Like a Son to Me

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"Ever since I lost my son... I think of you as my own."

—Iroh to Zuko, Avatar: The Last Airbender

A common Stock Phrase. A character tells another that they're like a son or daughter to them, possibly even "the son I never had." Often subverted.

Compare Parental Substitute, A Father to His Men for military examples. See also Like Brother and Sister. A protagonist would absolutely kill to hear this from their "Well Done, Son" Guy, if they've got one.

Frequently a form of So Proud of You.

Examples of Like a Son to Me include:

Played straight

Anime and Manga

  • In Naruto, the titular character has two specific relationships invoking this trope.
    • The first is with his Academy instructor, Iruka Umino, who openly states that Naruto is like a little brother to him and becomes a Parental Substitute to Naruto in the first episode of the series. It's this influence in Naruto's life that has kept him from becoming a psychotic killer — like, for example, Gaara.
    • The second is Jiraiya, who often treated Naruto like a grandson. This relationship is later confirmed after Jiraiya's death by Iruka, who tells Naruto that Jiraiya was always bragging about him and had mentioned multiple times that he thought of Naruto as a grandson.
      • Of course, the more revelations about the backstory come about, the more Fridge Logic has the fans going, 'wait...Jiraiya was like a father to Naruto's dad, and is responsible for his name, and never appeared in his whole childhood?' 'Seriously, Naruto's dad took care of Kakashi after he was orphaned and Kakashi didn't appear in Naruto's life until the Hokage made him, and even then mostly ignored him?' Shinobi are bad at interpersonal responsibility. It seems to have something to do with a reaction to all those people dying.
  • In Fushigi Yuugi, Tamahome's mentor Tokaki urges him to leave with Miaka and the Suzaku Seishi as the building they're in begins to collapse, all the while telling him to take care and that he cares for his protegee like a son. As in most other cases, Tamahome's father was already dead when Tokaki said this, but what's touching is when Tamahome then calls Tokaki "father".
  • Lone Wolf and Cub: The very last panel of the series is of a fatally wounded Retsudo Yagyu declaring the recently orphaned Daigoro his "grandson of the heart".
  • Madame Red, Ciel's maternal aunt, in Black Butler thinks of him like one. This would save his life and cost Madame Red her life.
  • In the "Dragonball Z" anime, when Piccolo gives his life to save Gohan, he refers to him as "the son he never had."
  • 'Bleach: In the Soul Society arc, Yamamoto tells Ukitake and Kyouraku they are like sons to him just to emphasise exactly why he's he's not simply going to whip their hides for betraying him but will instead obliterate them off the face of the earth.

Comic Books

  • Apparently Norman Osborn thinks Peter Parker makes a better son than Harry.
    • In the Ultimate Six comic mini-series, the group (Only five at the moment) break out of a SHIELD prison and Osborn says they need to look for 'his boy.' When Otto Octavius asks where Harry is being kept, Osborn's response is: "What are you talking about? My boy's name is Peter."
  • Superman and Supergirl (at least the pre- and post-crisis Kara Zor-El, and Linda Danvers...it's confusing..) have this kind of relationship, which is fairly reasonable, since he's her much-older cousin.
  • The Ancient One frequently calls Doctor Strange "my adopted son" or simply "my son."
  • Nains with Lord Brum. He's a son of a whore and some unknown solder, and grew up as a slum urchin. In the Dwarven society, he was "of the Wanderers" — underclass not allowed to possess (not just own) "proper" weapons or learn (though de facto this may vary a lot on the exiles' territory). But he saved from brigands one old dwarf, who turned out to be an injured arms master from the Forge. Later they wound up travelling together, so Kalarum taught him armed combat and decided that since he doesn't have a living heir and Brum is a decent lad who also learned faster than his official apprentices, it's no good that a fine dwarf is screwed by circumstances of birth this much… so he gave Brum a runic weapon and taught him basics needed to pass for a dwarf of the Forge. After the old master died, the first time Brum was asked who he is, he proclaimed himself "Brum of the Forge, son of Kalarum".

Kalarum: You will be the legacy I leave behind, Brum.

Film

  • In Any Given Sunday, Tony says to Rooney, "You're like a son to me Cap, I'd fight for you till the day I die".
  • Carbon Copy

Nelson Longhurst: Walter, you were like a son to me. But as you well know, having a son can turn out to be a bitter disappointment.

  • Joshua Tree

Lt. Franklin L. Severence: I never said Santee was a friend. I said he was like a son to me.

Esteban Vihaio: Bill is like a son to me.

  • King Arthur

Cerdic: Raewald. You're second-in-charge now. Yeah, you're like a son to me.

  • In the Tower of Terror movie, this was the relationship between Sally Shine and Emmeline Partriage, her nanny. Partriage is shocked when Anna accuses her otherwise.

Literature

  • Molly Weasley referred to Harry Potter this way.
    • And he actually becomes her son-in-law.
  • In The Dark Tower, Roland feels this way about Jake.
  • In Jasper Fforde's Well of Lost Plots, Bradshaw is surprised by the news about Vern because he was—this trope.
  • Although it never actually gets said, Halt from Ranger's Apprentice thinks of Will this way.
  • In Teresa Frohock's Miserere An Autumn Tale, in the Backstory, John said, "You were my son" to Lucian before Lucian was dragged off for his crimes.
  • In the Warrior Cats series, Yellowfang tells Fireheart that he was like this to her - that he's more like her son than the cat she gave birth to, Brokentail.

Live-Action TV

Giles: Spike's like a son to me.

  • To clarify, that was a zany dream. Spike is not like a son to Giles. Xander is. And Willow and Buffy are like daughters.
  • Helped a great deal with Buffy, as her parents are divorced and her actual father is rarely around.
  • When everyone lost their memories in Tabula Rasa and started trying to reconstruct their relationships, Spike decided he was Giles' son while Giles seemed to think Spike must be his younger brother.
  • While never explicitly said, the relationship between the Mayor and his Dragon Faith definitely has the same father/daughter connotations.
  • Clem is this towards Harmony; he actually used a Reality Writing Book to make unicorns real, simply to make her happy.
  • Neal and Peter on White Collar. Oddly, Mozzie is the first person to point out the father-son relationship between Peter and Neal. In the third season episode Upper West Side Story, Peter is posing as a man enrolling his son in a prep school as part of an undercover assignment. Someone at the school asks Peter about his son. Peter doesn't have a biological son, so he describes Neal instead.

"He's very intelligent, but impulsive. His moves tend to land him in trouble...Well, I wanna give him the best shot at life. I know it's gonna cost me."

  • The Doctor Who episode "The End of Time Part 2" has a variation:

The Master: (to the Doctor) Oh, your dad's still kicking up a fuss.
Wilfred Mott: No, but I'd be proud if I was.

  • Sarah and Maria in The Sarah Jane Adventures. At the end of "The Last Sontaran", Maria is leaving. Sarah Jane tells her she's losing the daughter she had always wanted. *sob*
  • Supernatural: Even though he doesn't say it out loud, its obvious that Bobby loves Dean and Sam like they were his sons. He even tells Dean in the season 3 finale that, "Family don't end with blood"
  • On several occasions Al Bundy spoke to/of someone as "the son he never had"-at least once in front of Bud.
  • In one episode of M*A*S*H, Colonel Blake tells Radar "You're like a son to me." What makes this even more adorable is that at the exact same time, Radar says "Sometimes I felt like you were my father."
  • All but actually said in The West Wing with President Bartlett and Charlie especially when President Bartlett passes on to Charlie his family knife that has been given from father to son.
    • He also refers to Josh as his son in "Two Cathedrals".
    • Josh also tells CJ that Bartlet thinks of her as a daughter.
  • Implied with Martin and Daphne on Frasier, especially when Martin becomes lonely when Daphne moves in with Niles and tries to get Daphne to promise to visit more often by using the fact that Eddie will miss her as a transparent excuse. Also given a Sibling Rivalry-like turn when Daphne gets jealous of Frasier's new girlfriend Claire because Claire and Martin dote on each other and Martin clearly wants Frasier to marry her and make her Martin's daughter-in-law.

Martin: Her laugh's just like music isn't it?
Daphne (wistfully): You used to think my laugh was musical...Remember, Marty?
Martin: Yeah, but I'm used to it now.

Machinima

Sarge:' Grif, if you see Lopez, tell him I forgive him. Tell him, he was like a son to me.
Grif: I thought Simmons was like a son to you.
Sarge: No offense, Simmons. Lopez and I just understood each other better.
Simmons: Understood? He refused to speak English.
Grif: Yeah, and he ran away the first chance he got.
Simmons: And now he's trying to kill you with a remote control jeep.
Sarge: Ahhhh, what a little rascal.

Video Games

Sam: Now I am, little champion...NOW I AM!

  • Played from an outside point of view in Golden Sun: Dark Dawn, when Tyrell observes that King Paithos acts like an overprotective dad around his nephew Amiti, and even phrases it "he's like a son to you".
  • In the ending of Mass Effect 3, Anderson tells Shepard that s/he is like the child he never had. While it is a touching moment, it is unusual since several other sources state that Anderson does indeed have a son, albeit one that he's very distant from.

Web Comics

Grace: You're like a father to me!
Mr. Verres: ...But you're my son's girlfriend.
Grace: We're a strange family.

Western Animation

Subversions

Anime and Manga

Seto: Thanks. For nothing.

Film

  • What Happens in Vegas

Jack Fuller Sr.: You're like a son to me.
Jack Fuller: Dad, I am your son.

  • Kasper Gutman: I couldn't be fonder of you if you were my own son. But, well, if you lose a son, it's possible to get another. There's only one Maltese Falcon.
  • In Sgt. Bilko

Bilko:(lovingly spoken) Ah, Doberman. The son I never wanted.
*Doberman seems delighted to hear this*

Literature

  • In The Three Musketeers and its sequels, Athos sometimes calls D'Artagnan "my son" in moments of great affection, even after he has a real son.
  • An absolutely ridiculous example in Mastiff. Tunstall tells this to Beka . . . while trying to kill her.
  • The Voyage of the Dawn Treader: An untrustworthy slaver boasts that he will treat his latest set of captives—including Lucy, Edmund, Eustace Scrubb, and the young King Caspian—as though they were his own children. Lord Bern sarcastically replies, "That's likely enough to be true."

Live-Action TV

  • Subverted in the last episode of Blackadder Goes Forth, where General Melchett tells Kevin Darling that he's "like a son to him" - not a favorite son, though.

"Lord no, more a sort of illegitimate back-stair sort of sprog. Y'know, the sort of spotty squid that nobody really likes."

  • Parodied in Arrested Development when GOB refers to his son as "the father I never had".
  • In the Doctor Who telemovie, the Master claims Chang Lee is "the son I've always yearned for." The Doctor is not convinced ("Oh, please.") -- and moments later, the Master snaps Lee's neck.
  • From In Plain Sight as Rafael is moving in with the Shannons before marrying Mary

Brandi: So I guess I'm like the little sister you never had, huh?
Rafael: I have three sisters. All little.

    • Later deconstructed, impressively. One of the witnesses flips on his criminal buddies after they kill the "son he never had" . . . except the witness had a son, who he couldn't connect with or accept, and who was rightfully jealous of the son substitute. Their relationship is . . . messy.
  • From a deleted scene from Flight of the Conchords:

Eddie: Bret, I like you. You're like a son to me. You remind me of my niece.

  • On That '70s Show, Kelso wants to buy a great car from Leo. As they're about to make the final deal, however, Leo recalls that he had originally planned to give that car to his long-lost son and said that he couldn't bear to sell it, which Kelso can understand. Leo then immediately gives the car to Hyde, calling him the son he never had (as opposed to that long-lost son that he did have). Needless to say, Kelso was annoyed.

Music

"That snorkel's been just like a snorkel to me!"

Newspaper Comics

  • In the newspaper-comic Drabble, Norm makes his father a sundae, prompted this exchange:

Ralph: Wow, thanks, Norm! You're like a son to me!
Norm: Dad, I am your son!
Ralph: *clearly not paying attention, focused on eating* Oh, yeah huh.

Theatre

  • In Big The Musical, MacMillian sings of Josh, "My god, he's like the son I never had!" Josh notices a picture on MacMillian's desk and asks, "Who's that?" "That's the son I had," MacMillian replies.

Web Original

Hank: He was like the son I never had until I actually had one.

Western Animation

  • In one episode of Hey Arnold!!, Arnold makes friends with a baseball-loving millionaire who says he is "like the son he never had." Then Arnold finds out the man actually does have a son, and spends the rest of the episode trying to help the two of them find a way to connect with each other.
  • In Cloudy with a Chance of Meatballs, the mayor tells both Brent and Flint that they're like sons to him, but it is clear he's being insincere in both instances.

"And without further ado, our town's hero and my metaphorical son, Flint Lockwood!"

Glenn the Janitor: Ponce was like a son to me, probably because he was my foster son.

  • Phineas and Ferb: Doofenshmirtz's dad had a dog named Only Son that he considered like the son he never had, despite the fact that he already had a son (and would later have another).
  • The Disney Movie "Atlantis."
  • Carl almost says this to Meatwad on Aqua Teen Hunger Force while trying to get his ticket to the Super Bowl, but reconsiders midsentence, resulting in:

"Ever since my son was...never conceived because I never had consensual sex without money involved, I've looked at you as a... a thing I could live next door to, in accordance with state law. Now are we going to the Super Bowl or not?"

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