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== [[Anime]] and [[Manga]] ==
* In ''[[Ranma ½]]'', [[Arranged Marriage|Akane]], [[Accidental Marriage|Shampoo]], [[Childhood Marriage Promise|Ukyo]] and even [[Stalker with a Crush|Kodachi]] are ''incredibly quick'' to administer violent "justice" upon Ranma whenever ''they'' think he's interested in another girl. But past the manga's turning point, when Ranma sincerely believed that Akane loved the newcomer Shinnosuke, he took his grievances with ''the new guy'' and was incredibly polite and submissive towards Akane, only screaming his frustration when he was alone in the forest. And even when Ranma outright asked her "Why?" [[Cannot Spit It Out|Akane never bothered explaining]] [[I Owe You My Life|that she was]] [[Chronic Hero Syndrome|helping]] [[Incurable Cough of Death|Shinnosuke]]; meanwhile, no one ever lets ''Ranma'' [[I Can Explain|explain]] [[Not What It Looks Like|his unfortunate]] [[Accidental Pervert|accidents]], let alone ''ask'' him.
** There's even a [[Lampshading]] of this very early in the series: Akane walks in on Ranma while he's getting out of the bath, and both are naked, although Akane at least has a towel. Akane gets pissed at him, and when he points out the blatant unfairness of this, she responds with "It's different for girls!" Also note in both similar scenes, He looks her in the eyes, she looks him up and down.
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* One of the early issues of ''[[Ninja High School]]'' features Sammi, a Chinese food delivery female forced to dress like a male due to the stupidity of her father making a bet with his friends to have a son (its a long story). In the story she runs afoul of the local cheerleaders who are very feminist and one of the girls takes a liking to Sammi (again due to looking like a boy). Sammi tries to let the girl down gently that she isn't interested. But this only offends her friends since they think Sammi figures she not good enough, to the point they nearly kill Sammi over it. Said girl isn't a saint either, practically trying to ''force'' Sammi to be her boyfriend. At the end, when Sammi finally reveals her secret to the girl, said girl gets angry (for her VERY psychotic mistake) and hits Sammi with a mallet for the embarrassment. Granted its played for laughs but really some people can't take a hint.
== [[Film]] ==
* Happens in ''dozens'' of [[Lifetime Movie of the Week|Lifetime Movies]]. The man cheats? His fault! The woman cheats? His fault ''too''!
* ''Before the Rains'' has the man taking advantage of the woman, who is trapped by her society.
* In the Meryl Streep movie ''[[It's Complicated]]'', the main character divorced her sleazy husband when he cheated on her. But when the main character has an affair with her (now married) ex-husband, it's treated like one wild fun sign of her living life. Her friends cheer and laugh when they find out. She does spend a good portion of the movie agonizing over the fact that she can't seem to stop, its when both her friends and her
* Somewhat subverted in ''[[American Beauty]]'', as although the protagonist, the dad, does get 'punished' in the end, it's {{spoiler|not at all related to his breaking away from his materialistic diseased harpy and hateful daughter and subsequent adultery, but a bizarre misunderstanding.}} Although we're lead to think that at first. It then goes even further, as {{spoiler|he didn't actually end up committing adultery, but his wife did,}} yet her... shall we say ambitions, seem to be presented as justified. In fact, while everyone else is busy manipulating their loved ones, the worst thing {{spoiler|Lester does is blackmail his hated boss.}}
* In the
* Averted in ''It Could Happen to You'', the husband has an affair after his already materialistic wife grows distant from him after they both win the lottery, and he is considered to be sympathetic, since their relationship had already been on the rocks.
* Averted in ''[[Along Came Polly]]'' where the wife is considered shallow for doing the hunky nudist scuba instructor on their honeymoon, and the husband is portrayed sympathetically and {{spoiler|refuses to take her back.}}
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* A bit downplayed in ''[[American Dreamer]]''. Cathy, while under [[Easy Amnesia]], does sleep with another guy, but her husband isn't a cad, just a controlling jerk.
== [[Literature]] ==
* Intentionally [[Invoked Trope|invoked]] in ''[[The Belgariad]]'', as the main characters engage in a [[Running Gag|long running exchange]] of witty banter over the "fairness" of which gender gets to do which things, complete with an informal scoring system for particularly telling jibes.▼
* In one of the ''Warhammer'' books about Malus Darkblade (Bloodstorm, to be precise), Malus mentioned in passing that a druchii woman could have as many lovers as she wished, while a male druchii was expected to be faithful. This example is especially notable due to the context - Malus's half-sister had discovered that her lover, Bruglir, was cheating on her. She got so angry that she literally became a living saint of the god of murder himself - and the first two times she appears, she was in the middle of her harem and having an orgy, respectively. Psychologically justified in that the overlord of the Druchii is the Witch King Malekith, who has a major Oedipus complex with his mother Morathi, who used to head up the largest Slaaneshi cult in the elf world. Malekith was born, and reached prominence, by his mother screwing the king of the elves. In short the entire kingdom of Nagaroth is built on the back of matriarchy, or rather the matriarch's penchant for being on her back. Other instances include only females are aloud to use magic, baby boys are rounded up for mass sacrifice one night a year, with the few survivors becoming assassins who are by game mechanic unable to lead their female counterparts. Strange how the evil elf races are always this trope in spades.▼
* Subverted in ''Last Night at Chateau Marmont'' by [[The Devil Wears Prada|Lauren Weisberger]]: throughout the novel, as Brooke and Julian's marriage falls apart, Brooke seems to constantly put the blame on how much Julian's career takes him away from home and otherwise causes him to neglect her. All while she insists on putting her career first by continuing to work sixty hours a week at two jobs, income from which they don't need anymore now that Julian's first album has gone platinum within its first week out. The subversion comes from the fact that she admits as much at the end {{spoiler|when they reconcile}}, acknowledging that she's guilty of the same thing.▼
* In one of ''[[The Princess Diaries]]'' books, Mia's friend Tina is dumped by text message by her boyfriend after she fails to return his calls, leading to her friends calling him a sexist pig. Granted, he broke up with her in an obnoxious way, but nobody calls her out for being rude enough to ignore his phone calls.▼
** She is indirectly called out to this, as Mia's mother says during a conversation that it is just plain rude to not return somebody's calls.▼
* The [[Anita Blake]] series practically runs on this trope after Narcissus in Chains. The main character has about 8 official lovers and sleeps with many other man during the course of each book, yet, except, Richard who's treated as the resident Jerkass, none of her main lovers are allowed to even look at another person, and she has dumped some lovers for being unfaithful. The author tries to justify with Magical Addiction to sex.▼
* Some people say that ''[[Their Eyes Were Watching God]]'' has this trope written all over it. [[Your Mileage May Vary|Your Mileage May REALLY Vary]], however, because while Janie ''did'' leave her first husband with another man and then condemned her second husband while he was on his deathbed, the narrative makes it clear that she was an extremely naive, too-romantic-for-her-own-good girl whose hasty decision to run off with Joe Starks was probably '''not''' the best of decisions considering that Joe Starks turns out to be an [[Crazy Jealous Guy|insanely possessive]] [[Jerkass]] who tried to [[Stay in the Kitchen|emotionally control her as a submissive housewife]], which also most likely indicates that her [["The Reason You Suck" Speech]] to him wasn't ''entirely'' unjustified. Plus, she never acted "bitchy" toward Tea Cake who mostly treated her like an equal (not even when she thought that he had left her or when he slapped her after she was set up on a date with another man), and the very fact that Tea Cake was shown to be a fairly decent and sweet husband ''should'' be a good indication that this book wasn't aimed at painting the entire male gender as abusive jerks. Any [[Unfortunate Implications]] here probably fall under [[Men Are the Expendable Gender]] or [[Her Heart Will Go On]] better than this one.▼
* In the ''[[House of Night]]'' series, Zoey initially was slightly hesitant about having a relationship with Erik because he had previously dated Aphrodite. This is after (A) she walked in on Aphrodite all but ''raping'' Erik (trying to force a blowjob on him while he repeatedly asked her to stop) and (B) it was made pretty obvious that Aphrodite and her friends made use of Erik and other boys in such a way. Zoey does hook up with Erik...and dives into a relationship with a teacher at the school, while rekindling a relationship with her human boyfriend. {{spoiler|At the end of the third book, we're apparently supposed to think Erik's such a mean guy for not being so kind and understanding that Zoey had sex with said teacher and just had "We share a bond" as an excuse.}}▼
* Averted in [[Harry Potter]] [[Harry Potter and The Half Blood Prince|and the Half-Blood Prince]]. After Ron found out that Hermione might have kissed a guy who asked her out two years prior while she was single AND getting told that [[My Sister Is Off-Limits|his overbearing watchdog tendencies about his sister]] where due to his own inexperience with girls, he gets into an extremely shallow relationship with basically the first girl to give him the time of day, largely out of spite. He is portrayed as insensitive and, giving how publicly he flaunts the relationship, pretty hypocritical, and quickly gets his own comeuppance by means of [[Clingy Jealous Girl|his “girlfriend” being utterly insufferable]]. Hermione [[Operation: Jealousy|attempts to retaliate]] by asking out the [[Jerk Jock]] who had been eyeing for most of the book… only for the plan to implode immediately since she genuinely can’t stand the guy. Harry, and by extension the narrator, are quick to point out that they’re both idiots, though he’s slightly more overtly critical of Hermione, possibly owing to the fact that Ron was being an impulsive idiot who didn’t think things through, whereas Hermione was being consciously and deliberately petty.▼
{{quote|'''Narrator''': "Harry was left to ponder in silence the depths to which girls would sink to get revenge."}}▼
** And note that this was written by a woman.▼
** Ironically, despite the book's point, a good deal of the fanbase blamed the whole shebang entirely on either Ron or Hermione. Usually Ron.▼
* Played with all the time in most [[Danielle Steel]]'s novels. It is played straight whenever there is a [[May–December Romance]]. A villain (usually male, of course), is said to look ridiculous dating/marrying a younger woman, and the woman in question is always made out to be a gold-digging, airheaded tramp. Meanwhile, her heroines, can easily date or marry someone up to ''40'' years older with no one batting an eye. (In all fairness, her male protagonists are often granted this privilege too). But this trope is usually averted in the case of adultery. Usually no matter what, a protagonist and his/her True Love's adulterous relationships will be portrayed as good, while their cuckolded spouses will be portrayed as horrible excuses for human beings.▼
* ''[[Robert A. Heinlein|The Notebooks of Lazarus Long]]:'' From his "ingredients for a happy marriage":▼
{{quote|In a family argument, if it turns out you are right--apologize at once! }}▼
* Justified in ''Guilty Wives''. The four eponymous wives do all cheat on their husbands, but it's hard to really hold it against them. Abbie, the protagonist, did cheat on her husband Jeffrey, but he had been cheating on her for quite some time before the action of the novel began, and she knew it. Bryah's husband Colton had been abusing her. Serena and Winnie, it's true, did not have such good excuses. Even so, the revenge that their husbands take is so out of proportion that you can't really hate the four women.▼
=== Magazines ===▼
* ''Cosmopolitan'' magazine and others like it ''run'' on this trope. Some examples:▼
** [http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/relationship-advice/how-to-tell-if-a-guy-is-cheating This] article offers some signs that the reader should note to tell whether their partner is cheating. They range from more-or-less reasonable to being rather paranoid, but all could have potentially innocuous explanations outside of infidelity. Take note, however, that number five on this particular list is "[[Hypocritical Humor|he becomes suspicious of you]]". While it is [[Truth in Television]] that one of the signs of being in an abusive or unhealthy relationship is irrational jealousy, the author apparently doesn't notice the [[Double Standard]] of suggesting that a man being suspicious of his partner's fidelity is itself suspicious in a list which is practically encouraging women to suspiciously micro-observe their male partner's behaviour.▼
*** Number 4. Wow, just wow. He is now happy because he is getting sex and attention. If you are ignoring your partner to the point where (s)he is depressed then I think you may be a touch to blame.▼
** [http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/relationship-advice/get-revenge-on-cheaters This article] offers some suggestions for punishing a man whom the reader suspects has been unfaithful (and note that the article is called "10 Things to Do if You ''Think'' Your Man Is Cheating", and ''none'' of the suggestions is "make absolutely sure first"). They include stealing his property, painful 'practical jokes' (including poisoning him with laxatives), public humiliation and, in the case of number ten, a good old fashioned [[Groin Attack]]. The lesson being, adultery bad (when the man does it), but assault, abuse and theft a-ok (when the woman does it). The article also begins with a leader about a prominent male celebrity who has recently been in the news for adultery, which says something along the lines of "we don't know the full story, but one thing's for sure; his wife's a frigging angel". However, the identity of the celebrity changes depending on which matter of celebrity adultery is most timely; at one point it was Tiger Woods, another Arnold Schwarzenegger, and so forth. Not only is the automatic assumption that, the man's adultery aside, the woman is an innocent at no fault in the relationship, but in only changing the the celebrity and wife in question the further assumption is made that ''every'' relationship is the same and the man is ''always'' at fault.▼
** A really interesting element of it is the contradictions involved. One article said that ''both'' being more affectionate ''and'' less affectionate (more because he's guilty, less because he's "busy") are signs he's cheating (both of which had the aforementioned abuse and assault as his "punishment.") I would be willing to guess that if all of those "Signs he's cheating" lists were combined, there would literally be nothing a man can do that isn't a sign of infidelity.▼
** And, of course, [http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/relationship-advice/revenge-ideas-ex-boyfriend-1108 it's fine] for a women to sleep with her ex-boyfriend's best friend, just to screw with said ex.<ref>This carries an [[All Men Are Lustful]] subtext; apparently all you need to do is show up wearing nothing but a trenchcoat.</ref> Along with hacking into his Facebook profile, defacing his car with a sticker, ruining his next date, stealing his remotes, make him think he got you pregnant, and burning your names (inside a big heart) onto his lawn.▼
{{quote|'''Commenter:''' Or you could just grow up and not handle things like a child. Jesus, Cosmo, what's wrong with you?}}▼
** ''Cracked.com'' has an article mocking this tendency in ''Cosmo''; see [[#Web Original|Web Original below]].▼
== [[Live-Action TV]] ==
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* Averted on a M*A*S*H episode in which Margaret thinks she might be pregnant. In one scene, Margaret says that it's all her husband's fault. Hawkeye replies that he wouldn't blame it ''all'' on her husband, since Margaret was "probably there when it happened."
==
▲* Intentionally [[Invoked Trope|invoked]] in ''[[The Belgariad]]'', as the main characters engage in a [[Running Gag|long running exchange]] of witty banter over the "fairness" of which gender gets to do which things, complete with an informal scoring system for particularly telling jibes.
▲* In one of the ''Warhammer'' books about Malus Darkblade (Bloodstorm, to be precise), Malus mentioned in passing that a druchii woman could have as many lovers as she wished, while a male druchii was expected to be faithful. This example is especially notable due to the context - Malus's half-sister had discovered that her lover, Bruglir, was cheating on her. She got so angry that she literally became a living saint of the god of murder himself - and the first two times she appears, she was in the middle of her harem and having an orgy, respectively. Psychologically justified in that the overlord of the Druchii is the Witch King Malekith, who has a major Oedipus complex with his mother Morathi, who used to head up the largest Slaaneshi cult in the elf world. Malekith was born, and reached prominence, by his mother screwing the king of the elves. In short the entire kingdom of Nagaroth is built on the back of matriarchy, or rather the matriarch's penchant for being on her back. Other instances include only females are aloud to use magic, baby boys are rounded up for mass sacrifice one night a year, with the few survivors becoming assassins who are by game mechanic unable to lead their female counterparts. Strange how the evil elf races are always this trope in spades.
▲* Subverted in ''Last Night at Chateau Marmont'' by [[The Devil Wears Prada|Lauren Weisberger]]: throughout the novel, as Brooke and Julian's marriage falls apart, Brooke seems to constantly put the blame on how much Julian's career takes him away from home and otherwise causes him to neglect her. All while she insists on putting her career first by continuing to work sixty hours a week at two jobs, income from which they don't need anymore now that Julian's first album has gone platinum within its first week out. The subversion comes from the fact that she admits as much at the end {{spoiler|when they reconcile}}, acknowledging that she's guilty of the same thing.
▲* In one of ''[[The Princess Diaries]]'' books, Mia's friend Tina is dumped by text message by her boyfriend after she fails to return his calls, leading to her friends calling him a sexist pig. Granted, he broke up with her in an obnoxious way, but nobody calls her out for being rude enough to ignore his phone calls.
▲** She is indirectly called out to this, as Mia's mother says during a conversation that it is just plain rude to not return somebody's calls.
▲* The [[Anita Blake]] series practically runs on this trope after Narcissus in Chains. The main character has about 8 official lovers and sleeps with many other man during the course of each book, yet, except, Richard who's treated as the resident Jerkass, none of her main lovers are allowed to even look at another person, and she has dumped some lovers for being unfaithful. The author tries to justify with Magical Addiction to sex.
▲* Some people say that ''[[Their Eyes Were Watching God]]'' has this trope written all over it. [[Your Mileage May Vary|Your Mileage May REALLY Vary]], however, because while Janie ''did'' leave her first husband with another man and then condemned her second husband while he was on his deathbed, the narrative makes it clear that she was an extremely naive, too-romantic-for-her-own-good girl whose hasty decision to run off with Joe Starks was probably '''not''' the best of decisions considering that Joe Starks turns out to be an [[Crazy Jealous Guy|insanely possessive]] [[Jerkass]] who tried to [[Stay in the Kitchen|emotionally control her as a submissive housewife]], which also most likely indicates that her [["The Reason You Suck" Speech]] to him wasn't ''entirely'' unjustified. Plus, she never acted "bitchy" toward Tea Cake who mostly treated her like an equal (not even when she thought that he had left her or when he slapped her after she was set up on a date with another man), and the very fact that Tea Cake was shown to be a fairly decent and sweet husband ''should'' be a good indication that this book wasn't aimed at painting the entire male gender as abusive jerks. Any [[Unfortunate Implications]] here probably fall under [[Men Are the Expendable Gender]] or [[Her Heart Will Go On]] better than this one.
▲* In the ''[[House of Night]]'' series, Zoey initially was slightly hesitant about having a relationship with Erik because he had previously dated Aphrodite. This is after (A) she walked in on Aphrodite all but ''raping'' Erik (trying to force a blowjob on him while he repeatedly asked her to stop) and (B) it was made pretty obvious that Aphrodite and her friends made use of Erik and other boys in such a way. Zoey does hook up with Erik...and dives into a relationship with a teacher at the school, while rekindling a relationship with her human boyfriend. {{spoiler|At the end of the third book, we're apparently supposed to think Erik's such a mean guy for not being so kind and understanding that Zoey had sex with said teacher and just had "We share a bond" as an excuse.}}
▲* Averted in [[Harry Potter]] [[Harry Potter and The Half Blood Prince|and the Half-Blood Prince]]. After Ron found out that Hermione might have kissed a guy who asked her out two years prior while she was single AND getting told that [[My Sister Is Off-Limits|his overbearing watchdog tendencies about his sister]] where due to his own inexperience with girls, he gets into an extremely shallow relationship with basically the first girl to give him the time of day, largely out of spite. He is portrayed as insensitive and, giving how publicly he flaunts the relationship, pretty hypocritical, and quickly gets his own comeuppance by means of [[Clingy Jealous Girl|his “girlfriend” being utterly insufferable]]. Hermione [[Operation: Jealousy|attempts to retaliate]] by asking out the [[Jerk Jock]] who had been eyeing for most of the book… only for the plan to implode immediately since she genuinely can’t stand the guy. Harry, and by extension the narrator, are quick to point out that they’re both idiots, though he’s slightly more overtly critical of Hermione, possibly owing to the fact that Ron was being an impulsive idiot who didn’t think things through, whereas Hermione was being consciously and deliberately petty.
▲{{quote|'''Narrator''': "Harry was left to ponder in silence the depths to which girls would sink to get revenge."}}
▲** And note that this was written by a woman.
▲** Ironically, despite the book's point, a good deal of the fanbase blamed the whole shebang entirely on either Ron or Hermione. Usually Ron.
▲* Played with all the time in most [[Danielle Steel]]'s novels. It is played straight whenever there is a [[May–December Romance]]. A villain (usually male, of course), is said to look ridiculous dating/marrying a younger woman, and the woman in question is always made out to be a gold-digging, airheaded tramp. Meanwhile, her heroines, can easily date or marry someone up to ''40'' years older with no one batting an eye. (In all fairness, her male protagonists are often granted this privilege too). But this trope is usually averted in the case of adultery. Usually no matter what, a protagonist and his/her True Love's adulterous relationships will be portrayed as good, while their cuckolded spouses will be portrayed as horrible excuses for human beings.
▲* ''[[Robert A. Heinlein|The Notebooks of Lazarus Long]]:'' From his "ingredients for a happy marriage":
▲{{quote|In a family argument, if it turns out you are right--apologize at once! }}
▲* Justified in ''Guilty Wives''. The four eponymous wives do all cheat on their husbands, but it's hard to really hold it against them. Abbie, the protagonist, did cheat on her husband Jeffrey, but he had been cheating on her for quite some time before the action of the novel began, and she knew it. Bryah's husband Colton had been abusing her. Serena and Winnie, it's true, did not have such good excuses. Even so, the revenge that their husbands take is so out of proportion that you can't really hate the four women.
▲== Magazines ==
▲* ''Cosmopolitan'' magazine and others like it ''run'' on this trope. Some examples:
▲** [http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/relationship-advice/how-to-tell-if-a-guy-is-cheating This] article offers some signs that the reader should note to tell whether their partner is cheating. They range from more-or-less reasonable to being rather paranoid, but all could have potentially innocuous explanations outside of infidelity. Take note, however, that number five on this particular list is "[[Hypocritical Humor|he becomes suspicious of you]]". While it is [[Truth in Television]] that one of the signs of being in an abusive or unhealthy relationship is irrational jealousy, the author apparently doesn't notice the [[Double Standard]] of suggesting that a man being suspicious of his partner's fidelity is itself suspicious in a list which is practically encouraging women to suspiciously micro-observe their male partner's behaviour.
▲*** Number 4. Wow, just wow. He is now happy because he is getting sex and attention. If you are ignoring your partner to the point where (s)he is depressed then I think you may be a touch to blame.
▲** [http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/relationship-advice/get-revenge-on-cheaters This article] offers some suggestions for punishing a man whom the reader suspects has been unfaithful (and note that the article is called "10 Things to Do if You ''Think'' Your Man Is Cheating", and ''none'' of the suggestions is "make absolutely sure first"). They include stealing his property, painful 'practical jokes' (including poisoning him with laxatives), public humiliation and, in the case of number ten, a good old fashioned [[Groin Attack]]. The lesson being, adultery bad (when the man does it), but assault, abuse and theft a-ok (when the woman does it). The article also begins with a leader about a prominent male celebrity who has recently been in the news for adultery, which says something along the lines of "we don't know the full story, but one thing's for sure; his wife's a frigging angel". However, the identity of the celebrity changes depending on which matter of celebrity adultery is most timely; at one point it was Tiger Woods, another Arnold Schwarzenegger, and so forth. Not only is the automatic assumption that, the man's adultery aside, the woman is an innocent at no fault in the relationship, but in only changing the the celebrity and wife in question the further assumption is made that ''every'' relationship is the same and the man is ''always'' at fault.
▲** A really interesting element of it is the contradictions involved. One article said that ''both'' being more affectionate ''and'' less affectionate (more because he's guilty, less because he's "busy") are signs he's cheating (both of which had the aforementioned abuse and assault as his "punishment.") I would be willing to guess that if all of those "Signs he's cheating" lists were combined, there would literally be nothing a man can do that isn't a sign of infidelity.
▲** And, of course, [http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/relationship-advice/revenge-ideas-ex-boyfriend-1108 it's fine] for a women to sleep with her ex-boyfriend's best friend, just to screw with said ex.<ref>This carries an [[All Men Are Lustful]] subtext; apparently all you need to do is show up wearing nothing but a trenchcoat.</ref> Along with hacking into his Facebook profile, defacing his car with a sticker, ruining his next date, stealing his remotes, make him think he got you pregnant, and burning your names (inside a big heart) onto his lawn.
▲{{quote|'''Commenter:''' Or you could just grow up and not handle things like a child. Jesus, Cosmo, what's wrong with you?}}
▲** ''Cracked.com'' has an article mocking this tendency in ''Cosmo''; see [[#Web Original|Web Original below]].
* Even men buy into this. At the end of R. Kelly's video for "When a Woman's Fed Up," a caption reads, "There is no such thing as a no-good woman, only women made that way by a no-good man."
* [[Beyoncé]]'s "If I Were A Boy". Really interesting is that while she has plenty of songs about no good, lying, cheap, using, cheating men, but in "Jumpin' Jumpin'", she pretty much says "go out and party with men not your boyfriends because they are well off" and that "your boyfriends should just accept it". At least the men get similar advice, which actually means that all the similar songs decrying men for doing so are even further hypocrisy. And lets not even get INTO Diva.
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* Shania Twain's "Any Man Of Mine" can basically be summed up like this: "I can and will cut your balls off if I want to, but you better treat me like a queen."
* This trope is averted with "Close My Eyes Forever", a duet by [[Ozzy Osbourne]] and [[Lita Ford]]. The lyrics concern a woman who has been unfaithful to her man, and she begs him to forgive her for her infidelity. The man, however, feels that he cannot trust her anymore and tells her to "close your eyes for me" (i.e. forget about him).
== [[Newspaper Comics]] ==
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* Subverted in ''[[Doonesbury]]'', when [[Cloudcuckoolander|JJ]] left [[The Everyman|Mike]] for scruffy bad boy Zeke, she was portrayed the entire time as a fool for doing so, for both her reasoning (She felt she had to "seize the moment" to acheive happiness) and for her taste (Zeke has never been portrayed as other than a [[The Slacker|dumb slacker]]).
== [[Theatre]] ==
* In ''[[Dreamgirls]]'', Lorrell has an affair with Jimmy Early, who's married. Throughout the entire play/movie, he is made out to be a total sleaze for treating her badly and sleeping with two (possibly more) women at the same time. However, Lorrell is shown in a strictly sympathetic light, despite the fact that she's knowingly and willfully engaging in a long-term affair with a married man.
== [[Video Games]] ==▼
▲== Video Games ==
* In ''[[Persona 3]]'', the protagonist's available Personas and their power levels are determined by Social Links with other people. For the male protagonist, reaching rank 5 with any female classmate will make the relationship "serious," and the game itself will warn you that merely ''seeing'' any other girl (regardless of that girl's current rank) will make her jealous, potentially stalling or completely breaking the link. In the PSP version's female protagonist route, this is not an issue; of the seven guys who can end up in love with her, only two (Akihiko and Ken) seem remotely aware of one another as rivals for her affection, and the only result is an [[Cock Fight|argument]] between them which is played for laughs.
** Note that that might have less to do with the double standard, and more because of gameplay changes. In ''[[Persona 4]]'', even though the same warning message appears, there are ''no'' negative consequences if you pursue more than one girl romantically at the same time. ''Persona 3 Portable'', which inherited many of [[Persona 4]]'s gameplay tweaks, likely inherited this feature.
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'''Man:''' At least a dog can be trained. }}
== [[Web Comics]] ==▼
▲== Web Comics ==
* In ''[[Questionable Content]]'', this is one of the main problems with Dora and Marten's relationship. She repeatedly accuses him of attempting infidelity, at one point giving him the third degree because he intentionally didn't mention that a girl had asked him out - despite that he immediately turned the girl down, and despite that Dora's workplace routinely has to deal with customers asking the staff out and she doesn't think that is mention-worthy. She also blows up on him for getting a haircut without consulting her on it, but when she gets one and he says he preferred her old look, she dismisses him. She also goes digging through his porn folder just to sate her curiosity when he explicitly asks her not to, yet expects him to respect her own boundaries. However, she ''has'' been called out on this behavior, repeatedly {{spoiler|and the last example is the catalyst for their relationship to breakdown; Marten, not unreasonably, flips his shit when he discovers her violating his privacy, and when they break up Dora is informed in no uncertain terms that she ruined a good thing for stupid reasons and needs help}}.
* [[Something*Positive]] features this fairly often, but it's spelled out best [https://web.archive.org/web/20140109065453/http://somethingpositive.net/sp11052004.shtml here].
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* One occurrence pops up during the wedding arc of ''[[Better Days]]''. Both the bachelor party and the bachelorette party hire strippers. When the girls find out, they are outraged and treat it essentially as the groom "cheating" on the bride. They don't see anything wrong or hypocritical about their own party choices, since they're convinced that ''all male strippers are gay''. (Exactly how does that justify lusting after them?) Eventually one of the male strippers call ''everyone'' out on their stupidity, explain the facts and force them to make peace.
== [[Web Original]] ==▼
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* ''[[Cracked.com]]'''s [http://www.cracked.com/article_19066_7-psychotic-pieces-relationship-advice-from-cosmo.html 7 Psychotic Pieces of Relationship Advice from ''Cosmo''] demonstrates how magazines like ''Cosmopolitan'' can take this trope to extremes. However innocuous his actions or behavior may be, the reader is encouraged to treat their partner with utmost suspicion and respond with over-the-top, vicious, humiliating and even ''abusive'' reactions. It also deconstructs them, by presenting them from the point of view of a man who's girlfriend subscribes to these attitudes—she comes across as a temperamental, unstable and paranoid psychotic.
* Inverted on [[Literotica]], where stories about cheating usually get the heaviest criticism from readers of the same gender as the person being cheated upon. Most of the site's users are male, so stories where women cheat on men often score two points lower than similar stories where men cheat on women. (And it goes even lower if [[Where Da White Women At?|they cheat on a white man with a black man]].)
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** This trope kicks in not with the video, but with the response to it around the Internet; the husband is apparently still in the wrong for "being rude" and "ignoring" his wife (when he didn't) and not telling her that he was talking to "Mike" right then. He ignores her, he's wrong. If he accidentally makes her think he ignored her, he's wrong. Any response short of "Yes, honey, I'll get it done right away" or "I'm playing with Mike right now, I'll ask him" is unacceptable. What's more, the alleged rudeness is apparently ''[[Moving the Goalposts|more important than whether he actually ignored his wife]]''.
* ''[http://everything2.com/user/iceowl/writeups/Things+I+need+to+tell+my+teenaged+daughters+about+boys Things I need to tell my teenaged daughters about boys]''. The entire piece is misandrist, but one bit in particular stands out. The list says that men are boring and their heads are "full of landmines and useless whining," and that the teenaged girl in question shouldn't bother trying to get into a man's head for ''at least'' ten years, and says that men don't have genuine interest in girls for another ten on top of that. Then it denigrates men for not allegedly being interested in what women are thinking and being self-centered. Also, young men are "frequently ill equipped to handle the emotions that arise from having sex." Nothing about young women, who can often be just as irrational.
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