Double Standard Abuse (Female on Male): Difference between revisions

* In [https://web.archive.org/web/20130926114258/http://www.fanfiction.net/u/109291/MyahLyah Myah Lyah's ''The Princess and the Frog'' stories,] this is very present, as Tiana slaps her husband's cousin for forcing himself on her, her husband for showing up at her mother's home and kissing her after she believed he cheated on her, her son's baseball coach for attempting to romance her while he was secretly married, and kicked a banker in the groin for requesting sex in exchange for a free loan, which was made worse by his being married to Charlotte. All for very deserving reasons, admittedly, so it could be understandable that none of them received any complaints, but then Naveen's mother lies to her husband about whether she wrote notes which successfully split up Tiana and Naveen's relationship and then kept this secret for 5 years, and when Naveen's father finds out what she's done, his only reaction is to grab her by the arm and briefly scold her. [https://web.archive.org/web/20191018222222/https://www.fanfiction.net/r/6160652/9/1/ And even this gets a comment in the reviews!]

{{quote|Your story is pretty good. The only thing is that the whole scene between Nagina and Kabir dropped the story down a couple notches in my opinion. I can understand a man having an argument with his wife, but for him to grab her wrist and attempt to intimidate her into submission was too much. Especially since the two of them had been acting very much in love at the beginning of the chapter. Two people in love to that extent could have a nasty fight but the love shared between the two would still be there. The dramatic shift from loving to hating was too abrupt and unnatural.}}

* The highly-controversial, flamewar-spawning ''[[Ranma ½]]'' [[Dark Fic]] ''[[The Bitter End]]'' portrayed an [[Alternative Character Interpretation]] of Akane which proposed that her violent outbursts, instead of comedy slapstick, were the result of deep-seated psychoses and possessiveness stemming from a massive inferiority complex. Not only that, but instead of taking the abuse like anyone else would take a light slap upside the head, Ranma was actually and seriously ''injured'' by Akane's abuse. And like many abuse victims, not only would he refuse to get away from Akane or even acknowledge that what she did was wrong, but his passivity would lead to progressively worse treatment. Eventually, {{spoiler|had Ranma go to a support group for battered spouses... which is entirely made up of women, most of whom can't understand why this strong-looking man is among them. Though Ukyo calls them on this, they stand firm on turning him away... until Ukyo reveals his curse, calling him the one guy who can truly ''understand'' what being a woman is like. After this, the group gradually warms up to him, especially as he teaches them self-defense and gives them another perspective on 'mens' minds'}}. "The Bitter End" is extremely well-written and [[Shown Their Work|well-researched]], and it is widely considered a classic must-read for being one of the first ''[[Ranma ½]]'' voices to speak openly about this delicate subject matter. (Though [[Fanon]] and character-bashing factions in the fandom, sadly, [[Misaimed Fandom|would take this interpretation and run with it as though it were canon]].)

* Inverted in the third chapter of ''[[The Last War]]''. [[Harry Potter (novel)|Harry and Ginny]] are presented as being [[Die for Our Ship|in an unfulfilling marriage]] in which she's unequivocally the bad guy, to the extent that Harry ''physically assaults her'' (and is still considered the hero).

* Both played straight and averted in ''[[Naruto]]'' fanfics. Played straight in that many authors regularly have Tsunade blasting off Jiraiya with [[Super Strength]] punches, normally sending him to the female onsen for even more of a beating, as a source of comedy. Sakura's treatment of Naruto, however, is often treated as abuse and she's called out by other characters or treated cruelly by the author for it, unless it's explicitly said that [[Justified Trope|Naruto allows her to do it as a stress relief, and he's too tough for it to be a cause of concern (as it's implied to be the case with Jiraiya)]].

* In the ''[[Death Note]]'' fic ''[[Fever Dreams]]'' many people just find it amusing when Misa stalks Light (or even consider him "lucky" to be stalked by a hot celebrity chick) and only when Misa gets really violent and crazy does anyone even ''consider'' calling the cops.