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Female-on-male violence is viewed as more acceptable in fiction than male-on-female violence. Often, a woman using physical violence on a man will be [[Played for Laughs]]; sometimes it will be [[Disproportionate Retribution]]. The key is that in most works where this trope is in effect, it would be completely impossible to imagine the same violent situation play out with the participants' genders reversed without a large dose of drama getting added into the mix. The basic [[Double Standard]] at work in this trope is sexist on both sides: no woman is strong enough to harm a man, so any man weak enough to be harmed by a woman [[No True Scotsman|isn't a real man, and that's funny.]]
Female-on-male violence is viewed as more acceptable in life than male-on-female violence. Often, a woman using physical violence on a man will be [[Played for Laughs]]; sometimes it will be [[Disproportionate Retribution]]. The key is that in most works where this trope is in effect, it would be completely impossible to imagine the same violent situation play out with the participants' genders reversed without a large dose of drama getting added into the mix. The basic [[Double Standard]] at work in this trope is sexist on both sides: no woman is strong enough to harm a man, so any man weak enough to be harmed by a woman [[No True Scotsman|isn't a real man, and that's funny.]]; that way, also, you get [[Amusing Injuries]] instead of broken bones and cuts.


But don't think that people who believe that a woman ''can'' harm a man don't believe in this trope, oh no. For those people, there is the belief that any man who is being abused by a woman [[The Unfair Sex|must have done something to deserve it]], because [[Females Are More Innocent]] and [[Women Are Wiser]], so they would never resort to using violence against another living thing unless absolutely necessary.
Alternatively though, don't think that people who believe that a woman ''can'' harm a man don't believe in this double standard. Oh no, for those people, female-on-male violence is treated the same way as [[Batman Grabs a Gun]], as women are often considered to be [[Men Use Violence, Women Use Communication|inherently nonviolent]] as well as [[Women Are Wiser|morally superior to men]]. Therefore, any time a woman hits a man, [[The Unfair Sex|he must have done something to deserve it]]; because how could a sweet, innocent woman ever be violent towards anyone unless they were seriously provoked?


The trouble is that because of stereotypes and double standards like these, often men don't fight back for reasons including that they are either afraid of hurting the woman, or they are afraid that if they fight back, they will be considered the aggressor by the authorities despite any retaliation being in self-defense <ref>In some areas, the policies assume women are acting in "preemptive" self-defense, meaning male victims can be arrested without actually laying a finger on the woman, even if they were the ones who called the cops on her. This also includes, in some cases, "defending" a child or pet.</ref> And if the woman actually is charged, her sentence will probably be far less severe than the other way around, statistically speaking. Conversely, since stereotypically [[Men Are Tough]], a man may be ashamed to admit [[I Was Beaten by a Girl|he was hurt by a woman]], leading to victims not coming forward at all.
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Note that this trope does ''not'' describe situations where violence is genuinely adequately [[Justified]], nor in situations where universal humorous abuse is delivered to the [[Butt Monkey]] or [[The Chew Toy]] by both men and women for equally flimsy reasons—that is just [[Comedic Sociopathy]]. Obviously, it likewise doesn't apply in situations where female-on-male violence is treated as a serious subject.


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Note that this trope does ''not'' describe situations where violence is genuinely morally justified, such as Wonder Woman attacking Lex Luthor in defense of Metropolis. Nor does it apply in situations where universal humorous abuse is delivered to the [[Butt-Monkey]] or [[The Chew Toy]] by both men and women for equally flimsy reasons – that is just [[Comedic Sociopathy]]. Obviously, it likewise doesn't apply in situations where female-on-male violence is treated as a serious subject. An exception to either case is when one or more of the female characters involved in dealing the violence actively invoke this trope in an attempt to morally justify their own behavior, whether out loud or within the privacy of their mind.
Related to [[All Abusers Are Male]], [[All Women are Doms, All Men are Subs]], and [[Domestic Abuse]]. [[Belligerent Sexual Tension]] often has elements of this trope. Compare/Contrast [[Would Hit a Girl]].


Related to [[All Abusers Are Male]], [[All Women are Doms, All Men are Subs]], [[Domestic Abuse]], [[Double Standard Rape (Female on Male)]], [[Men Are the Expendable Gender]], and [[Stalking Is Funny If It Is Female After Male]]. [[Belligerent Sexual Tension]] often has elements of this trope. Compare/Contrast [[Would Hit a Girl]]. A very similar anime/manga trope that does not always include abuse, but typically often will involve a woman violently beating a man and is played for comedy is [[Tsundere]]. The female half of this trope is very often a [[Jerk Sue]].
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* The [[Wife-Basher Basher]] trope, when a man/woman goes and beats up some random guy(and it's almost always a guy) for beating up some random girl, and it is seen as a [[Crowning Moment of Awesome]] or some other positive thing, even when they beat up the guy much worse than he may have hurt her(or in some cases, go so far as to kill him). And in most of these cases, the WBB never bother to do proper research/simply call the police/listen to the man's side of the story, and it rarely ever comes back to bite them in the ass(in fiction), because [[All Abusers Are Male]], so the WBB ends up being right anyway. But that still comes back to the whole "[[Disproportionate Retribution]] does not apply to WBBs". Hell one look at just the page image will tell you that.
* The [[Wife-Basher Basher]] trope, when a man/woman goes and beats up some random guy(and it's almost always a guy) for beating up some random girl, and it is seen as a [[Crowning Moment of Awesome]] or some other positive thing, even when they beat up the guy much worse than he may have hurt her(or in some cases, go so far as to kill him). And in most of these cases, the WBB never bother to do proper research/simply call the police/listen to the man's side of the story, and it rarely ever comes back to bite them in the ass(in fiction), because [[All Abusers Are Male]], so the WBB ends up being right anyway. But that still comes back to the whole "[[Disproportionate Retribution]] does not apply to WBBs". Hell one look at just the page image will tell you that.
* Apparently the Spanish law system believes in this trope, because a woman who beats her husband gets ''half'' the jail time of a man who beats his wife.
* Apparently the Spanish law system believes in this trope, because a woman who beats her husband gets ''half'' the jail time of a man who beats his wife.


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And just in case anyone needs it... [http://www.batteredmen.com here's some help.]


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