seto no Hanayome|My Bride is a Mermaid]]'' subverts this trope. Nagasumi is attacked by his wife's bodyguard and her rival but never by his wife herself. ''She'' is a loving [[Yamato Nadeshiko]] who often has to protect him. Even her Rival only ever resorts to sexual harassment which is very mild compared to the brutal attempts of the male cast which included having a shark try to eat him. One of those males is his father-in-law. If Nagasumi's mother-in-law didn't keep her husband in line he wouldn't have lived to the series' conclusion.
* Sakura from ''[[Naruto]]'', [[Flanderization|but only in the anime]]. Fortunately for Naruto, she's not as bad in the manga.
** It actually gets even more uncomfortable in Shippuden, where she's not only developed a more fiery temper, but has also gained [[Super Strength]] as a power. Let that sink in for a few minutes.
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* ''[[Sonic X]]'' vented Amy Rose's Tsundere quirks [[Up to Eleven]], her temper lending to her pulling out her hammer on people for much more trivial reasons (usually Sonic). The first season finale also involved Rouge handing Knuckles a [[No-Holds-Barred Beatdown]] because his egotistical grumbling was getting too irritating (even considering Knuckles' [[Jerkass]] tendancies, this was pretty brutal).
* In ''[[Mysterious Girlfriend X]]'', Urabe's treatment of Tsubaki is gradually moving from mild aloofness and [[Cloudcuckoolander|weirdness]] to mind-games that have an increasingly abusive element to them. In the later chapter she adds physical abuse as well, when she {{spoiler|almost bites Tsubaki's finger off after agreeing that he could place it in her mouth}}. However she did this mainly to finally make him forget about another girl he couldn't stop thinking about, despite wanting to. {{spoiler|And it worked.}}
* In ''[[
** Index is known for biting Touma.
** Then there is Mikoto, who could probably take on an entire army by herself and uses every single bit of that power on him. Was it not for his absurd reflexes and his [[Power Nullifier]] ability he would have been fried alive in more than one occasion, and they both seem to know it. She ''was'' shown to be horrified the one time she actually hit him when {{spoiler|he was trying to stop her from getting herself killed by Accelerator}}
* ''[[Working!!]]'' double subverts this one. The series tells us [[Does Not Like Men|Inami]] is not supposed to hit men and is bad when she does it, yet they not only almost always show her violence [[Played for Laughs]], when her habitual "target" Souta gets fed up and [[What the Hell, Hero?|calls her out on this]], ''everyone'' treats him as the bad guy and acts as if Inami didn't deserve his calling out, thus firmly planting the series on this trope, period.
* Misa Amane and Light Yagami of ''[[Death Note]]'' have a very unhealthy "relationship" if it can be called that at all. Misa [[Stalking Is Love|stalks Light]] and [[Yandere|forces a relationship with him.]] It is shown time and again that he appears to have no sexual interest in her and only tolerates her presence because he needs her for her powers and to keep her close [[Secret Keeper|to keep her from spilling his secrets]]. If he refuses her she could kill him. However after her initial appearance enraged Misa '''isn't taken seriously''' despite the fact that she could just as easily kill him as he could kill her. The "men are [[Made of Iron]] and women are [[Made of Plasticine]]" idea doesn't matter much when you can kill someone [[Artifact of Doom|by writing on a piece of paper]]. Her slapping him around is [[Played for Laughs]] and is seen as allegedly "deserving" of being hit when he admits he doesn't feel the same way about her. She only gets away with her pushy and sometimes violent behavior because of the [[Wouldn't Hit a Girl|male characters' chivalry.]]
** Aizawa is also a possible victim of this, coming into work with a bandaged head one day. When asked about it, he says he and his wife were in a fight, and the other men barely register that he's been physically injured by his wife.
* In the hentai manga "Anette XXX" one of the sisters evokes this trope saying: "A sister can tease her brother if she wants too".
* Deconstructed in ''[[Manwha/Operaton Liberate Men|Operaton Liberate Men]].'' It is perfectly acceptable for women in the Para Kingdom to abuse men for perceived wrongs, or even for no reason at all. Nobody but Sooha, a foreigner, even bats an eye at the murdered corpse of a man. However, Sooha often ridicules the women for their abuse and allowing such a mindset to exist.
* While this trope is generally played straight in ''[[Daily Lives of High School Boys]]'', but in the case of {{spoiler|the [[Retired Outlaw|former]] [[Enfant Terrible]]-grade [[The Bully|bully]] "Archdemon" Habara}}, it was [[Deconstructed]]
* ''[[Maji de Watashi ni Koi Shinasai!|Maji De Watashi Ni Koi Shinasai]]'':
** In episode 2, the girls chase after a dog in the bath house naked. They then catch it when it runs into Yamato's room. After some initial embarassment and screaming, the next scene shows Yamato all bruised up as they continue chasing after the dog.
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* Averted in ''[[Sensitive Pornograph]]'' with Mari. Ten days after his wife's accidental death, he's still badly bruised. His childhood friend Gouzou is worried and somewhat shocked when he hears of the domestic abuse. Also [[Played for Drama]] and [[Crowning Moment of Heartwarming|heartwarming]] as Mari's little twin sons ask Gouzou to not hurt Papa.
== Comic Books ==
== Comics ==▼
* ''[[V for Vendetta]]'' : No one felt sympathy for Conrad Heyer, the abused husband of the domineering and ruthless [[Manipulative Bitch|Helen Heyer]] but everyone felt sorry for the equally abused Rosemary Almond whose horrible husband would neglect and batter her at the drop of a hat. The characters in-universe likely didn't care about either case due to it being a [[Crapsack World]]. The reader, however, is meant to feel just as sorry for Conrad as Rosemary. Whether or not they actually do is obviously up to the reader.
* ''[[The Flash|Impulse]]'': This in a one-issue story where Impulse noticed one of his male classmates turning up with suspicious injuries. It actually did get remembered for a (little) while, as in a later issue {{spoiler|the boy's mother gets visited in the mental hospital she was put in.}}
* ''[[The Maxx]]'': {{spoiler|Deconstructed through the back-story of Mr. Gone, the main villain, who was sexually abused as a child by his aunt, who subsequently blamed him for the abuse. His inability to seek serious therapy and sympathy from others exacerbates the psychological problems that poison his relationships with his three ex-wives, and cause him to ultimately [[Freudian Excuse|take out his self-hate and shame on several women through rape and serial killing]].}}
* The powers-that-be at DC thought it was perfectly fine for [[Black Canary]], one of the most powerful martial artists in the DCU, [https://web.archive.org/web/20150914161135/http://girl-wonder.org/girlsreadcomics/?p=93 to lamp Green Arrow with a full-strength punch because she was angry at him], only to then [[Slap Slap Kiss|have sex with him]]. And why was she angry? Because he was [[Double Standard Rape (Female on Male)|raped by his archenemy way back]].
* [[Les Legendaires|Les Légendaires]] does this occasionnally:
** Gryf's love interests Shun-Day and Shimy both abused him physically at some points, and it's always played for laught. While Shun-Day did this due to [[Accidental Pervert]] moments, Shimy's attitude was partially justified most of the time, especially when {{spoiler|it turned out he had cheated on her.}}
** [[Cool Big Sis|Sheyla]]'s violence on her brother Razzia was slightly played for laught in a flashback, though it was justified; she had just rescued him from bullies, and was mad he didn't defend himself. {{spoiler|Ironically enough, he eventually learnt how to fight and became stronger than her, only to end up killing her by mistake when they ended up on opposite sides.}}
** Tenebris has moments hitting Razzia during Book 13 when [[Clingy Jealous Girl|he start displaying peeping moments when seeing Jadina in underwears]]. This is gradually deconstructed as the book goes however, with her becoming more and more aggressive as the story goes, in a less and less funny way (she ends up treathening him to cut his other arm off when he [[What the Hell, Hero?|call her out for trying to kill Kasino's assassins and taking pleasure to it]]). {{spoiler|It's eventually revealed to be justified, due to Abyss [[Brainwashed and Crazy|brainwashing her]] with his [[Puppeteer Parasite]] abilities}}.
* Dixie from ''[[What's New with Phil and Dixie|What's New? With Phil And Dixie]]'' regularly smacks, punches, or hammer-KOs her partner Phil, which combines this trope with [[Take That Me]] because he's [[Phil Foglio]]'s [[Author Avatar]].
* The "free comic day" [[Scott Pilgrim]] [[Department of Redundancy Department|comic]] surprisingly confronts this; Scott is attacked by female ninjas and, much to the chagrin of Ramona and Wallace, ''refuses to defend himself because he doesn't want to hit a girl''. Despite its somewhat important message, '''''it should be noted it's [[Played for Laughs]].'''''
{{quote|'''[[An Aesop|Scott Pilgrim says...]]'''
Sometimes girls can be very, very mean. They might pull your hair or kick you in the shins really hard. It can feel like they're sticking razor blades in your heart. ''[[Dissimile|Or maybe they actually
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* In [https://web.archive.org/web/20130926114258/http://www.fanfiction.net/u/109291/MyahLyah Myah Lyah's ''The Princess and the Frog'' stories,
{{quote|Your story is pretty good. The only thing is that the whole scene between Nagina and Kabir dropped the story down a couple notches in my opinion. I can understand a man having an argument with his wife, but for him to grab her wrist and attempt to intimidate her into submission was too much. Especially since the two of them had been acting very much in love at the beginning of the chapter. Two people in love to that extent could have a nasty fight but the love shared between the two would still be there. The dramatic shift from loving to hating was too abrupt and unnatural.}}
* In ''[
* There is a ''[[Neon Genesis Evangelion]]'' fanfic, [https://web.archive.org/web/20120418045633/http://www.fanfiction.net/s/5334678/1/Scar_Tissue
*
* [[
* The highly-controversial, flamewar-spawning ''[[Ranma ½]]'' [[Dark Fic]] ''[[The Bitter End]]'' portrayed an [[Alternative Character Interpretation]] of Akane which proposed that her violent outbursts, instead of comedy slapstick, were the result of deep-seated psychoses and possessiveness stemming from a massive inferiority complex. Not only that, but instead of taking the abuse like anyone else would take a light slap upside the head, Ranma was actually and seriously ''injured'' by Akane's abuse. And like many abuse victims, not only would he refuse to get away from Akane or even acknowledge that what she did was wrong, but his passivity would lead to progressively worse treatment. Eventually, {{spoiler|had Ranma go to a support group for battered spouses... which is entirely made up of women, most of whom can't understand why this strong-looking man is among them. Though Ukyo calls them on this, they stand firm on turning him away... until Ukyo reveals his curse, calling him the one guy who can truly ''understand'' what being a woman is like. After this, the group gradually warms up to him, especially as he teaches them self-defense and gives them another perspective on 'mens' minds'}}. "The Bitter End" is extremely well-written and [[Shown Their Work|well-researched]], and it is widely considered a classic must-read for being one of the first ''[[Ranma ½]]'' voices to speak openly about this delicate subject matter. (Though [[Fanon]] and character-bashing factions in the fandom, sadly, [[Misaimed Fandom|would take this interpretation and run with it as though it were canon]].)
* Inverted in the third chapter of ''[[The Last War]]''. [[Harry Potter (novel)|Harry and Ginny]] are presented as being [[Die for Our Ship|in an unfulfilling marriage]] in which she's unequivocally the bad guy, to the extent that Harry ''physically assaults her'' (and is still considered the hero).
* Somewhat annoyingly, very common in ''[[Axis Powers Hetalia]]'' fandom when it pairs Belgium and Netherlands or Hungary and Prussia. In the first case, Belgium becomes a [[Bastard Girlfriend]] and it's okay because it's fetishized; in the second, Hungary beats up Prussia at the slightest provocation -usually with her [[Frying Pan of Doom]]- and it's okay because it's [[Played for Laughs]]. And let's not even discuss [[Yandere|Belarus]] with Russia or Lithuania...Bela/Liet seems to be heading a little into [[Dude, Not Funny]] territory lately, though.
* Both played straight and averted in ''[[Naruto]]'' fanfics. Played straight in that many authors regularly have Tsunade blasting off Jiraiya with [[Super Strength]] punches, normally sending him to the female onsen for even more of a beating, as a source of comedy. Sakura's treatment of Naruto, however, is often treated as abuse and she's called out by other characters or treated cruelly by the author for it, unless it's explicitly said that [[Justified Trope|Naruto allows her to do it as a stress relief, and he's too tough for it to be a cause of concern (as it's implied to be the case with Jiraiya)]].
* In the ''[[Death Note]]'' fic ''[[Fever Dreams]]'' many people just find it amusing when Misa stalks Light (or even consider him "lucky" to be stalked by a hot celebrity chick) and only when Misa gets really violent and crazy does anyone even ''consider'' calling the cops.
== Film ==
* Some ''[[Lifetime Movie of the Week]]'' movies.
* Played with in ''[[My Super Ex-Girlfriend]]'' a romantic comedy about a guy, who in response to him leaving his super-powered girlfriend for being crazy, she proceeds to do all sorts of vicious things, ranging from throwing his car
* [[Played With]] in ''[[The Hangover]]'': Stu Price is dating a nagging, controlling woman who cheated on him with a bartender and who beats him. "That was only twice!" defends Stu desperately to [[What Measure Is a Non-Badass?|keep his Manliness]]; he even goes so far as to claim that one of her beatings of him was [[Does This Remind You of Anything?|actually justified]]. It's completely [[Played for Laughs]] in the beginning, but his friend Phil constantly reminds Stu of how horrible Melissa is and tells him to break up with her. Stu later wises up at the end of the movie, then [[Crowning Moment of Awesome|breaks up with her at the wedding]].
* Played straight in ''[[Nick and Norah's Infinite Playlist]]'' when the titular characters are arguing and Norah gets so upset that she hits Nick in the throat. The double standard is particularly striking, considering that [[Michael Cera]] (Nick) has the build of a twelve year old girl, making Kat Dennings (Nora) looks like an Olympic powerlifter compared to him. There's also the fact that Nick was getting over a break-up with Tris, who emotionally abuses him.
* Subverted in ''[[
* Played straight and averted in ''[[Kung Fu Hustle]]''. The landlady always hits her lecherous husband, even tossing him out the window in comical effort at one point. {{spoiler|However, both of them are highly trained martial artists and the landlord could have easily dodged the landlady's hits if he wanted to. And the landlady could have easily hit '''a lot''' harder if she wanted to.}}
* Korean [[Rom Com]] ''[[My Sassy Girl]]'' is pretty much two straight hours of this trope as an excuse for slapstick.
* ''[[Tokyo Zombie]]'' includes a scene in which a meek abused man buries his mother in a giant mountain of trash and corpses at his girlfriend's instance (specifically, when threatened with sex deprivation). Not content with that the girl proceeds to ''kick her head into orbit'' while still belittling her boyfriend.
* ''[[The War of the Roses (film)|The War of the Roses]]'' plays with this trope slightly. The film revolves around an
* In the original ''[[The Parent Trap (1961 film)||Parent Trap]]'', in a fit of anger at one point Maggie socks her ex-husband Mitch in the eye. His dialogue seems to imply she'd done stuff like that back when they were married: "Why do you have to get so physical? Can't even talk to you about anything, you're always trying to belt me with something." The movie tries to make the whole situation seem cutesy by the awkward and girly way in which she throws the punch, but for the [[Values Dissonance|modern viewer]] it casts an ominous tone over their eventual reconciliation.
* Played straight in ''Birthday Girl''. Sophia participates in the beating, robbery, torture, and kidnapping of her husband John. She gets angry at her co-conspirators later and decides to free John, but never so much as apologizes for her actions - and the fool nonetheless sticks with her and they live (happily?) ever after together. There are even disturbing intimations that John deserves to be victimized because he is a fan of bondage porn, although he never even hints at acting out his fantasies on Sophia, and he is mortally embarrassed when he realizes that she knows about his tastes, even though she implies that she regards them as harmless.
* Averted in both the film and the novel of ''[[The Dead Zone]]''. Frank Dodd's lifelong abuse at the hands of his mother is portrayed as horrific, and as the main if not the only reason he has become a [[Complete Monster]].
* Played straight in ''
* More or less played straight in ''[[Baby Boy]]''. Yvette (Taraji Henson's character), in a fit of rage, starts swinging her hands toward her boyfriend Jody (Tyrese's character). While one could certainly understand why Yvette's upset, what with Jody's constant cheating and lying, that does not excuse her violently wailing at him to the point of punching him in the ''eye'' really hard. So when Jody fought back after failing to restrain Yvette, he smacks her in self-defense, which anyone has the right to do. Of course, the movie unfairly paints Jody's actions as a [[Kick The Dog/Moral Event Horizon|Moral Event Horizon]] moment.
* Discussed in ''[[In Bruges]]'',
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** Mat Cauthon is stalked, sexually harassed and eventually raped at knife-point by the much older queen of Altara. It's played for laughs and the female characters consider this his just desserts for being a flirt.
** One of the major themes of the series is the dysfunction that rises from gender imbalance, and the author's favorite way of pointing this out is to switch gender roles in certain situations. Because of this, the Altara situation is probably meant to provoke [[Fridge Horror]] when a reader inevitably thinks about how this would play if the character's genders were flipped.
* ''[[The Dark Elf Trilogy]]'' ultimately averts this. The society of the drow (dark elves) is built upon the concept of females being blameless and superior, while males are intrinsically worthless; abuse is not only accepted, but ''actively encouraged'' to keep the males in their place. However, drow are one of the setting's [[
* In ''[[Tortall Universe|Terrier]]'' by [[Tamora Pierce]], protagonist Beka Cooper's first chase scene is with a woman who has doled out plenty of drunken violence against her timid husband and three children. The neighbors seem to believe this trope, wondering why her husband didn't just fight back, but Beka certainly seems to disagree, and when the woman is eventually put on trial, she doesn't get off especially lightly.
* In [[L. Frank Baum]]'s ''[[The Marvelous Land of Oz]]'', Jinjur tried to take over the country. She has a cameo in a later book, placidly explaining that she is content with her quiet life with her
* Strongly averted in ''[[Misery]]'', because Paul Sheldon is so utterly helpless after being badly hurt in a car crash. And Annie is nuts.
* ''Sisterhood'' series by [[Fern Michaels]]: ''The Jury'' has the Vigilantes finding out that Paula Woodley has had every bone in her body broken by husband Karl Woodley, a [[Complete Monster]] who is the National Security Advisor, [[The Napoleon]], and had the President himself as his best man at their wedding! So the Vigilantes go to his home and break every bone in ''his'' body! ''Collateral Damage'' reveals that Paula has been non-physically abusive (for the most part) to Karl, making him eat baby food and watch her eat a fine Southern meal, confining him to a few rooms, and taunting him when they do interact. By this point, he is wheelchair-bound, and he has lost his ability to talk. Female characters take Paula's side, while male characters seem to be uncomfortable with the whole situation (possibly because they are wondering if their spouses or loved ones will do this to them next!). In short, the series does its best to justify Paula's treatment of her husband. However, this trope is ''not'' justified for Maggie Spritzer's treatment of Ted Robinson and Abner Tookus. Fortunately, Maggie finally wakes up to the realization that she's been unfair to both of them and attempts to make amends in ''Deja Vu''. ''Home Free'' has her hooking up with Augustus "Gus" Sullivan, and she realizes that she can't ''take advantage of him'' the way she did to Ted and Abner.
* Lampshaded in [[Robert A. Heinlein]]'s ''[[The Moon Is a Harsh Mistress]]''. Manny explains to Stu
* Subverted in [[The Underland Chronicles]]. Fairly early in the first book, Luxa slaps Gregor across the face and is immediately reproved - first by [[Cheerful Child|Boots]], then by [[Reasonable Authority Figure|Vikus]].
* In ''Eclipse'' and some of ''Breaking Dawn'', Bella's attempts to force Edward to sleep with her are [[Played for Laughs]], even though the same situation with a gender reversal would seem horrific. Even amongst criticizers of the series, Edward's controlling behavior is primarily focused on, with the despicable things Bella does generally going unnoticed.
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** Averted also in Spike's backstory: his mother, once sired, abuses him verbally and [[Attempted Rape|tries to]] [[Rape as Drama|abuse him sexually]]. Made even worse by the fact that now being a demon she actually had the physical strenght needed to overcome him, at least in theory, and she knew he would have likely been [[Parental Incest|too shocked]] to react properly. Both the abuse per se and the sexual assault are treated very seriously and have deep consequences for Spike.
* Closely subverted in an episode of ''[[Friends]]'', in which Joey's new girlfriend is constantly hitting him, ''hard'' (though not as a punishment, she's just trying to be playful), and his friends all laugh at him for being terrified of her - until Rachel gets a taste of it and understands their mistake. The episode implies that said new girlfriend is fully aware of this trope and is using it under the excuse of playfulness. When Joey actually protests the hitting, she says "Oh, you're making fun of me! ''Stop making fun of me!''" while smiling... but she says it through gritted teeth and while hitting him even harder than before. At the very least she thinks she can get away with hitting people if she smiles while she does it, since she does it to Rachel when Rachel says something she doesn't like much.
* ''[[Two and A Half Men]]'' plays this trope shamelessly straight with Alan and Charlie's mother who virtually exists to criticize and berate them at every opportunity. But then again, this ''is'' ''[[Two and A Half Men]]'' we're talking about, and it has no shortage of [[Double Standard
** Another example would be how Alan's ex-wife Judith treats him. [[Emotional Abuse|She constantly belittles him]], blames him for just about everything Jake picks up in the house (from Charlie, not from Alan!), and [[Financial Abuse|demands huge amounts of alimony from him--when he decides to treat himself and buy himself a much-needed car, her response is to demand]] ''[[Financial Abuse|more]]'' [[Financial Abuse|alimony from him--and she doesn't even ''need'' the money, other episodes revealed she was spending it all on material items and expensive trips to Hawaii.]]
** In one episode, Charlie falls ill, so Rose comes to "take care of him." Cue drugging him for weeks, controlling his every movement (literally), and locking the doors. At one point, Charlie manages to escape out the window. Had the roles been reversed, this would have never been played for comedy.
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** Many iCarly fans have defended Sam's behavior by citing her terrible home life (which, admittedly, is pretty awful), by claiming that it's "slapstick" and not meant to be taken seriously, and by arguing that Sam is understandably angry because she's in love with Freddie and he only has eyes for her best friend, Carly. It seems highly unlikely that any of these justifications, especially the last one, would be accepted if it was a male character physically abusing a female character.
** At the beginning of the fifth season, Sam and Freddie actually became a couple for about four episodes. At one point, it was revealed that Sam was still hitting Freddie. Again, it was not viewed as abusive, and Carly thought it was sweet that Sam had stopped punching Freddie in the face.
*** Some believe the implication is that Freddie [[Too Kinky to Torture|likes]] it when Sam hits him, which is itself
** The episode when the kids find Lewbert's ex-girlfriend Marta, a woman who was so miserable to him that he faked his own death and changed his identity just to get away from her. When the kids witness her beating him and forcing attacking him with scissors (to give him a haircut) they at least seem appropriately horrified, admitting she's as much of a "monstress" as Lewbert said she was, but her abuse of Lewbert (especially considering he's an antagonist on the show) is still largely played for laughs.
** In "iFight Shelby Marx," Carly, Sam, and Shelby all gang up on Nevel, and it is implied that they beat him up. Some viewers have argued that it was justified because Nevel tried to manipulate Shelby into beating up Carly by falsely claiming that Carly had deliberately tried to injure Shelby's grandmother. Justified or not, the fact remains that it would never be considered acceptable for three male protagonists to beat up a female antagonist, no matter what she did.
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* Tyler Perry's House of Payne spends an episode on domestic abuse featuring a woman being beaten by her husband, a man being repeatedly stomped and electrocuted by his wife and two other women while they tell a 911 operator he's trying to kill them, and Delante being beaten within an inch of his life by two women he's dating. Only one of these is ever treated as domestic abuse or anything short of hilarious.
* Brilliantly averted in a recent storyline of the Irish soap ''Fair City''. Suzanne Halpin's abuse of her husband Damien swiftly escalates from constant insults to a once per episode [[No-Holds-Barred Beatdown]] (this is rendered fairly tragic when one considers that Damien [[Wouldn't Hit a Girl]], even in obvious self-defence, due to his own father's abuse of his mother), and is treated with appropriate outrage and shock by everyone who finds out, including Suzanne's ''own father'', Bela. His reaction is to publicly, tearfully apologise to Damien for what his daughter has put him through. Now, if only the acting quality weren't so horrendous...
* Played brutally straight in the TV miniseries ''Betty Broderick''. The title character spends several YEARS stalking, harassing and terrorizing her [[Jerkass]] ex-husband and his new wife before finally shooting them dead. But Betty's behavior is somehow justified because her husband dumped her for another woman and SHE is the one made out to be the victim/heroine in the ensuing murder trial. The fact that Ms. Broderick was played by Meredith Baxter Birney also makes it [[Hilarious in Hindsight]]
* Pretty much anytime Lois Lane attacks a main character in ''[[Smallville]]'', it's an example of this trope. A recent example had her kicking a man [[Groin Attack|somewhat painfully]] for removing her from the premises. The thing that makes this even worse is that ''he was a security guard, and she was trespassing''.
* ''[[The Cosby Show]]'' tends to subvert this trope several times.
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* ''[[Titus]]'' averts this, with the title character actually showing the after effects of a fight with his ex-girlfriend. [[Real Life Writes the Plot|This was based on an actual relationship Chris Titus had]], and the episode actually showed him going to her funeral to make sure she was really dead, he was so scared of her.
** In the stand-up routine the series was based on, he goes into far more detail about the relationship, including the time when the police showed up at the house and arrested ''him'', despite the fact that not only was he the one who'd called them in the first place, but he'd been making such calls on a regular basis.
* In one episode of ''[[Fresh Prince of Bel Air]]'', Will goes on a date with a pretty girl who at first seems rather sweet. However, at the restaurant, she completely changes, speaking to him in a rude, snide voice, she tells him where they will go to college, what jobs they will both have, ''how many kids they will have and what genders'', she tells him what to eat and what ''not'' to eat (saying that if he orders cottage cheese now he'll have a heart attack at middle age and leave her with the kids), and when he looks at the waitress to place his order, she yells at both him ''and'' the waitress. Later, she chooses his wardrobe and buys him a beeper with the obvious intent of keeping track of him 24/7 (in real life, behavior like this is a ''huge'' indicator of an abusive relationship). When Will tells his aunt and uncle about this, they shrug it off, saying that the dictating what jobs and how many children they'll have is a sign that she has goals, and her getting angry over him looking at another girl, and telling him what he can and can't eat is just proof that she doesn't want to lose him. By the episode's end, she's hanging on his every word, eagerly promising to handwrite his class notes and send out his
* ''[[Memphis Beat]]'' has an interesting take on this. The trope is initially played straight and even [[Played for Laughs]], but eventually subverted. One of the male police officers - a very big man and a sort of [[Cloudcuckoolander]] - is seen apparently taking quite the verbal batterment from his wife on the phone, then later in the episode comes in with odd bandages. Three other officers - Whitehead, Dwight, and their female boss - ask him what happened, and he says, "My wife stabbed me" as though it were no big deal. Dwight and the boss don't so much as bat their eyes, but old-fashioned, curmedgeonly Whitehead tells him he should stand up to his wife. At the end of the episode, Dwight tells the officer he shouldn't let his wife push him around, and the end of the episode shows him standing beside her in the booking line - presumably she's being booked for assault. It went from [[Actually Pretty Funny]] to [[Tear Jerker]] pretty quickly.
* In the first episode of ''Vexed'', Kate physically attacks her husband when she (wrongly) thinks he's having an affair, resulting in him spending the whole of the second episode on crutches. It's not played ''entirely'' for laughs - they're seen attending couples counselling and their marriage is acknowledged to be on the rocks - but by the end of the episode it appears that he's prepared to take her back.
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* In ''[[Glee]]'', Quinn is constantly verbally abusive towards Finn, repeatedly telling him he's stupid, attempting to control his hobbies and activities. She is also willing to let Finn raise and pay for a child that isn't even his (he's in the dark about this fact), pretty massively affecting his life. When he eventually finds out the kid isn't his and dumps her, it's clear that [[Deconstruction|we're supposed to see him in the right and her as a bitch]]. Despite that she and Finn resumed their relationship for some time the next season.
* Terri does quite a bit of the same to Will, and has the audacity to wonder why she needed to {{spoiler|resort to faking a pregnancy to keep Will around.}}
* ''[[That's My Bush!]]'' inverted this by parodying [[The Honeymooners]] famous line, "One of this days, to the Moon, Alice!" Bush would say, "One of these days, Laura, I'm gonna punch you in the face!". It should be noted that he never hit his wife and even in the show itself, it was just supposed to be a joke. It received a lot of complaints from audience members who felt that even joking about such a thing was terrible. The creators of the show [[South Park|(Trey Parker and Matt Stone)]] must've heard said complaints because later episodes change the line to, "I'm gonna punch you in the face! [[Crosses the Line Twice|Then the stomach! Then the face again!"]]
* ''[[Law and Order Special Victims Unit]]'', of all the things. Although there are exceptions, an example of this is "Taboo" - in which [[Squick|a man and his twenty-year-old daughter]] were having an affair. Despite their protests that it was consensual (arguable but near impossible to prove) and the DA's assurances that it was [[Crosses the Line Twice|a relatively low-level crime]], Anvilicious Olivia Benson went storming around determined to prosecute the man for incest (ignoring the fact that the adult woman would also have to be prosecuted), attempting to browbeat the girl into admitting that he raped her and had knowledge of the two children of theirs she killed (which he didn't). She even yelled, "SO ELLA [the woman] GETS ATTEMPTED MURDER AND HE GETS OFF?" at one
* Another ''[[Law and Order Special Victims Unit]]'' example: in a Season 12 episode, Olivia argued that, if a man and woman went upstairs drunk to have sex, it's all the man's fault. Regardless of circumstances. So, if the man and woman go upstairs equally drunk and the man is the same/more affected than the woman, it's the man's fault! If a woman gets slightly drunk and the man is completely hammered to the point of being unable to understand what's going on - it's not woman/male rape, it's the man's fault! It's a particularly egregious examples since in several episodes, when any of her colleagues try to play [[Double Standard Rape (Female on Male)]] straight, Olivia has been outraged and done everything possible to avert this trope. Since any series that stays on the air long enough will eventually accumulate episodes where [[Flanderization]] and the [[Idiot Ball]] drive the plot. Olivia, as the iconic feminist archetype, ends up an example of this trope when it's her turn to run the idiot ball for an episode, and subverts it when she gets to play defense against it.
** And yet another example of playing it straight occured last season, when a man was raped by several women, and Elliot is reluctant to believe him or go after the offenders. Later on there was an episode with a teenage boy who revealed he had been repeatedly molested as a little boy by his babysitter, and both subvert this trope by reacting with due horror and concern.
* In the fourth episode of ''[[How I Met Your Mother]]'' Ted dates a girl who, it transpires, studies Krav Maga. Granted, he acts like a jerk towards her, but the public beating she doles out to him at the episode's end - during which no one in the crowded restaurant attempts to help or intervene - is hardly justified. To make matters worse, when he tells his friends, ''and even his children'', what happened, all any of them do is laugh because he 'got beat [sic] up by a girl'. Even worse, in the 21st episode of the fifth season Ted reveals that the crowd in the restaurant ''cheered her on''. Furthermore, for anyone who knows a little about Krav Maga, an Israeli martial art. The premise behind it is that, in a real fight, no quarter is given to the enemy. You fight to inflict maximum pain and damage in order to accomplish your goal and ensure your safety. Everything is permitted, including eye-gouching and [[Groin Attack
* ''[[NCIS]]'' S3 Ep14, "Light Sleeper", subverted this. The initial suspect in the murder of a Korean woman is her Marine husband. Their neighbor claimed she frequently heard them screaming at each other, leading her to believe that husband was abusive. However, the husband reveals to Gibbs that she was the abusive one and proves by lifting up his shirt to reveal a large burn mark where she hit him with an iron. {{spoiler|The woman is later revealed to have been a North Korean sleeper agent.}}
** Another example in the Season 6 finale "Aliyah", when an emotionally distraught Ziva, upset that Tony shot her murderous, rogue Mossad boyfriend to death in easily justifiable self defense, pins Tony to the ground and points her loaded pistol at his chest. Despite the immense severity of this act, it is brushed aside with nary a mention, and ''Ziva'' is treated as the one who was wronged.
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* Averted in the ''[[Criminal Minds: Suspect Behavior]]'' episode "Smother": the town tried to get the unsub's mother arrested because she was still breastfeeding her son at the age of seven, but without signs of further abuse, they weren't able to do anything. Later her son confesses he was abused, and the mother kidnaps another boy to continue the cycle. Everything is taken seriously.
* Averted by ''[[Kamen Rider Double]]'' where Saeko's verbal and physical abuse of Kirihiko is shown to be pretty much as bad as it is, building her up to be more villainous {{spoiler|and leading to a [[Redemption Equals Death]] arc for him.}}
** Akiko's constant physical and verbal abuse of Shotaro (who is technically both her tenant and employee, and thus would risk eviction from his home and unemployment of himself and his dysfunctional sidekick Philip if he protested too much) is always [[Played for Laughs]], however.
* Averted in ''[[Frasier]]'' regarding Maris's treatment of Niles, but that may have been because the abuse was mostly emotional and psychological rather than physical. It may also be because Maris was [[The Ghost|never seen onscreen]], meaning that her actions were described rather than seen, and things that could have been [[Played for Laughs]] in action suddenly didn't seem so funny when described out loud.
* Subverted on [[Degrassi]] as Jenna hitting KC with her guitar is treated seriously and the first sign that she's losing it dealing with the pressure of being a [[Teen Pregnancy|teen mom.]]
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* ''Step by Step'' : Both played straight and averted in the episode in which Mark is being picked on by a bully named "Max," which turns out to be short for Maxine. Frank is disgusted that Mark is "letting" a girl push him around, and he can't believe that Carol isn't embarrassed by her son's behavior. The fact that the girl in question is ''twice Mark's size'' doesn't seem to matter to Frank. Fortunately for Mark, though, the rest of the family doesn't share Frank's sexist views. Despite her antagonistic relationship with her stepsiblings, Al sticks up for Mark, and threatens to beat Max up if she doesn't lay off him. Later, Mark stands up to Max, who immediately backs down. Unaware that Al had intimidated Max into backing off, Mark eagerly tells the family what he did. Frank and Carol figure out what Al did, but they and Al all let Mark believe he did it himself. The entire family, Frank included, are proud of both Mark (for standing up for himself) and Al (for sticking up for Mark).
* Averted on [[Star Trek: Deep Space Nine]], in one episode Kira and Odo are reading over the criminal activity reports and when they get to the assault, ''[[Hot-Blooded|Kira]]'' asks why the hell the husband stays with his wife when she beats him so often. Later that same night they were arrested for "Public Lewdness." [[A Man Is Always Eager|Which brings up another trope to try and justify why he stays.]]
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* The music video for Maroon 5's [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6g6g2mvItp4 "Misery"] is a perfect example of this. [[Misaimed Fandom|This actually goes against the lyrics of the song]], which are definitely not about a healthy relationship, as well as [[Word of God|the words of Adam Levine himself]]:
{{quote|"'Misery' is about the desperation of wanting someone really badly in your life but having it be very difficult. Kind of what all the songs I write are about. I'm not treading on new ground, but I think a lot of people – including myself – deal with that all the time. Relationships are difficult, and it's good therapy to write about them." [http://www.songfacts.com/detail.php?id{{=}}19678 (source)]}}
* When [[Florence
* Carrie Underwood's "Before He Cheats" is all about a woman destroying her boyfriend's car because of the cheating he ''might'' be doing. The video says she was right in her unconfirmed suspicions, but there's no way she would be able to get away with it with the genders reversed.
** Let's see: "I dug my key into the side/Of her pretty little souped-up 4 wheel drive/Carved my name into her leather seat/I took a Louisville slugger to both head lights/Slashed a hole in all 4 tires/And maybe next time she'll think before she cheats". Um, yeah. Changing four pronouns changes the connotations quite a bit.
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* The video for Christina Aguilera's "Can't Hold Us Down" has an entire street full of women ganging up on all the men and spraying them with a fire hose. Why? Because one guy grabbed Christina's ass as she walked by. I guess Xtina believes in collective punishment.
* In the [[The Offspring|Offspring]] song "[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NHfY6VTRUFk Self Esteem]", the singer describes himself as being pushed around and generally mistreated by his girlfriend, but he lets her get away with it because he's "got no self esteem". However, if we were to flip the gender roles in the song, it would turn into a really not okay situation that would have the critics ranting.
** It's really hard to say where the song falls on this. It could be interpreted as a straight example... or as actually mocking the kind of mindset that says it's better to put up with an abusive, cheating, hateful girlfriend because it's better than being single and "not getting any".
* In what is supposed to be comedic (presumably) but comes off as just seriously ''disturbing'' is the music video for "I Pray for You" by Jaron and the Long Road to Love. The song itself is about the narrator grumbling about an ex-girlfriend who has treated him badly and praying all sorts of horrible things happen to her. But the video is just ''sadistic.'' The video starts with the man walking into the house, where his girlfriend throws several vases at his head and a hot cup of coffee in his face. The next scene has the man tied up in a bathtub full of water while his girlfriend teasingly dangles a hairdryer over him! The the man gives her a teddy bear. She cuddles it close and then kicks him in the crotch. She then proceeds to try and smother him ''with the teddy bear.''Later, she lays a trip-wire of dental floss that makes him fall down the stairs. And when he tries to leave, she runs over his car with a monster truck. And this is played as ''funny.'' If the gender roles were reversed, this would probably be the music video to a tragic song about the horrors of domestic violence.
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* ''[[Peanuts]]'' could be considered a case of this. Lucy is always throwing her weight around and slugging the other kids (not just [[Butt Monkey|Charlie Brown]] - probably her most frequent target is her own little brother Linus), but the comic never really makes it seem like she's in the right or sympathetic - often calling her a "fussbudget". The other kids never really call her out on this or try to stand up to her though, and she rarely gets in trouble. Although in the case of the kids standing up to her, they might just not want to get on her bad side, and as for her getting in trouble, [[There Are No Adults]].
** Shulz also went on record in several interviews as saying that while a boy bullying a girl wouldn't be seen as funny, the gender reversal in a girl bullying a boy would be seen as funny.
* In ''[[Bringing Up Father]]'', the title character Jiggs would often have various kitchenware thrown at him by his wife. An early ''[[Mad Magazine]]'' parody from [[The Fifties]] deconstructed this by having an [[Art Shift]] on every other page where Jiggs is suddenly drawn realistically, and is covered in blood, scars, and has missing teeth due to his wife's beatings.
* Likewise, in ''[[For Better or For Worse]]'', Elly would sling coffee mugs and similar objects at her husband John from time to time, particularly in its declining years as he faded [[Out of Focus]] by [[Flanderization|spending all his free time playing with his trains]].
* Played for laughs in [http://www.gocomics.com/luann/2000/04/18 one strip] of ''[[Luann]]'', where apparently the classic sawing-a-girl-in-half trick is seen as violence against women. When Bernice suggests sawing ''Gunther'' in half, the counselor doesn't see a problem with it.
* Averted in ''[[Calvin and Hobbes]]'', where Calvin and Susie beat each other up in roughly equal amounts and are both portrayed as just typical vendetta-driven kids being kids.
** Played with even, [[Word of God]] indicates that this is their way of liking each other.
== Professional Wrestling ==
* ''[[TNA]] Impact'' has had a rule imposed on it by [[Spike TV]] that they can never, ever show men using violence against women. The reverse of this is not true, and, as TNA discovered when they ran a storyline where Cody Deaner stole the women's championship belt and claimed to be the champion, this applies even within the confines of a sanctioned wrestling match. Therefore, every single match where a woman was trying to reclaim the belt had [[Squash Match|the woman absolutely beat the crap out of Deaner for 3-4 minutes, with Deaner getting absolutely no offense whatsoever in]], only for him to either win in the end with a fluke roll up, or lose and sneak away with the belt anyway. The aftereffects of this basically killed his TNA career.
* Much like the above, the WWE video games have almost the same standard. A man can't hit a woman at all, whether it be by accident, self-defense, or in a sanctioned match without being disqualified. The only time a man and a woman can be in the same match are if a woman comes out with a guy, or in a mixed tag match, where if a man tags in a woman, he has to leave the ring or get a DQ. A man can be disqualified for hitting a woman, ''even if she isn't part of the match at all''.
** WWE itself had this as a standard for years after it went mainstream, exploiting it to the
== Video Games ==
* ''[[Final Fight]]'' is known for replacing female antagonists (such as [[Unsettling Gender Reveal|Poison]] and Roxy) with males in the console adaptations of the arcade games. Because... well, you know. It's not right for a man to abuse a woman and all that stuff. Made even more egregious when both the second and third sequels featured a female protagonist. [[Unfortunate Implications|It's also perfectly O.K. to beat up
** Became really strange with some later iterations of the franchise, as the Capcom translation team wanted to declare [[Values Dissonance]] [[Early Installment Weirdness]] on Poison being a transwoman and just say she was a ciswoman again (since, you know, ''she was''). This sparked outrage, with feminists feeling that having Poison no longer trans was trans erasure, until Capcom relented.
* Contrast to the aversion in ''[[Double Dragon]]'', where the "Linda"-class enemies [[Whip It Good|show no mercy]], ''and'' expect none. Of course, Linda's usually depicted as a [[Brawn Hilda|mannish-muscular]] woman with a mohawk, which raises its own set of unfortunate implications.
** And averted in the [[Battletoads]]/Double Dragon crossovers. In this one, Linda's a buxom long-haired blonde in camo pants and a tight shirt - and the Toads and Dragons hold her up in the air by her hair and punch her in the stomach repeatedly.
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* Apparently ''murder'' is okay if it's female on male in the ''[[Dead or Alive]]'' world, as an [[Accidental Pervert]] is thrown off a fast moving train in [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H73qFYp0jI8 one of the endings.]
* ''[[Final Fantasy XIII]]'': Lightning spends a good portion of the storyline psychologically (and occasionally physically) attacking her soon-to-be brother-in-law Snow. While it's not exactly [[Played for Laughs]], she's never really called out on it, and a large segment of the fandom ''cheers'' when she does it. Sazh has been hit a few times as well, and Fang more than once. Hell, there's a scene where she pushes Hope out of her way.
* The game ''[https://web.archive.org/web/20131127081512/http://www.heybabygame.com/info.php Hey Baby]'' is a complex case (the targets are not innocent and the setting isn't normalising the violence in the way that many entries in this list are), but the idea that violent reactions are more acceptable if they're aimed by women at men does appear to be at work.
* ''[[Tekken]] 3'''s ending for Mokujin has his wife gives him a [[Megaton Punch]] both in the beginning and the end of the scene.
** In [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J3tVTrcSEFo Asuka's Tekken 5 ending], Jin transforms from being [[Super-Powered Evil Side|Devil Jin (manga)]], and accidentally lands on her breasts. They're still for about 8 seconds, then she get's pissed off. Jin's response? What's going on? Where am I? Her response? [[Megaton Punch|YOU PERVERT!]]
* The web-game ''The Boyfriend Trainer'', where you play as a girl who abuses her boyfriend so that he can become the "perfect boyfriend."
* In ''[[Persona 3]]'', Ryoji and Junpei joke around about staying in the hot springs past the allotted time for men, even though they actually panic when girls start coming in for real. When they hear [[The Ojou|Mitsuru]] come in also, Akihiko all but freaks out, saying that she'd give them all a [[Fate Worse Than Death]] if she catches them in the hot
* ''[[Persona 4]]'' had a few scenes of this:
** In the first class trip, a camping trip in the country, Yosuke proposes going swimming at the river because he wants to see the girls (Chie and Yukiko) in bathing suits. They refuse, but reluctantly agree when he shows he brought suits for everyone. At this point, the Main Character can compliment one, the other, or both girls, and they'll respond favorably to this. When Yosuke compliments them and Kanji suffers a subtle [[Nosebleed]], they push all three guys ''off a cliff'' and into the river below (a river that is only waist-deep.) Lucky for them the [[Soft Water]], and not the riverbed, broke their fall.
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* ''[[Catherine]]'' features a scene wherein {{spoiler|Catherine}} seriously beats up Vincent and all his friends laugh it off and ignore it. {{spoiler|It's actually subverted once it's revealed that they can't see Catherine and as far as they knew Vincent was alone and making weird noises.}}
* Played straight with Rita in [[Tales of Vesperia]], who will repeatedly hit Raven or Karol. This is usually just treated as a quirk of her personality, rather than a serious flaw. While Raven arguably deserves it for some of his more lecherous comments, sometimes she hits him/uses magic on him just because he's annoying her, and her abuse of Karol is almost completely unprovoked.
* After getting beaten by Yui Mizuhara in ''[[Battle Golfer Yui]]'', Mitsuru Hagata is turned on by Yui abusing him. Yui has to verbally abuse him in order to get some answers.
{{quote|'''Yui:''' You wanna take a pitch to the back of your head?!
'''Hagata:''' Beat me with a metal bat, my Mistress!}}
▲== [[Web Comics]] ==
* There is a strip in ''Sexy Losers'' where the author reverses the genders of Kenta and his horny mom (leaving them a teenage girl being sexually molested by her middle aged father). The audience he's presenting his gender-flipped version to beats the crap out of him. Making sure to [[Don't Explain the Joke|completely point out]] the [[Double Standard]] that people let him get away with it due to this trope, he even says in the final panel "It's the ''same damn joke''!"
* ''[[PvP (webcomic)|
* [[Tear Jerker|Heartbreakingly]] averted in ''[[Digger]]''. {{spoiler|The reason Ed--by leagues the gentlest character in the strip, mind--was exiled was because, after constant abuse from his wife, he found out she was also abusing their child, and killed her while she slept. Then being hyenas the females are stronger--and the one's with combat training--he wouldn't have stood a chance in a fair fight. Ed is a male but to hyenas gender roles are reversed, it's possibly more accurate to think of this as a male abusing a female. Regardless, the tribal elders were completely on Ed's side but failed to prevent his exile. They still feel guilty for that, and the main reason Ed was still exiled even though the elders thought he was in the right was that (much like British law) tribal law made no allowances for the situation; if anything like this had happened before, there were enough key details missing that the law was predicated on the notion that wives just plain don't provoke their husbands into killing them, and they certainly don't do so to a degree that makes their husband the good guy.}}
* ''[[Looking for Group]]'' has an extreme example in that when Pella cuts off Richard's hand some fans actually started ''shipping them''! Admittedly his hand got better, and all things considered, her doing that was about as significant to him as a slap on the wrist. Richard seems to find her methods of dealing with him amusing.
* In ''[[Sluggy Freelance]]'', Gwynn beating up male cast members is [[Played for Laughs]].
* Discussed in ''[[Misfile]]''. One day at school, Ash, a ''very'' reluctant male-to-female [[Gender Bender]], punches a long-standing male rival in response to
* In ''[[
* In ''[[Schlock Mercenary]]'', the female mercs often send male mercs to the infirmary needing ''reconstructive surgery'', in response to accidental insults or reflexive lechery. The reverse never happens, and the women are never punished. And on occasion the female doctor performs said reconstructive surgery without pain relievers because of finding out about said "chauvinism".
* Subverted in ''[[Questionable Content]]'' when a woman who drives around in a vespa attacking boys who are awful to their girlfriends is stopped by Martin and Faye. When they ask her to imagine a guy doing the same to women who treat their boyfriends like crap, she says that she'd have no problem with that...and ask for his phone number. In the same comic, the fact that Faye uses Martin as a punching bag is shown to be the result of severe mental trauma, and she gets called out on it more than once and tries to be better about it, mostly shifting to [[Deadpan Snarker|snark]] as the comic goes on.
** Actually not ''that'' subverted. Faye's abuse is still often [[Played for Laughs]] as much as it is a "cry for help", and a sign that ''she'' needs help and tolerance. Meanwhile, when Sven has sex with another woman after having sex with her (after her repeated insistence that she was ''not'' in a relationship with him and her refusal to actually acknowledge an emotional connection with him, and him telling her he had no intention of being monogamous with her), he is treated as having crossed some sort of [[Moral Event Horizon]] by all and sundry. Basically, the strip treats female violence against men as not being okay... because it means the ''female'' is suffering, not the male. Men are still expected to be moral paragons lest they be classified as abusers.
* ''[[Bittersweet Candy Bowl]]'', Lucy's past habits of violence. {{spoiler|She got better}}. Also eventually deconstructed with how this affected Mike's opinion of her in the long run; he becomes ''very'' bitter, to the point where {{spoiler|his repeated rejections and denials of her feelings for him become emotionally abusive}}.
** You'd have trouble convincing a lot of the [[Fan Dumb|fans]] of Lucy's misbehavior though.
* The ''[[Ciem Webcomic Series]]'' averts it
** Played a ''little'' straighter in chapter 24 than elsewhere, but only because the Kerpher Gang is made up of [[Paedo Hunt|child molesters]].
** The [[Continuity Reboot|book]] is also a bit straighter, as Candi discovers after Don's death that [[It Gets Easier]] when she snuffs a vampire. Granted, it was [[Shoot the Dog|self defense]] both times, and she still [[Thou Shalt Not Kill|despised having to kill]], but she is fully aware of the slippery slope she's on.
{{quote|"[[My God, What Have I Done?|Holy crap]]! I'm [[Future Me Scares Me|becoming]] [[Buffy the Vampire Slayer|Buffy]]!"}}
** The Mexican gangsters also. [[Black and Gray Morality|Granted]], [[Kick the Son of a Bitch|they were committing genocide against peaceful Navajos right before Candi assaulted them]].
* The implications of
* ''[[Wayward Sons]]'': [[Handsome Lech|Hermaz]] snarks one too many times, so Ethaynia uses her power to [[Groin Attack|castrate him]]. [[Good Thing You Can Heal|Fortunately]], he and most of the other characters have a [[Healing Factor]].
* Dan Of [[Footloose]] is quite often smacked about the head by his sister, at no point does he retaliate. None of the others seem to have a problem with this.
* In ''[[The Whiteboard]]'', the male characters are quite free to beat up other male character and the female characters are quite free to beat up male characters. [http://www.the-whiteboard.com/autotwb1449.html This strip] and the one after it shows that Pirta hit Doc hard enough for him to have another near death experience.
* Toyed with in ''[[Homestuck]]'', though not so much in-story as in the [[Fan Dumb|fandom's interpretations of it.]] [[Magnificent Bastard|Vriska]] harasses and torments [[Extreme Doormat|Tavros]] from the very start of the troll's arc, having {{spoiler|paralyzed him}} and then {{spoiler|demanding he [[Crosses the Line Twice|apologize for being handicapped]] }} because he was ''weighing her down.'' This is all presented up-front without comment, since most of the trolls are somewhat [[Blue and Orange Morality|morally dubious]] by human standards. But some fans have responded that Vriska's actions were justified, since she was [[Cruel to Be Kind|'only trying to help.']] But [[Double Standard|if the genders were reversed]], most readers would find Vriska's psychological abuse to be outright unacceptable, opening up a whole minefield of [[Unfortunate Implications]].
* In ''[[Greg (webcomic)|Greg]]'' there are many instances where Greg gets abused by women. [http://gregcomic.com/2012/01/02/storyline-a-silver-lining-part-15/ Here] he is, taking it in the family jewels. [http://gregcomic.com/2011/08/08/guilt-by-association-part-13/ Here] he is getting his skull bashed in.
* ''[[Dumbing of Age]]'': Joyce, an ''extremely'' sheltered girl entering college, honestly believes punching [[All Men Are Perverts|Joe]] has no effect as men are stronger than women. He very much does not think this is so.
{{quote|'''Joe''': Pray for ''me?'' Maybe I'll pray for ''you'' to learn it's ''not cool'' to ''punch people in the face!''
'''Joyce''': But... but... guys can't ''actually'' get hurt by a girl. Guys are, like, ''strong.'' }}
== Western Animation ==
* Janet Barch from ''[[Daria]]'' is the pure, [[Kick Chick|unadulterated]], research-grade form of this trope. The show portrays her [[Early Installment Weirdness|as being violently unhinged in early episodes]], which is where most of the actual abuse is confined to. Later episodes portray her as something of a [[Defrosting Ice Queen]] as she begins a [[Pitbull Dates Puppy|relationship]] with [[Hippie Teacher|Mr. O'Neill]], which is portrayed as being weird but not necessarily dysfunctional. ("The F Word" does seem to imply some ''consensual'' "abuse" in their sex life, though.)
* In the animated adaptation of ''[[Wayside School]]'', Maurecia, an [[Action Girl]] with a crush on [[Only Sane Man]] (and [[Butt Monkey]]) Todd, hits her love interest with an unprovoked [[Megaton Punch]] every chance she gets. She never gets in trouble for this, even when a teacher has seen what
* Half-played, but half-averted in ''[[Hey Arnold!]]''. Helga regularly harasses characters in the series, especially Arnold and Brainy (who [[Running Gag|has a tendency to appear behind her and get punched after he breathes down her neck]]). Averted when a psychiatrist ''does'' visit PS 118, spots her behaviour, and immediately wishes to assess it. By the end of the episode, when Helga asks if she can still punch Briany, she's told, "No, that's the reason why you're here". Granted, it's not entirely a punishment, but she ''did'' get repercussions for her bully tendencies.
** Also, in one episode Arnold is fed up with Helga verbally abusing him in art class, and after she throws glue and feathers on him (and then laughs at him, shouting to the whole class "Arnold's a bird!"), he retaliates by throwing a cup of paint on her. The teacher, who never did ''anything'' when Helga abused him, is shocked at ''Arnold'' and sends him to the principal's office, and his grandparents are notified.
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* Raven's frequent smacking of Beast Boy, either physically or telekinetically, is almost always [[Played for Laughs]] in ''[[Teen Titans (animation)|Teen Titans]]'' due to the cartoonish style of the serie.
* Occurred on ''[[Total Drama Island]]'', but ten times ''worse'' during ''[[Seasonal Rot|Total Drama Action]]'' as Courtney ascended to [[Jerk Sue]] status. She has kicked her love interest, Duncan, in the crotch numerous times just in order to win competitions, and sometimes just for flirting with her when she was in a bad mood.
* A non-romantic example: The way Gaz treats her older brother, Dib, on ''[[Invader Zim]]''. Early episodes just portrayed her as threatening him but never doing much, but by the second season she had been [[Flanderization|Flanderized]] into beating him savagely for minor deeds, and [[Fan Fiction]] took ''that'' even farther and made her into a [[God Mode Sue]] [[Jerk Sue]]. Though Dib is only a year older than her and Gaz is ''clearly'' stronger than any normal child her age could be, the idea of her beating him in ways as bad or worse than an adult could are rarely played for anything but laughs. There is a small but vocal [[Hatedom]] of Gaz for this very reason, which often produce a genre of [[Fix Fic
* An early episode of ''[[South Park]]'' revolves around Stan being beaten and everyone being sympathetic toward him over it...until they find out that the one beating him up is his sister. Then they mock him and call him a pussy. This is despite the fact that Stan's sister is older and bigger than he is, and is also a violent sociopath.
** Majorly averted though when they find out Ike is sleeping with his teacher. The obvious message of the episode is that it's statutory rape and still terrible. Of course, the adults in South Park are oblivious, and seem pretty much ok with it, subscribing [[Double Standard Rape (Female on Male)]]. A ''policeman'' even said it wasn't a crime because "she's hot".
* June towards Henry on ''[[
* Played with in ''[[The Simpsons (animation)|The Simpsons]]''. This is apparently so common, Springfield has a ''Men's'' Shelter. Bart and Lisa are a subversion, as the two of them have beaten up on each other repeatedly, and take as much as they dish out.
* In ''[[Ed, Edd 'n' Eddy]]'', the Eds are commonly beaten up by Ed's sister Sarah, not to mention all the times they've been possibly [[Double Standard Rape (Female on Male)|raped by the Kankers]], who are the walking definitions of Do Not Want. Not only are the Kankers beasts, but the entire cul-de-sac is ''scared'' of them. So while their [[Amusing Injuries|treatment]] of the Eds and anyone who annoys them is usually played for laughs, there are times that it ''is'' wrong and quite likely illegal, but those moments are never actually on screen and only inferred or alluded to. It's to the point that when they drag {{spoiler|Eddy's brother}} away for 'mouth to mouth', it's viewed as his ''comeuppance''. Granted, he's a {{spoiler|[[Complete Monster]] that abuses Eddy}} but ''still''...
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== Other Media ==
* [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gF6xNzMxUYY This YouTube video] shows how this trope is used in both TV and movies along with [[All Abusers Are Male]] and discusses how they affect people’s perception of them in the real world.
* Very common in [[Real Life]]. Men who are victims of domestic abuse often find getting help extremely difficult because the police and social services tend to follow this trope to a T. In some places there have even been rules that in the case of a domestic abuse call, the man is arrested even if ''he'' was the one who called for help. Abuse to men goes unreported far more often because men are less willing to ask for help, and the instances of abuse tend to be more dangerous because women more often use a weapon in the attack.
** As Kevin Hart put it, a man could call the police because his girlfriend/wife is physically attacking him and get arrested if "he grasped at her as he fell."
** There was an advice column letter in ''The Toronto Star'' a few years ago on this very subject. A male abuse victim wrote in saying that his wife would often punch him during arguments, and that he didn't know what to do. He also mentioned he had several male friends who suffered abuse from their wives or girlfriends as well, including one who was ''put in the hospital as a result''. None of them seem to have even considered going to the police, or ''leaving''. And the letter really, ''really'' heavily emphasized that the man would never hit his
** A small newspaper in Colorado had several advice columns regarding this trope and verbal abuse. A 17 year old male wrote about concerns his mother was becoming quite violent, especially since she would ''constantly'' get very angry at him and verbally abuse him for even the smallest screw-ups, such as bringing home a C- grade, dropping something, accidentally hitting a nail in the road, etc. Not only would she constantly criticize him, but she'd also do the same for her husband and the writer's brother. The female advice columnist advised the boy to listen to her a little more, since she only wants the best for him, and acknowledge that she's probably under a lot of pressure and stress as a mother of two teenagers. A later letter, written by a mother of two, complained of her husband doing nearly the ''exact same thing''. This time, the advice columnist said, "That sort of behaviour is really ''not okay''. Verbal abuse can hurt just as much as physical abuse!".
** Advice columnists are improving on this, slightly. Numerous advice letters written by men describing abusive behavior from their wives and girlfriends are now often labeled as abuse. However, counselors don't always advise the man to end the relationship (whereas they would always tell a woman to do so) and if they do, they don't mention anything like calling a domestic violence hotline, seeking shelter, and filing a restraining order (again, advice they would always give to a woman).
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** And don't forget ''shoes''. Do you have any idea how painful they can get? There was a good reason there was a country song about a woman's rampage with a lyric saying, "Call the boys at Neiman Marcus and tell them to lock up the high heel shoes". This also isn't including Stilettos. Just to show how dangerous shoes can be in a [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CVKrzUtjmG4 woman's hands...]
** This, in turn, may stem from people's tendency [[Hollywood Homely|to mentally equate "woman" with "attractive woman"]], the latter of which aren't exactly known for toughness (as opposed to, say, [[Brawn Hilda|a 7-foot-tall, musclebound truck driver]]. Not to mention people's tendency to assume women are housewives or are in "women's jobs": several abuse cases come from couples in which the woman is in the military or law enforcement and the husband is a civilian...
*** Also? [http://www.bris.ac.uk/sps/news/2009/32.html Women are more likely to use a weapon]{{Dead link}} than men are - though to be fair, that is sometimes in self-defense.
* Lorena Bobbit. Horrific mutilator, hero of [[Straw Feminist|misandrists everywhere]], source of jokes for a good decade afterward. Yes, he was a serious ass, but, dude...
** And more recently still (July 2011), we have [http://losangeles.cbslocal.com/2011/07/12/woman-allegedly-cuts-off-husbands-penis-puts-it-in-garbage-disposal/ this case]. She even went a step ''further'' than Bobbit, and threw the severed penis into a '''garbage disposal'''. However, they ''did'' manage to reconstruct it, though it's now partially prosthetic.
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* [http://www.salon.com/2010/11/24/women_more_violent/ This] piece of sh...[[Last-Second Word Swap|oddy]] journalism from Salon.com. Thankfully, averted [http://edition.cnn.com/2010/SHOWBIZ/celebrity.news.gossip/11/18/teen.mom.charged/index.html by CNN in its coverage of the same story]. It's also rather refreshing to see that the story was simply reported, no editorializing at all or any comments at all about the genders of the two people.
* In 2002, Cleveland Indians pitcher Chuck Finley filed for divorce from his wife Tawny Kitaen and charged her with domestic abuse after she beat him with a stiletto heel. When he started a game in Chicago not long after the incident, the stadium's musical director mocked him by playing Whitesnake's "Here I Go Again" as he warmed up. (Kitaen rose to fame as a direct result of her appearance in the song's video.) Finley was not amused. The man was eventually fired, and the White Sox apologized to Finley.
* An indirect form of this trope comes in the form of "AdviceMama" Susan Stiffelman. A man who identified himself as "Facebook Father" father sent her a letter asking for advice about his ex-wife setting up Facebook accounts for their two kids (''neither a teen yet'', which is ''against Facebook rules''), making them look older than they really are, teaching them to [[Moral Dissonance|screw ethics]] and break rules to get ahead, and cutting him off from talking to them online because he complains about it. Rather than the obvious courses of action involving emailing Facebook, going to court, and saving and printing out all pages involved for evidence, Stiffelman's advice is the equivalent of [[Family-Unfriendly Aesop|inverse morality]]
* [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AeadI7jieDY This] case. A group of 8th-grade girls ganged up on and held down a terrified 5th-grade boy and forcefully undressed him on camera. The mother of the victim doesn't even press charges. Who can doubt that if the genders were reversed, the police would get involved anyway, and that the public outrage would be several times more intense?
** This event ''very nearly'' crossed the line into [[Double Standard Rape (Female on Male)]], the only difference is that the girls never actually induced carnal relations with the boy.
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*** It would, but as has been discussed [[Rape Is a Special Kind of Evil|on other pages]], if the victim is alive and able to decide for themselves, charges need to be pressed in order to do so.
** Several places on the internet have expressed outrage towards this incident, but [[All Men Are Perverts|purely out of envy that something that awesome never happened to them when they were kids]]. They of course came to the unanimous conclusion that the kid was gay for not enjoying himself and realizing [[Double Standard Rape (Female on Male)|how lucky he was]].
* Horribly done in an [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=
* [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4JA4EPRbWhQ Its only sexist when men do it!]
* This trope in general is part of the reason that more than a few people are saying that teaching your sons to ''never'' hit a woman is a bad idea. There are multiple studies showing that women are just as likely (if not moreso) to be violent in a relationship. They also realize that female-on-male violence can actually be worse since 1) a man is less likely to fight back or report it, partially because of this trope, and 2) since women realize they're outmatched strength-wise, they're more likely to use weapons. They think that it should be changed to basically "don't be abusive, but don't be a punching bag either. if your girlfriend is drunk, angry and coming at you with a baseball bat, don't feel guilty if you give her a hearty shove to get to safety." [https://web.archive.org/web/20110809064724/http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/155944/why_you_should_not_teach_your_son_never.html?cat=25 This article] (from a woman) sums up the argument pretty well.
* The [[Wife-Basher Basher]] trope, when a man/woman goes and beats up some random guy(and it's almost always a guy) for beating up some random girl, and it is seen as a [[Crowning Moment of Awesome]] or some other positive thing, even when they beat up the guy much worse than he may have hurt her(or in some cases, go so far as to kill him). And in most of these cases, the WBB never bother to do proper research/simply call the police/listen to the man's side of the story, and it rarely ever comes back to bite them in the ass(in fiction), because [[All Abusers Are Male]], so the WBB ends up being right anyway. But that still comes back to the whole "[[Disproportionate Retribution]] does not apply to WBBs". Hell one look at just the page image will tell you that.
* Apparently the Spanish law system believes in this trope, because a woman who beats her husband gets ''half'' the jail time of a man who beats his wife.
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