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* Played straight in ''[[Troll 2]]'': Holly and Elliot's relationship would probably have been handled differently if the roles had been reversed.
* Played straight in ''[[Troll 2]]'': Holly and Elliot's relationship would probably have been handled differently if the roles had been reversed.
* More or less played straight in ''[[Baby Boy]]''. Yvette (Taraji Henson's character), in a fit of rage, starts swinging her hands toward her boyfriend Jody (Tyrese's character). While one could certainly understand why Yvette's upset, what with Jody's constant cheating and lying, that does not excuse her violently wailing at him to the point of punching him in the ''eye'' really hard. So when Jody fought back after failing to restrain Yvette, he smacks her in self-defense, which anyone has the right to do. Of course, the movie unfairly paints Jody's actions as a [[Kick The Dog/Moral Event Horizon|Moral Event Horizon]] moment.
* More or less played straight in ''[[Baby Boy]]''. Yvette (Taraji Henson's character), in a fit of rage, starts swinging her hands toward her boyfriend Jody (Tyrese's character). While one could certainly understand why Yvette's upset, what with Jody's constant cheating and lying, that does not excuse her violently wailing at him to the point of punching him in the ''eye'' really hard. So when Jody fought back after failing to restrain Yvette, he smacks her in self-defense, which anyone has the right to do. Of course, the movie unfairly paints Jody's actions as a [[Kick The Dog/Moral Event Horizon|Moral Event Horizon]] moment.
* Discussed in ''[[In Bruges]]'', overlapping with [[Would Not Hit a Girl]]. Ray mentions the phenomenon, and notes that he himself would not attack a woman in self-defense if she attacked him first, unless she was armed. [[Chekhov's Gun|This later becomes relevant to the plot.]]
* Discussed in ''[[In Bruges]]'', overlapping with [[Wouldn't Hit a Girl]]. Ray mentions the phenomenon, and notes that he himself would not attack a woman in self-defense if she attacked him first, unless she was armed. [[Chekhov's Gun|This later becomes relevant to the plot.]]


== Literature ==
== Literature ==
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* In ''[[Tortall Universe|Terrier]]'' by [[Tamora Pierce]], protagonist Beka Cooper's first chase scene is with a woman who has doled out plenty of drunken violence against her timid husband and three children. The neighbors seem to believe this trope, wondering why her husband didn't just fight back, but Beka certainly seems to disagree, and when the woman is eventually put on trial, she doesn't get off especially lightly.
* In ''[[Tortall Universe|Terrier]]'' by [[Tamora Pierce]], protagonist Beka Cooper's first chase scene is with a woman who has doled out plenty of drunken violence against her timid husband and three children. The neighbors seem to believe this trope, wondering why her husband didn't just fight back, but Beka certainly seems to disagree, and when the woman is eventually put on trial, she doesn't get off especially lightly.
* In [[L. Frank Baum]]'s ''[[The Marvelous Land of Oz]]'', Jinjur tried to take over the country. She has a cameo in a later book, placidly explaining that she is content with her quiet life with her husband—and her husband is nursing a black eye because he had milked the cows in an order she did not approve of.
* In [[L. Frank Baum]]'s ''[[The Marvelous Land of Oz]]'', Jinjur tried to take over the country. She has a cameo in a later book, placidly explaining that she is content with her quiet life with her husband—and her husband is nursing a black eye because he had milked the cows in an order she did not approve of.
* Strongly averted in [[Misery]], because Paul Sheldon is so utterly helpless after being badly hurt in a car crash. And Annie is nuts.
* Strongly averted in ''[[Misery]]'', because Paul Sheldon is so utterly helpless after being badly hurt in a car crash. And Annie is nuts.
* ''Sisterhood'' series by [[Fern Michaels]]: ''The Jury'' has the Vigilantes finding out that Paula Woodley has had every bone in her body broken by husband Karl Woodley, a [[Complete Monster]] who is the National Security Advisor, [[The Napoleon]], and had the President himself as his best man at their wedding! So the Vigilantes go to his home and break every bone in ''his'' body! ''Collateral Damage'' reveals that Paula has been non-physically abusive (for the most part) to Karl, making him eat baby food and watch her eat a fine Southern meal, confining him to a few rooms, and taunting him when they do interact. By this point, he is wheelchair-bound, and he has lost his ability to talk. Female characters take Paula's side, while male characters seem to be uncomfortable with the whole situation (possibly because they are wondering if their spouses or loved ones will do this to them next!). In short, the series does its best to justify Paula's treatment of her husband. However, this trope is ''not'' justified for Maggie Spritzer's treatment of Ted Robinson and Abner Tookus. Fortunately, Maggie finally wakes up to the realization that she's been unfair to both of them and attempts to make amends in ''Deja Vu''. ''Home Free'' has her hooking up with Augustus "Gus" Sullivan, and she realizes that she can't ''take advantage of him'' the way she did to Ted and Abner.
* ''Sisterhood'' series by [[Fern Michaels]]: ''The Jury'' has the Vigilantes finding out that Paula Woodley has had every bone in her body broken by husband Karl Woodley, a [[Complete Monster]] who is the National Security Advisor, [[The Napoleon]], and had the President himself as his best man at their wedding! So the Vigilantes go to his home and break every bone in ''his'' body! ''Collateral Damage'' reveals that Paula has been non-physically abusive (for the most part) to Karl, making him eat baby food and watch her eat a fine Southern meal, confining him to a few rooms, and taunting him when they do interact. By this point, he is wheelchair-bound, and he has lost his ability to talk. Female characters take Paula's side, while male characters seem to be uncomfortable with the whole situation (possibly because they are wondering if their spouses or loved ones will do this to them next!). In short, the series does its best to justify Paula's treatment of her husband. However, this trope is ''not'' justified for Maggie Spritzer's treatment of Ted Robinson and Abner Tookus. Fortunately, Maggie finally wakes up to the realization that she's been unfair to both of them and attempts to make amends in ''Deja Vu''. ''Home Free'' has her hooking up with Augustus "Gus" Sullivan, and she realizes that she can't ''take advantage of him'' the way she did to Ted and Abner.
* Lampshaded in Robert A. Heinlein's ''[[The Moon Is a Harsh Mistress]]''. Manny explains to Stu LaJoie that a woman "can hit you so hard she draws blood; you dastn't lay a finger on her," and that this is because there are nine men for every woman on the Moon. The consequent intense competition among men for female favors means that men not only tolerate abuse from women, but will enforce its acceptance on each other. Attitudes on Earth are completely different because there is no huge sexual imbalance there.
* Lampshaded in [[Robert A. Heinlein]]'s ''[[The Moon Is a Harsh Mistress]]''. Manny explains to Stu LaJoie that a woman "can hit you so hard she draws blood; you dastn't lay a finger on her," and that this is because there are nine men for every woman on the Moon. The consequent intense competition among men for female favors means that men not only tolerate abuse from women, but will enforce its acceptance on each other. Attitudes on Earth are completely different because there is no huge sexual imbalance there.
* Subverted in [[The Underland Chronicles]]. Fairly early in the first book, Luxa slaps Gregor across the face and is immediately reproved - first by [[Cheerful Child|Boots]], then by [[Reasonable Authority Figure|Vikus]].
* Subverted in [[The Underland Chronicles]]. Fairly early in the first book, Luxa slaps Gregor across the face and is immediately reproved - first by [[Cheerful Child|Boots]], then by [[Reasonable Authority Figure|Vikus]].
* In ''Eclipse'' and some of ''Breaking Dawn'', Bella's attempts to force Edward to sleep with her are [[Played for Laughs]], even though the same situation with a gender reversal would seem horrific. Even amongst criticizers of the series, Edward's controlling behavior is primarily focused on, with the despicable things Bella does generally going unnoticed.
* In ''Eclipse'' and some of ''Breaking Dawn'', Bella's attempts to force Edward to sleep with her are [[Played for Laughs]], even though the same situation with a gender reversal would seem horrific. Even amongst criticizers of the series, Edward's controlling behavior is primarily focused on, with the despicable things Bella does generally going unnoticed.
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== Other ==
== Other Media ==
* [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gF6xNzMxUYY This YouTube video] shows how this trope is used in both TV and movies along with [[All Abusers Are Male]] and discusses how they affect people’s perception of them in the real world.
* [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gF6xNzMxUYY This YouTube video] shows how this trope is used in both TV and movies along with [[All Abusers Are Male]] and discusses how they affect people’s perception of them in the real world.
* Very common in [[Real Life]]. Men who are victims of domestic abuse often find getting help extremely difficult because the police and social services tend to follow this trope to a T. In some places there have even been rules that in the case of a domestic abuse call, the man is arrested even if ''he'' was the one who called for help. Abuse to men goes unreported far more often because men are less willing to ask for help, and the instances of abuse tend to be more dangerous because women more often use a weapon in the attack.
* Very common in [[Real Life]]. Men who are victims of domestic abuse often find getting help extremely difficult because the police and social services tend to follow this trope to a T. In some places there have even been rules that in the case of a domestic abuse call, the man is arrested even if ''he'' was the one who called for help. Abuse to men goes unreported far more often because men are less willing to ask for help, and the instances of abuse tend to be more dangerous because women more often use a weapon in the attack.
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