Double Standard Rape (Female on Male): Difference between revisions

[[Rape Is a Special Kind of Evil]], beyond [[Kick the Dog|kicking the dog]] or any of the other [[Moral Event Horizon|acts of villainy]] in media. But there seems to be one exception: when the victim is a man and the attacker is a woman. [[All Men Are Perverts|Men are stereotyped as]] [[A Man Is Always Eager|constantly wanting sex]] and of being stronger in general than women. Therefore, the idea that the man could have either not consented to sex with a woman or been incapable of fighting off a female aggressor if he did refuse sex is simply not taken seriously. Another commonly-held notion that the idea of female-on-male rape challenges is the false idea that [["It's Not Rape If You Enjoyed It"|since men have erections, they enjoy the sex, and hence is not rape or not as traumatic as any other kind of rape]].

 

 

For a trope that suffers a similar attitude, see [[Hot for Student]]. Some forms of [[Gender Rarity Value]] could be considered a sub-trope. Often involves the [[Bed Trick]], [[Love Potion]] or other fantastical means of sex.

* In ''[[The Wheel of Time]]'' books, Mat encounters the widowed Queen of Ebou Dar, a nation in which men are second-class citizens. Mat is repeatedly raped by the Queen, frequently tied down at knife-point and forced to be her sexual servant against his will. This is all treated as [[Black Comedy Rape|comedy]] because Mat is normally a consumate flirt. The fact that he is sexually victimized is treated as [[Disproportionate Retribution|his come-uppance]] for his previous behavior. When finally freed of the Queen's subjugation, he reflects that he will miss her. If the sexes were reversed, this would be seen as a creepy example of [[Stockholm Syndrome]], but due to the prevailing theme of [[Hot Amazon|dominant, aggressive women]] in the series, it's more likely a case of [[Author Appeal]].

* In the book ''Conrad's Time Machine'', the main character is raped by three women; he says he doesn't think they should be prosecuted like male rapists should, and in fact we later discover this was part of his bachelor party that his best friend set up for him.

* In an episode of ''[[You Rang, M'Lord?|You Rang M Lord]]'' Teddy hits on a plan to get out of marrying a woman he doesn't love: when she's spending the night at his house he'll creep into her bedroom and then do nothing. She'll assume he's impotent and call the wedding off. He doesn't count on how enthusiastically she'll react to finding him getting into bed with her, and although the character is quite unhappy about what's happened, it's played for laughs.

* In the ''[[Red Dwarf]]'' novel ''Last Human'', Lister is forced to marry a hideously ugly Gelf (Genetically Engineered Life Form). The situation is played mostly for laughs, but his emotions during the sex are touched on in a curiously realistic way:

* A similar scenario occurs in the TV series Episode "Polymorph II", though in this case Lister manages to escape before his "wife" can get his clothes off.

* In the ''[[Harry Potter (novel)|Harry Potter]]'' books there are several mentions of love potions. All of them have a girl slipping a boy the potion, and in most cases it's played for laughs. Note that love potions make the drinker temporarily obsessed with whoever gave them the potion, so they can be compared to date rape drugs. Fred and George's shop have an entire display of them with a special owl order service that disguises them as cough potions to get them past the Aurors screening all the mail coming into Hogwarts.

** And then deconstructed when Dumbledore says {{spoiler|Merope Gaunt's use of love potions to elope with Tom Riddle was no different than using the Imperius Curse (an illegal mind-control spell) since Merope kept Tom Riddle drugged for ''months'', forcing him to leave his family and live with her against his will, which is a bit worse than snogging someone who wouldn't have snogged you under normal circumstances}}. It's possible the [[Double Standard]] is supposed to be in-universe, and the Merope thing is to highlight what the reader thought was harmless. And {{spoiler|Voldemort}} actually ''admires'' his mother for {{spoiler|drugging and raping his father and detesting him for naturally getting the fuck out when the potion she used wore off}}. This is mentioned by Dumbledore as another sign of his utter insanity.

* Played straight in Ken Follett's "World Without End". Merthin is raped by Griselda, the daughter of the man of whom he is an apprentice. It turns out {{spoiler|it was all a plot by Elfric so he would not have to give Merthin a free set of tools and a full guild membership, however.}}

* In ''A Working of Stars'' by Debra Doyle and D. James Macdonald, a {{spoiler|spy, Iulan Vai}} takes advantage of a convalescing Arekhon's semi-consciousness to have sex with him even though his semi-conscious state means he cannot truly consent. Arekhon believes she is his lover, Elaeli. Even more creepy—this act becomes the start of a relationship.

* In the [[Riftwar]] series, while on the Dasati homeworld, {{spoiler|rebel leader Naureen, who's sheltering hero Pug and co, conscripts Pug's son Magnus as her boy toy. Magnus clearly isn't okay with this, but neither Pug nor Magnus really objects, and the whole thing is treated as not a big deal.}} The incident isn't mentioned again.

 

== Live-Action TV ==

* In an early episode of ''[[Star Trek: Deep Space Nine]]'', Odo comes to Sisko, openly distraught, and asks him to stop Lwaxana Troi from sexually harrassing him—her status as an ambassador means he feels he can't say anything himself for fear of insulting her. Sisko finds the whole thing hilarious and suggests that it would do Odo good to take her up on the offer. ''In the same episode'' Sisko tells Dr Bashir about an incident a few years before when he punched a male ambassador in the face for making advances to a female member of his crew.

* In an episode of ''[[Harry's Law]]'' one of Tommy's clients claimed he was raped by a woman. One of the other lawyers believed since he organized it wasn't rape, and Tommy even suggested to drop the case. The man keeps Tommy going by asking if he would be saying the same thing if he was a woman rapped by a man.

* An episode of ''[[Flight of the Conchords]]'' has Bret dating a woman who becomes increasingy pushy and aggressive in demanding sex from him, finally outright lying to and manipulating him to get him to capitulate. It's a little shaky on how it's portrayed; Bret is clearly traumaised afterwards and the woman is shown to be deeply unpleasant, but some of Bret's comments about the experience (such as how it only lasted a few minutes and she fell asleep right after) and Jermaine pretending to be him to another woman hoping for the same appear to be playing it partially for laughs.

* Adam and Yvonne in ''[[Being Human]]''. Although Adam is actually a 47 year old vampire so no statutory rape actually occurred, Yvonne, a middle aged woman, entered into a sexual relationship with him believing he was a 14 year old. Yet she is portrayed sympathetically and their relationship as ultimately a good thing.

* Horribly, '''horribly''' [[Averted]] in the ending of [[First Encounter Assault Recon|F.E.A.R 2: Project Origin]].

* While never getting to the level of rape, certainly, in ''[[Final Fantasy VII Remake]]'' Jessie very overtly and very heavily pursues Cloud. Cloud is clearly uncomfortable with this, being fairly awkward socially and not sure of his relationship with Tifa at the time, and repeatedly tries to avoid her and indicate his discomfort with her only for her to do things like contrive to get him to drive her to the upper plate on a motorcycle so she can snuggle up against his back the entire time. Josue Pereira of ''[[Nerf Now]]'' pointed out that the only reason this is likely considered both acceptable and funny is because Jessie is a '''cute''' girl... even changing her to be unattractive would completely alter the entire dynamic of her refusing to give Cloud any space, let alone if it was Jessop going full court press on Claudia Strife.

 

== Visual Novels ==

:* And yet again in "Peter-assment", where Peter is being sexually harassed by his female boss and Lois utterly refuses to give him any sympathy, insisting that a man ''can't'' be sexually harassed because they like sexual behavior. He also catches flak from his friends (Quagmire saying that he can't not sleep with his boss or else he's gay) and the patrons at the local bar. Later on the boss admits that she's harassing Peter because she hasn't had sex in a long time, and the audience is expected to see this as acceptable and the boss as sympathetic. It also did not help that Peter's boss threatened to kill herself because she fears being alone any longer and feels having sex will make her life have some meaning again.

* In ''[[The Simpsons (animation)|The Simpsons]]'' episode, "The Strong Arms of the Ma". After bulking up, Marge rapes Homer (who is clearly scared and doesn't want to) violently enough that it hurts to walk the next morning. It's played for laughs, with Marge never apologizing or repenting, and getting away with it.

* Parodied in ''[[Metalocalypse]]'' when a group of female villains want to harvest lead-singer Nathan Explosion's "seed" in order to father a race of super-babies and kill him afterword. He is saved by Toki, but later laments in a way that invokes this trope

{{quote|'''Nathan:''' Such a shame, she was so hot. But so f[[Sound Effect Bleep|*RIFF*]]kin' crazy.

** Possibly Averted as K normally leaves J in potentially dangerous situations, if he knows he can handle it.

* ''[[Futurama]]'' subverts this, with Death By Snu-Snu. The Zap and Fry know what is going to happen, and try to hide their glee because this is essentially a death sentence and they have no choice in the matter, but can't help but look forward to it. Still, the whole concept is high on [[Black Comedy Rape]].

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