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{{quote|''"[The perfect wife] was intensely sympathetic. She was immensely charming. She was utterly unselfish. She excelled in the difficult arts of family life. She sacrificed daily. [...] Above all, she was pure."''
|'''[[Virginia Woolf]]'''}}
What is a '''Proper Lady'''? Also known as a "real lady", a "true lady", simply a "lady", or an "[[angel in the house]]" in Victorian-era works, she's the perfect lady in the Western (and especially Victorian British) mindset, and in that related to [[Yamato Nadeshiko]], who is the perfect lady in the Japanese mindset. The two ideals share many, many qualities. A Proper Lady is like a mythical creature or an unattainable ideal, often referred to, but rarely seen. Actual Proper Lady characters are largely a [[Forgotten Trope]] by now, and modern ones are likely to be accused of being [[Purity Sue
A Proper Lady is a gentle yet strong being, [[Incorruptible Pure Pureness|incorruptible]] and [[Chaste Hero|pure like the driven snow]] and Madonna-like in her virtues. She sacrifices herself for the better of her family, religion, and country. She is intelligent enough to [[Apron Matron|smoothly run a household]], and [[The Consigliere|wisely spends her husband's money]] for the better of her family, never guilty of negligence or selfish frivolity. She possesses the wit, taste and esprit necessary to be [[Socialite|a star of Society]], and never crosses the border of good taste and civility. She is devoted and loyal, never treacherous or scheming. Her manners are never less than impeccable, and her good will and charity are a beacon to those lucky enough to live around her. She is perfectly groomed, likely [[Beauty Equals Goodness|beautiful]] or at least comely (while the female antagonist will be [[Beauty Is Bad|more beautiful]] and [[Evil Is Sexy|appealing]]). However, [[True Beauty Is
A Proper Lady might [[
She is ''always'' [[Blue Blood|upper class]] and nearly always [[Housewife|married, often a mother]]. She might also be a ''[
There is no upper age limit to being a Proper Lady. Widowed ladies might easily be double-qualify as [[Determined Widow
'''Related character tropes:'''
* [[English Rose]] - another typically British character with similar properties; popular standard for a
* [[Graceful Ladies Like Purple]] - A color showing she's feminine.
* [[Grande Dame]] - a rare subtype is a mature Proper Lady
* [[The Ingenue]] - a potential future Proper Lady
* [[Lady of Adventure]]:
* [[Lady of War]]:
* [[Princess Classic]] - princess counterpart
* [[Silk Hiding Steel]] - A
* [[Southern Belle]] - Southern USA counterpart (see ''bonne belle'')
* [[Spirited Young Lady]] - a little more witty; a little less prim
* [[The High Queen]] - a regent variety
* [[The Woman Wearing the Queenly Mask]] -
* [[Yamato Nadeshiko]] - the Japanese version of the perfect lady
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* [[Too Good for This Sinful Earth]] - if and when she dies, this is probably invoked
{{examples
▲== Anime and manga ==
* Emma in ''[[Victorian Romance Emma]]'' starts as a poor peasant girl, becomes a flower girl, a maid, and ends up becoming a gentleman's sweetheart. While her background technically prevents her from becoming a true lady in the society's eyes, her angel-like disposition, good education, eventual marriage (although with [[Nouveau Riche]]) and careful grooming should make her one in all but name.
** William's mother Aurelia is a weird case. She has the status and loveable nature of a
* Elizabeth Middleford wants to be this for [[Kissing Cousins|her cousin and fiance]] Ciel in [[Black Butler]]. In fact, Lizzie wants to be this so much for Ciel that in the manga {{spoiler|she hides her [[Little Miss Badass]] side from him, [[No Guy Wants an Amazon|fearing he'd think she was "uncute"]].}}
* Marianne Hamilton, Emma Queensbury, and {{spoiler|Emma's dead older sister aka Francis and Keith's deceased mother}} from [[Ashita no Nadja]].
* [[Axis Powers Hetalia]] has [[Token
* Ed and Al Elric's [[Hot Mom|Hot]] [[Missing Mom]] Trisha from ''[[Fullmetal Alchemist]]''. In all the flashbacks she is sweet and loving to her kids and willing to wait forever for her husband.
** Also, Hughes's wife Gracia and the Armstrongs's little sister Katharine.
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** Edo-Cana is even more feminine than Mirajane.
* [[Gankutsuou]] has Valentine de Vilefort
* [[
* A few girls in ''[[Revolutionary Girl Utena]]'' are this. The series plays around with this trope a lot. Also, Utena's not one, but once tries to act like one after Touga defeats her and she temporarily loses Anthy.
== [[
* Female protagonists tend to follow the ladylike ideals if they are peasant girls. Princesses might need to go through a [[Fallen Princess|humbling procedure]] before they can be [[Princess Classic]].▼
* The lady addressed/discussed in Coventry Patmore's 1854 poem ''The Angel in the House''. This work [[Trope Namer|named the ideal]] for the Victorian era.
* Melanie Wilkes in ''[[Gone
** Scarlett's mother was also an example.
* Hortense in ''[[
* Esther Summerson, from [[
** Esther is also a partial deconstruction of the trope, as her extreme humility seems to be in part the result of an upbringing that would be considered emotionally abusive by most modern standards.
** She could also [[Alternative Character Interpretation|be interpreted as]] just [[Exploited Trope|pretending to be one as a cover]] for her own management skills: she takes control over situations or exerts authority over people while presenting herself as modest, unassuming, etc.
* Amy Dorrit, from another Dickens novel, ''[[Little Dorrit]]'', seems to be a reconstruction, since her father is a former gentleman in debtor's prison who insists on his children's "gentility," while mooching and sponging off all and sundry. Despite her father's twisting of the ideal, Amy upholds true nobility of soul, and ends the novel a figure of quiet purity and strength.
* Katy in the ''[[What Katy Did]]'' novels by Susan Coolidge is a [[Tomboy]] who learns to be a
** The one who taught her to be this is her cousin Helen; she mixes this, [[Cool Big Sis]]... and [[Ill Girl]].
* Agnes from ''[[David Copperfield (novel)|David Copperfield]]'' is beautiful and good enough to get [[Purity Sue]] accusations.
* Fanny Price subverts this in [[Jane Austen]]'s ''[[Mansfield Park]]''. She is extremely gentle, passive and the doormat of pretty much everybody around her until they try to force her into marrying the man she doesn't love. Her firmness on this point makes her not quite a true lady, as her uncle spells out:
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* Also in the Austenverse, ''[[Pride and Prejudice]]'''s Jane Bennet. She stubbornly believes the best of everyone, everyone loves her for her sweetness, and she's the only one with enough patience to put up with her perpetually querulous mother. But, like Fanny, in addition to being beautiful and kind, she's also intelligent, rational, and sensible.
* Elizabeth "Beth" March evolves from a [[Fragile Flower]] into this in the second part of ''[[Little Women]]'' {{spoiler|before dying.}} May have taken it after her mother, Margaret aka Marmee, who is this too after having been more [[Hot
** Don't forget Margaret aka Meg, Beth's eldest sister who plays [[Team Mom]] ''and''
*** In ''Little Men'', Meg's daughter Margaret "Daisy" Brooke fits as well.
* Subverted with Maud Lilly from ''[[Fingersmith]]'', who is ''supposed'' to be this but hides a dark secret.
* Sophie in the [[Aubrey
* Mrs. Ramsay from Virginia Woolf's novel ''To the Lighthouse''.
* Lady Catelyn "Cat" Tully-Stark from ''[[A Song of Ice and Fire]]''. The Tully motto is "Family, Duty, Honor," and those are the words Cat lives by. {{spoiler|Boy, does that bite her and her family in the ass later.}}
** Cersei Lannister is a rare ''evil'' example (who resents and rebels against the 'feminine' parts of the job), and Sansa, Cat's daughter, seems to be one in training.
* Maria Clara de los Santos, the female lead and [[Love Interest]] in [[
* ''[[In Death]]'': Played with. Dr. Mira seems to give this off like pheremones. However, it was revealed early on that she had been raped by her stepfather, and she turns out to have flaws. Clarissa Price is a social worker in the story ''Purity In Death'', who is lady-like and beautiful, which seems odd, considering that she works in a job that usually puts lines on someone's face. However, it turns out that she has failed to dot her i's and cross her t's, as well as being a party to murder, but she certainly suffered a [[Villainous Breakdown]] when Eve showed pictures of a teenaged girl who was essentially murdered by the terrorists Price was working for. Avril from ''Origin In Death'' starts off like this. However, she ends up murdering her own husband and helps in murdering people connected to him. Why? Because she is a clone created by her husband and his father, and while she would have lived with that, she found out that her husband had broken his promise to not clone their children (he was treating them as things to be replaced rather than human beings), and so she decided to go [[Mama Bear]] on him and his little science project.
* [[Hopscotch]] Gekrepten, Oliveira's wife/girlfriend/whatever back in Argentina. She immediately accepts him afeter running away to Paris and never complains the fact that he stays all day at her place, never working. Heck, she even takes care of him after the trap incident. Subverted in that, no matter what she does, Horacio will never respect, care or love her because she isn't as intelligent/interesting as La Maga or Talita.
* Esme Cullen from ''[[Twilight (
* Lady Marjorie in ''[[Upstairs, Downstairs]]'' is adored by her husband and servants, and a
▲== Live Action TV ==
*** Hazel Bellamy is a steel core lady, very refined and composed, although not of genteel pedigree. A rare example of a
▲* Lady Marjorie in ''[[Upstairs Downstairs]]'' is adored by her husband and servants, and a [[Proper Lady]] through and through. Her saintlikeness is tarnished only by a short affair she was quick to regret. Also gets a tragic death. Of course, after she dies, everything starts to slowly fall to pieces.
* Delenn in [[Babylon
▲*** Hazel Bellamy is a steel core lady, very refined and composed, although not of genteel pedigree. A rare example of a [[Proper Lady]] who has ever actually done working class work.
▲* Delenn in [[Babylon Five]] might be a partial example of this. Except she is used to command and not inclined to [[Stay in The Kitchen]].
** She is of course Proper according to the Minbari ideal not the Victorian ideal.
* Little Remedios and Santa Sofia de la Piedad from ''[[One Hundred Years of Solitude]]''. Little Remedios mixes this and [[Genki Girl]].
** The matriarch of the family, Ursula Iguaran. subverts it. She is very devoted to her family, but also extremely stubborn and more than capable of standing up to her husband/children/descendants, even if she has to hit them (as she did to Arcadio) or mouth them off roughly (to both Jose Arcadio Buendia or Colonel Aureliano).
== [[Music]] ==
* Tom Jones' ''[http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oIfxBthfFkg She's a Lady]'' seems to describe this sort of woman.
== [[Oral Tradition]], [[Folklore]], Myths and Legends ==
▲* Female protagonists tend to follow the ladylike ideals if they are peasant girls. Princesses might need to go through a [[Fallen Princess|humbling procedure]] before they can be [[Princess Classic]].
* The [[Ancient Greece|Ancient Greek]] concept of ''arete'' (virtue/excellence) as applied to women matches all the values of the
** The [
** Also Queen [[
* ''[[The Bible]]'': the Virgin Mary is presented as the epitome of this trope, she being the perfect mother figure (indeed, the mother of [[Jesus Christ|Jesus]] Himself and [[Team Mom|spiritual mother]] to all His followers) and all. She's presented as [[Beauty Equals Goodness|beautiful and graceful]], humble, chaste, wise, and altruistic. She is held up as the perfect woman, and many Christian girls (especially Catholic ones) are encouraged to be more like her.▼
** Many female Catholic saints also qualify, although many others do subvert. Notably, along with Virgin Mary, they actually were an important part in forming this ideal.▼
==
* ''[[Pygmalion]]'' and the later version ''[[My Fair Lady]]'' are about attempting to groom a poor girl into a lady. It works rather
* Tzeitel from [[Fiddler
== [[Video Games]] ==
* [[Final Fantasy IX]] gives us Princess Garnet Til Alexandros, AKA Dagger, whose a demure little princess when she's not being a not a [[Rebellious Princess|rebellious one]].
* Schala in ''[[
* Some of the [[Multiple Endings]] in the ''[[Princess Maker]]'' franchise invoke this, if your daughter's skills fall on the domestic side (high conversation, temperance, cooking and cleaning). Specially obvious in the "
** The Queen of the land in PM 2 is an older version of the trope. In fact, to meet her you must have ''very'' high temperance, which is obtained only through housework.
** Also Marthia, who crosses it with [[Shrinking Violet]].
== [[Web Comics]] ==
* In ''[[No Rest for The Wicked (
== [[Western Animation]] ==
* Victoria from ''[[
* Sally from ''[[The Nightmare Before Christmas]]'' fits this trope pretty well. She has the modest, feminine personality and attire, and is domestic and sensible. It's kind of subverted by how she's a leaf-filled [[Robot Girl|patchwork doll]] with stitches all over her body and puts deadly nightshade in her creator's food and drink to get out of the house.
== [[Real Life]] ==
* [[
▲* The Virgin Mary is presented as the epitome of this trope, she being the perfect mother figure (indeed, the mother of Jesus Himself and [[Team Mom|spiritual mother]] to all His followers) and all. She's presented as [[Beauty Equals Goodness|beautiful and graceful]], humble, chaste, wise, and altruistic. She is held up as the perfect woman, and many Christian girls (especially Catholic ones) are encouraged to be more like her.
* An agency in London gave lessons on how to be a Proper Lady called the "Princess Prep" workshop.{{context}}▼
▲** Many female Catholic saints also qualify, although many others do subvert. Notably, along with Virgin Mary, they actually were an important part in forming this ideal.
▲* [[http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Princess_Elisabeth_of_Hesse_and_by_Rhine_<!-- 281864E2%80%931918%29 Princess Elisabeth of Hesse and by Rhine]], the beautiful and pious sister-in-law to Czar Nicholas II. When her husband Sergei was brutally assassinated, she didn't hold a grudge to his killers and pardoned them publicly before becoming a nun and selling all of her jewellery to use the money on charity. But after the Russian Revolution... [[FamilyUnfriendlyDeath her tale]] [[BuriedAlive didn't end well.]] -->
▲* An agency in London gave lessons on how to be a Proper Lady called the "Princess Prep" workshop.
{{reflist}}
[[Category:Always Female]]▼
[[Category:Femininity Tropes]]
[[Category:An Index of Ladies and Gentlemen]]▼
[[Category:Love Interests]]▼
[[Category:Older Than Feudalism]]▼
[[Category:Purity Personified]]
[[Category:Steampunk Index]]
[[Category:Women Are Delicate]]
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▲[[Category:TV Tropes Superhero Team]]
▲[[Category:Always Female]]
▲[[Category:An Index of Ladies and Gentlemen]]
▲[[Category:Steampunk Index]]
▲[[Category:Older Than Feudalism]]
▲[[Category:Proper Lady]]
▲[[Category:Trope]]
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